Dating multiple girls at once - Your thoughts?
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If you're on Facebook, distances mean nothing, chicks will creep and stalk and find out anything they want. It's also hilarious if you posted the pic of the chick you're still trying to get with. And always, always deny. Whatever she suspects you of, you're probably innocent. And as long as you've never put any labels on anything, you're not guilty of "dating two girls at once". You're simply "hanging out" with a lot of girls, which simultaneously makes you look like a boss and also lets her think she's got a chance. Put it on her and make her feel clingy and needy. Of course it's probably too late at this point, but just tell her you like her a lot too and don't have a "girlfriend". Stop trying to explain your ultra-nuanced thinking, it's pointless and will only make her think you're lying to her.
See and this is exactly why you don't post pics of yourself+girls on facebook. I used to do it but it only bit me in the ass many times over. Nowadays, I stick to one simple rule (OBEY): Kiss, but don't tell (on fb).
P.S. For "sharing" with selected gentlemen that have the same mindset, there's still whatsapp
I used to date 2-3 chicks on a normal bases, there is nothing wrong with it, girls are so fucking stupid, its beyond me, You can put them in the same room and they won't realize that they are dating the same guy, its too easy sometimes
Yeah facebook would have been my natural assumption, except I don't post pics of girls I'm just dating. Unless we're serious, no pics of randoms go up, so that's not a possibility.
I get that a lot of guys like the "deny everything, nuke from orbit" approach, but I like to hang my balls out and be 100% honest at all times. I'm not going to volunteer info, but if they ask, I'll tell. It makes things simpler, and I feel like it's way more alpha to say, "yeah, I see other people until we agree to be exclusive." If you know your own value, and it's high enough, there's no reason not to. I mean if you're balling with IM, in good shape, and relatively young, you have a lot of options. A girl with half a brain will know this and accept it. If she doesn't, well then you have to make a decision.
Anyway I'm meeting up with her this weekend. She admitted to overreacting, but somehow her info was old (ie she found out about the other girl before our 2nd date and before she made plans to see me again for date 3, because she didn't realize I broke it off with girl 1 a couple weeks ago). I still don't know how she knew, but I'll figure it out this weekend. Man, it's gonna be like opening a present because however it happened, the odds are insane and it'll be a great story.
You have to go further than that. Don't allow anyone to add you unless they are a friend of a friend. Don't let your friends add any of your girls, and if they do, block them both. Never ever EVER add a girl you're seeing.
Lock your phone, disable anything locked screen previews as much as possible. When you're around a girl, turn your phone on silent, and get used to placing it face down, so at 4am, she doesn't see the screen light up to a text message, and have a reason to be nosy. Leave your phone in your pants when she sleeps over, and avoid the usual routine of putting it on charge.
Lock any and all computers you have at all times a girl is around. Create a "guest" profile, and setup chrome on it to start incognito, so there is no browser history to accidentally uncover (this includes auto completion). If the girl needs to check something, let her do it on the guest profile.
Do not tell her where you work, and do not take her to work events. Colleagues tend to say the stupidest shit, and see nothing wrong with adding her on FB and taking sides (read, think they have a chance).
Avoid dating girls that live too close. Better to drive 30 minutes to see her, than to have her be able to drive 5 to see you. She doesn't have a car? Even better.
