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I'm in affiliate marketing for 4 months now and just started making money, now i love making money, but i'm realizing im just sitting in my house all day, i go out on the weekends w/ friends .. but i mean what do you guys do that have been doin this for a while?

im only 21 and guna graduate school soon, i dont want a 9-5, but i realize havin a job like that i can meet a lot of ppl

also to you guys makin money, how does that affect ur relationships w/ friends.. i come from a town w/ a lot of blue collar workers .. and friends that probably arent going to be making any serious dough, so when i see i made $800 in a day i feel like im the only one doin this type of shit
 


I'm from a smaller poor city(medium income is 30k) so I can relate. You'll lose LOTS of friends from it. They will spite you even if you don't talk about money at all. Its hard, you'll have to find the ones who don't get jelous, ect. Even if you don't talk about cash they see the things you buy. It sucks because you will want to do things like take vacations to far away lands, do crazy things, that nobody but you has money for. That'll make them hate you even more. Of course theres always the people who are happy for you, those ones are the shit.

This happened with about 80% of my friends from highschool. Most of them went on to work labor jobs.
 
Right now, I am trying to get rid of my social life.

My wife and I are constantly going somewhere, partying and meeting people.

As a true nerdy introvert, my people capacity is overflowing.

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All those activities you wanted to do/learn back in high school or college, now would be a good time to start.
 
As long as I have food, booze and toilet paper I can go two weeks without leaving my apt (other than an occasional walk around the urbanization with my dog or something).

Then I have a freakout, go out on a bender with friends, recover from the hangover, and do it all over again.
 
BigWill said:
I'm from a smaller poor city(medium income is 30k) so I can relate. You'll lose LOTS of friends from it. They will spite you even if you don't talk about money at all. Its hard, you'll have to find the ones who don't get jelous, ect. Even if you don't talk about cash they see the things you buy. It sucks because you will want to do things like take vacations to far away lands, do crazy things, that nobody but you has money for. That'll make them hate you even more. Of course theres always the people who are happy for you, those ones are the shit.

This happened with about 80% of my friends from highschool. Most of them went on to work labor jobs.
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Wow ...So Im not the only one going through this. Good Post
 
yea ^^^ that sound about right ... but i find it kinda shitty, like i feel like i have no one to relate to, then when i sit in my house all day i feel like im missing out.

like right now i feel like shit b/c i'm here makin money, my buddy works his ass off(only a summer job) but makes as much as i do in a day, it just kinda sucks b/c when i wanted to make a lot of money i figured id be around other ppl that are doing the same thing and we can do shit socially, but i cant see that happening here..

also the other hting i worry about is women, i dont have a girl right now, and i want one .. but at the same time i dont want to have a bunch of skanks comin at me just for my money .. u know?

edit: also i dont consider myself geeky or nerdy .. and i have crazy mad ppl skills, but when im away from ppl all day i lose that, but i just adapt to whereever i can make money, im in college, dont wanna get a shitty job, heard about affiliate marketing .. now i make money, but if i could do another job that id make the same amount of money but i had to deal with people ... id probably like that better

i also, hate the re-bill. i dont like screwing ppl over
 
What BigWill said...
Whether it's having almost no money, or having lots more money (than your friends), it's really where your TRUE friends are exposed.

If you're down in the dumps emotionally or financially, it becomes evident pretty quick who genuinely care about you and who doesn't. Same thing with money. The people who genuinely care will be your pal regardless of your income.

Money is a good filter for weeding out shit vs. real friends. ;)

But to stay on topic; I hang out with my friends on weekend nights, play Xbox, watch a movie or whatever. I also play guitar with one of my buddies.
 
I find that when I live in the city I can create whatever social life I want. All it takes to meet new people is to go out to a bar and chat with some people and be genuine. Or ask someone to spot you at the gym - boom, new acquaintance. You just have to be a bit more proactive about it because you're not forced into situations with those people.

Living as an expat I don't have to deal with the bitterness and the pressure to be "normal" too much, except when my mother calls me. Most people living abroad long term are a bit different from the herd.
 
BigWill said:
I'm from a smaller poor city(medium income is 30k) so I can relate. You'll lose LOTS of friends from it. They will spite you even if you don't talk about money at all. Its hard, you'll have to find the ones who don't get jelous, ect. Even if you don't talk about cash they see the things you buy. It sucks because you will want to do things like take vacations to far away lands, do crazy things, that nobody but you has money for. That'll make them hate you even more. Of course theres always the people who are happy for you, those ones are the shit.

This happened with about 80% of my friends from highschool. Most of them went on to work labor jobs.
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I don't believe that for a second. I think you choose to not be friends with these people cause you look at them and think they're idiots. Maybe its different where you're from, but I don't get jealous of people's money, and I don't think anyone around me does either.

Most of my friends from high school were idiots. They crammed themselves in to houses, sharing rooms with 10 other people and worked minimum wage jobs while being drunk/stoned literally 24/7. I don't interact with most of them because we have nothing in common anymore - I have nothing to talk about with these people.

I've run in to the problem of wanting to do things with "poorer" people who can't afford it. That sucks, and depending on the situation, we either do it anyway or we go do something else. Big deal. Most of the people I actually do hang out with are more important to me than "vacations to far away lands."

Also, keep some rich friends / AM friends / whatever so that you can actually take said vacations.

Edit: I don't make 7 figure either though. So maybe I'm totally misguided. Even if I did, I'd keep it seriously quiet.

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But to stay on topic; I hang out with my friends on weekend nights, play Xbox, watch a movie or whatever. I also play guitar with one of my buddies.
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Exactly.
 
I can relate to this too, I've been working at home full time doing AM for about 3 years now and this is starting to hit me bigtime. I've pretty much been going out drinking every opportunity Ive had for the last few years because I hate being locked up by myself in the house all day, but that's starting to get old now too. I literally just had probably an hour long conversation about exactly this with my ex 15mins before I saw this thread.
 
yea man .. its fucked up .. i just talked to my dad about it .. and hes like u make so much money doin it tho .. and i'm like yea i do .. but bein around ppl for the day i think is so much better

i'll prolly do am part time when i graduate
 
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