Does a "big strong alpha" carry things for a woman or tell her to carry her own shit?
These guys...
vs this guy...
20 Marriage Tips - WF's thoughts?
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Does a "big strong alpha" carry things for a woman or tell her to carry her own shit?
These guys...
vs this guy...
I think women that make men carry their purses should have their uterus revoked. But if I stopped and got groceries on my way home from work and you won't get your ass off the couch to grab a couple of bags then I might poison your dinner.
You gave it away that youve never been married, well not for long anyhow.
Thats the only clue lol.
First, if you can convince some "big strong alpha" to carry heavy things for you, I see no reason to desist.
Second, I haven't a clue what "bringing my female A game" means. And chances are, it won't be anything I'm interested in. That is, the typical female A game has no value to me.
Allow me to demonstrate...
I don't want you to feed me. I am a fantastic cook.
I don't want you to wash my clothes. I prefer to do it myself.
Why on earth would you be cleaning up after me? There is no need to do this. I do not leave messes - at home or elsewhere. That is how I was raised.
I try to avoid talking about sex on forums. Suffice to say unless you have something very special to offer, it's not a factor. I'm not one of these youngsters who has only been with a dozen women.
It does nothing for me. Wear it if you like. Don't if you don't. You could be a perfect 10 and it would still do nothing.
Why would you live on celery to not get fat? Seems like a masochistic diet. I eat tons of meat, tons of fat, and I'm slim (primal/paleo/not quite ketogenic).
Eat what you want. If you get to 300 lbs., I won't touch you.
If your car needs an oil change, drive to the oil change depot down the street and get an oil change. I recommend getting there early, right before it opens. You'll be home in 40 minutes.
If my car needs an oil change, I'll do the same. No whining. No tears.
See what I mean? Women offer very little that I want. Few women can sustain a conversation that explores areas outside family, friends, consumerism, entertainment, and emotion.
There's that hazy language again. I don't know what it means. I'm inclined to dismiss it as psychological tripe similar to "I always give 110%!!"
lol okay.
Mowing the lawn? Me? No. Gardener.
Fixing the blender? Me? No. Amazon.
Killing spiders? Me? Sure. Spiders and I have an understanding in my home. "If I see you, you're done. Stay out of my sight, and you'll live. Pretty simple. Tell your kids."
Dinner? Got it covered. See above.
Ironed shirts? No thanks. I prefer to handle it. No one I've met, male or female, irons clothes like I iron. Fast and flawless.
Hotel sex? Pass. Again, I have a lot of experience. And it takes a lot to entice me in this area. The promise of hotel sex isn't even a blip on the radar.
You seem to have created that out of thin air. Perhaps it started here when you said "I promise to let everyone think you wear the pants."
I don't need to be treated like a king at home. I am not the least bit interested in such treatment.
More flighty language. It means nothing to me.
I have never been "burned by shrew feminists." I'm reasonably intelligent, reasonably logical, and do not suffer fools.
Incidentally, I've participated in this discourse because I have time today. But playtime is over.
Some of the earlier arguments my wife and I used to have were because we never actually sat down and got on the same page about roles and responsibilities.
It never mattered to me who did what as long as someone did it. For us, it helped to assign the bigger level items. Since those first few years, we've gotten into a good rhythm. It's not perfect, but it's alleviated a lot of initial pain and keeps the "business" out of the romance.
If you're going to live your life in a partnership, it's a good idea to align your short and long term goals. And when you do that, you're going to realize that you can probably achieve those goals more effectively when you delegate which loads to carry.
I'm not arguing whether or not you'll have an easier time reaching your goals with a partner. I'm just saying that if you do decide to go that route, you're going to be better off taking advantage of the teamwork afforded to the both of you. After all, that's probably one of the biggest benefits of any partnership, assuming your partner is worth his or her salt.
Congrats to BGB for baiting Jake longer in a thread than anyone on wickedfire. I've tried and failed on several occasions.
A public thread cannot possibly do justice to the conversation I want to have with you, my friend.
Legally in this day and age its a huge risk to get married. Even with a woman who's willing to put in her fair share of work in the marriage legally its still too much of a risk. Its like entering into a business partnership with my best friend with the laws unfairly on his side. No matter how much I trust him I'm not going to agree to such a legal agreement that would screw me over if something did go wrong in our relationship.
In fact marriage is just a piece of paper.
I don't see why a long term relationship without that paper wouldn't work. I know some couples have done that.
I'm too young to make a binding decision on if I want to get married or not, but if I do it'll probably be in a country with fair divorce laws. At this point that's something I don't think about at all.
In the West its pretty inadvisable for men to get married IMO. I'd use the best friend analogy. No matter how much you trust someone, in matters of money you want to be legally secure.
The only exceptions I'd make is for my parents.
hahahha... at that original post.
Together with my wife for 16 years now, married for 7.
The secret:
- There is no such thing as telepathy
The amount of times I had to tell this to other couples (mostly the girl part) is astonishing.
"He should know I don't want to see that kind of movie."
"Did you tell him?"
"No? why?"
"He knew we had a date on that day."
"Maybe he forgot... did you tell him?"
"No? Why?"
"I would love it if he would loose some weight."
"Did you tell him?"
"No? Why?"
For fucks sake!
Between my wife and me, we call this "the bitch problem".
You don't tell your partner what you want, any ensuing troubles are a bitch problem.
Most things can be worked out easily, but I have seen long year partnerships die because of the bitch problem. Over things that would not even get me or my wife worried.
And to add to this:
We honor this ourselves. This behaviour gets neither of us anywhere with the other, but to some ribbing that does not end for a few days. That's how ridiculous it is.
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Together with my wife for 16 years now, married for 7.
The secret:
- There is no such thing as telepathy
The amount of times I had to tell this to other couples (mostly the girl part) is astonishing.
"He should know I don't want to see that kind of movie."
"Did you tell him?"
"No? why?"
"He knew we had a date on that day."
"Maybe he forgot... did you tell him?"
"No? Why?"
"I would love it if he would loose some weight."
"Did you tell him?"
"No? Why?"
For fucks sake!
Between my wife and me, we call this "the bitch problem".
You don't tell your partner what you want, any ensuing troubles are a bitch problem.
Most things can be worked out easily, but I have seen long year partnerships die because of the bitch problem. Over things that would not even get me or my wife worried.
And to add to this:
We honor this ourselves. This behaviour gets neither of us anywhere with the other, but to some ribbing that does not end for a few days. That's how ridiculous it is.
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So basically... be a complete beta.
Got it - if a guy seriously wrote this he should have his manhood revoked.
The only thing to agree with is the argue in public thing - there's no need to have a shouting contest with her; this goes in all circumstances. Just shut up and let her mouth off for a few minutes - she'll cool down after. This applies both ways btw.
That last point shouldn't even need to be said xD
Ninjaedit: emp's got this
