What should I have done?

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I was out this morning with the family at the donut shop. My family was already inside, I was outside cause it was freakin hot in there. I watched a cute little girl about 7 or 8 go to open the door and wait for her mom.

Her mom gets out the car and yells," Shut the door before I beat your ass!"

The girl just stares at her.

Then as she is coming closer she says "I said shut the damn door"

Finally she gets to the girl and says, " Girl you better listen to me next time I tell you to shut the fuckin door!"

I was glaring at her but she never even bothered to look my way. I don't know if she knew I was there or not. But all I could think was, My god if she's this way to her child in public, what is she like when no ones around?
 


This woman sounds black.

I'm surprised you as a good liberal didn't call Child Protective Services.
 
Well, the best thing you can do is change your facebook profile picture to one of your favourite childhood cartoon character because by doing that you will be helping to save this girl and others like her from child abuse.
 
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that's a tough call. i see stuff like that all the time but usually end up not caring / being too big of a pussy to say anything.

edit: not that i don't care, because it always makes me sad to see a child at such a disadvantage and with probably a bad home life. but i don't care enough to get into it with some fat bitchy peasant.
 
LOL. At first I thought she was talking to you and the little girl was embarrassed. Bitch. I bet she was wearing black lycra pants and sporting a big old moose knuckle. What kind of donut did you have Turbo?
 
Saw a Women yesterday. Her kid was crying for something and she kept telling her to Shut up. One Guy interfered, and she gave him the "F" bomb like she was Nuking Iranq... All he could reply was 'Hey! Its Christmas". She was Colored coincidentally. I have seen quite a few colored Mom who are Rude to their kids.. But I have seen whites too.

Some Kids are Difficult I agree. But there are Parents who don't deserve any KIDs. Maybe it was a Mistake, I mean the Kid.. burst condom or something. But if a Kid is Difficult, I think it is the parents fault more than the Kids, and he has no right yelling at a Kid...... A Kid is a Kid...

But yeah, Interfering in other people affair can be messy unless you are from some Govt Authority. Maybe if we could complain those things to some helpline..
 
Yelling is one thing. But if you saw her beating the child, then you can possibly call the police. You have to be careful with these things, which I know aren't always easy, but it's just as easy to wrongfully accuse someone too. You just never know until you see it with your own eyes.
 
turbolapp said:
Her mom gets out the car and yells," Shut the door before I beat your ass!"
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You could have taken note of her license plate, and notified the Child Protective Services, saying you witnessed an incident that indicates the child is being verbally abused. Once they have the plate number, they can find this mother who will at least know she's been given notice.
 
blogspotter said:
Saw a Women yesterday. Her kid was crying for something and she kept telling her to Shut up. One Guy interfered, and she gave him the "F" bomb like she was Nuking Iranq... All he could reply was 'Hey! Its Christmas". She was Colored coincidentally. I have seen quite a few colored Mom who are Rude to their kids.. But I have seen whites too.
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LOL that's not why I guessed that. What white people say "beat yo ass" and preface sentences with "Girl" this and "Girl" that? Poor parenting skills obviously run the racial spectrum, if it doesn't rise to the level of physical violence you can't really do much. But even then, what distinguishes a character-building spanking from assault? Do I want crazy leftists at CPS deciding that? Hell no.
 
Ok, so she used some "inappropriate" language against her daughter who was not listening to her. Not sure what the travesty is here..

So to answer your question, nothing.
 
hellblazer said:
LOL that's not why I guessed that. What white people say "beat yo ass" and preface sentences with "Girl" this and "Girl" that? Poor parenting skills obviously run the racial spectrum, if it doesn't rise to the level of physical violence you can't really do much. But even then, what distinguishes a character-building spanking from assault? Do I want crazy leftists at CPS deciding that? Hell no.
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Really, you can't differentiate a spanking between beating a child?
 
It's none of your business so you shouldn't do anything. Maybe if she was hitting her or something (not spanking). Then maybe you could of did something.

Either way I can tell the mother probably isn't the best mother, but we could use more sterner parents. Kids these days are shit heads.
 
Goals in providing feedback:

- don't get hurt
- make sure you cannot be held legally liable for anything you do or say
- make things better (long-term) for the child
- try not to make things worse for the child when she and her mother return home


My recipe:

Walk up to the mother and say the following...

"Listen. You're not gonna like what I'm about to say, but hear me out. I think every parent should raise their kids as they see fit. But the stuff you just did drives me crazy. So crazy that I have a popular blog where I out people for this. I just took your picture. You're about to say hello to the world.

"By the way, some of my readers would have called Child Protective Services on you. So, keep it in mind next time you treat your daughter like this. Have a good day."

Then, leave. You don't need a response. You just need her to start thinking. Plant the seed. Probably won't do any good, but it may just accomplish your goals.
 
JakeStratham said:
Goals in providing feedback:

- don't get hurt
- make sure you cannot be held legally liable for anything you do or say
- make things better (long-term) for the child
- try not to make things worse for the child when she and her mother return home


My recipe:

Walk up to the mother and say the following...

"Listen. You're not gonna like what I'm about to say, but hear me out. I think every parent should raise their kids as they see fit. But the stuff you just did drives me crazy. So crazy that I have a popular blog where I out people for this. I just took your picture. You're about to say hello to the world.

"By the way, some of my readers would have called Child Protective Services on you. So, keep it in mind next time you treat your daughter like this. Have a good day."

Then, leave. You don't need a response. You just need her to start thinking. Plant the seed. Probably won't do any good, but it may just accomplish your goals.
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++rep
 
JakeStratham said:
You just need her to start thinking. Plant the seed. Probably won't do any good, but it may just accomplish your goals.
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This is the main goal. I had a professor that when she would see parents hitting their child she would go up and say, "Wow it looks like you need a break, is there anything I can do?" She said usually it was enough to stop the beating and sometimes enough to embarrass the parent enough not to do it again, at least in public. The point was to stop it and to help socially chastise the parent. It's not much but it's something. I didn't feel like this situation quite warranted that and honestly I was too angry to have been as saintly as all that. Which would have ended up making things worse both for the girl and for my own kids, which is why I was paralyzed.
 
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