So my husband lives with another woman....

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Aniston said:
Hummm....prison doesn't surprise me. I created our business, website, concept, etc. etc. He lived off me all these years...he drove a hummer, lived in this house (that I found) he spent MY money, and he controlled MY money.
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If you created all this, you still have a valuable asset that nobody can take away: your skills. Get rid of the stuff that's a drag on your finances, move back into your parents' house and retrench. If you made 5K in a month, you can do it again. Stuff you buy can always be replaced.
 
Practical advice: sell your home, sell your expensive car, get some monies and live within your means.
 
Unarmed Gunman said:
It can't happen to me someday because I don't sponge off my girl. I make the money, and I pay the bills. If she lost her job, my bills still get paid.

So fuck you very much. You should have sold your car the minute you couldn't afford it.

I'd tell you to man up, but that won't work. Watch Oprah or something. Go find some other swinging dick to pay your bills. Sell your body. Just stop fucking whining.
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I love Unarmed Gunman's "no fucking excuse" attitude. tell me, you ever killed someone UG?
 
Stay positive, things could be worse... a lot worse. As down as you are, there are people who would literally kill to take your place.

Ramen and hotdogs are your friends, think like a broke ass college student :)
 
Which reminds me, I learned long ago never to get married, go in debt of any sorts or have kids. The 3 cardinal rules to life. :D
 
I heard that UG put a kitten in a tube sock and then beat a nun to death with it.
 
Ya'll are cracking me up! Yea...$0.99 pizzas & cheap beer...what else do I need?

JClem...Jon has emailed me...Never mess with Jon....never! :)
 
Hi Aniston.

Good job on selling the house and ditching the luxury car.
So you created the website, etc...
Shouldn't you then get the income from it?

I bet you still have the admin privileges / PW, etc..?

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Aniston: Actually, the "thinking like a college student" thing will really do wonders for all aspects of your life.
I haven't been in uni for a while, but I'm still thinking of all the 'social engineering' I did there to my own benefit that took me from being an angry disgruntled low life with no money to being an mildly frustrated, gruntled high brow wanker with too much education and some money...
(I should point out that being an Aussie, you can go to uni even without money. Socialised education for the win!)

amanda11 said:
Which reminds me, I learned long ago never to get married, go in debt of any sorts or have kids. The 3 cardinal rules to life. :D
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Puppies are like children that toilet train faster and never demand an Xbox

ChrisS said:
I heard that UG put a kitten in a tube sock and then beat a nun to death with it.
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I heard if you say his name three times into a mirror at midnight, he appears on your couch, and there's nothing but Michael Moore films on TV!!

(as left leaning as I am, even I think Moore's a bit over the top)
 
Your husband leaving is NOT the worst that can happen...

You still have 99% more than most people in this world.

- You have your healthy body
- You have your kids (that should now be the main focus and drive for you)
- You probably have parents that love you and will help you out
- You still have some friends that will stick by you (many will leave, expect that, this is the test of their friendship)
- You have the American government, with all its flaws, will provide some assistance
- You have many local organizations and churches that have support groups just for women that are in similar situations
- You have your soul, nobody can take that away even when everything else is gone
- You have God (or "universal force" for atheist liberals) that still looks over you
- You have your brain, and it looks like you know how to use it when you apply it
- You have past experiences to monetize on
- You have your FUTURE, that's where you should be, the past is no longer here, start dreaming/planning for the future you and your kids will have
- You have the power to cut off all negativity and sources that will suck you dry (your husband, other negative people)
- You have your kids looking up to you now, they don't know better, so be like the strong women that have come before you, stand up, be proud and take control


The one thing that will help you is focusing away from negativity and fear and everything else that is wrong (including your husband) and constantly forcing yourself into a daily habit of looking forward and making it through the day.

Cheers!!
 
You made some mistakes...probably not the first or last time. FORGIVE YOURSELF, forgive him (do NOT excuse the behavior and treatment, but forgiveness breaks several restricting ties to him), and keep moving forward! Re-read the list of reasons posted above about how your are better off than 99% of the people several times a day. Rest and mourn your losses.

NOW you are ready to fight and win back what you had (everything except him of course!) Set free your hidden strengths and slam the door in his face when he comes crawling back when she tires of him.

As fast as possible separate all that is financial!

The best to you and we look forward to watching you come back stronger, better, and hearing about how you are enjoying and controlling your own earnings.

You'll do fantastic...keep your eyes upwards! :)
 
Nickflame said:
sell your luxury car and your 600k house and move somewhere cheaper, at least temporary.
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She is probably upside down on both. That is why she did not do that.

But have you talked to a bankruptcy attorney? This used to buy you some time and you were able to keep either your car / your house or both. Not sure myself never did it.

If it makes you feel better a lost a shitload in the stock market in the first dotcom bust. But I was never paid with stock options or ended up bankrupt like a lot of people. I was about to buy more expensive house and wheels when I saw what was happening.

The bankruptcy laws have changed some but you should look into it. If you could keep the house and the car that would be obviously very important. You cant be a realtor in your mom's 15 year old Buick.

But if you just want a clean start I could see that too. But at least check it out so you know what you are giving up. As for the 7 years BK screw up your credit it will probably take you that long to fix all of this anyways.
 
Aniston said:
Our 600K house is foreclosing on Oct 7th, my car is 2 months behind, I had to borrow money from my parents and I am a 35 year old Real Estate Broker. I drive a luxury car and yet I can't fill up the gas tank.
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Precisely why I'm happy to live below my means and not overextend myself for the sake of impressing others. It's a shitty time for everyone in this economy. But based purely on the info you provided, you could have avoided a lot of this by being more responsible and forward thinking about your financial situation. I work daily with people in the real estate industry, and a lot of them are in the exact same situation for the exact same reasons.
 
Hey keep your head up.
One thing i've learned about life is that you can turn around ANY situation in 6 months to a year if you work hard and catch a few breaks.

Just keep on plowing forward and you'll come out ok .
 
Now I am wondering, even after I added some advice above, that this may be a poor attempt to get some free help here at wf. She hasn't posted much since she said jon emailed her, which could be what she wanted in the first place! I am not saying this to slam her, but it could happen.

We have had guys acting like hot women on here before for free advice! :)
 
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