So it's idiocy to think the state has existed in the same form always
It has always been a delusion. It has always featured monopoly. It has always handed out privilege, and it has always enforced its mandate via force.
The stuff you're talking about are details. Like if we compared a white rose and a red rose. They are both still roses. Yes one is monarchical, and one is democratic, but they are both states, and they operate the same way.
The illusion that you control or have a say in the delusion is why democracy is so deliciously amazing. It suckers in people, prevents revolts with a regular election cycle that really doesn't change anything, and the politically privileged continue to get what they want at the expense of the common man.
As for whether you and I have influence - you may not, but I feel I do. (I was part of a group that was lobbying MPs to vote against entering the war in Syria, and we won and a consequence was that the Americans drew back too.
Correlation is not causation friend. There were people lobbying the other side and they lost. Are you arguing that you have superior influence over the political system compared to everyone else?
You are only powerless because you choose to be powerless.
Because I reject participating in the delusion, I wake up every day feeling like the most powerful man in the world. I feel like Neo at the end of the first Matrix movie.
You may feel that you have better things to do with your time
I can assure you I have better things to do than play make believe and beg for permission/forgiveness/obedience.
We actually create the state in real time by our individual decisions.
No, you create the state by participating in a mass delusion. You give form to that delusion by abstracting reality.
Look, I don't care if you have a state, you want to say it's your state, or you want to pretend you have any political power whatsoever. I don't care if you make laws, attack countries, outlaw drugs, and steal property.
It's your delusion. Enjoy it. Do whatever turns you on.
Just please don't ask me to also pretend it is real.