Einstein, for all of his genius, didn't understand that the fact he had to make that rule list is exactly why his marriage didn't work.
There is nothing wrong with standing up for yourself, but if you think you're going to marry someone and treat them as your inferior, and it is going to be wonderful, good fucking luck.
What few functional marriages I have seen, usually involve a lot of respect both ways.
Going both ways, why would you marry someone you don't respect anyway?