Ever just feel dejected?
- Thread starter Michael_
- Start date
If your projects look like shit that means you're learning. I've discovered that more and more businesses look like shit to me too. I think it's part of growth and discernment. You are able to more quickly and easily see the problems with a business and know whether or not resources are worth allocating towards it. But on that note, try not to focus on the reasons why it will fail but rather on the reasons it will succeed. Anybody can look at the negative of something, and most people do, but to see the positive in something is of much more value in my estimation. Often times the things you think matter don't, and the things you don't think matter do.
In my experience most of the businesses I work on are never instant successes. They usually don't quite work on one level or another. There are usually problems with them or things that I didn't foresee before jumping in. But that's not a failure. It's usually something that will resurface or be reworked into another business at a later time. I've had some businesses that are missing 1 serious piece and so I let it sit for a year or so only to find that a year later that there is now a solution to that missing piece and the business finally generates revenue. It just depends.
It's like a huge puzzle of all your efforts and you're constantly building and finding new pieces and seeing where they fit. Most of the time pieces don't fit and you have to keep trying new things. Every once in a while you get a solid match and things work out very well. Sometimes you have droughts and sometimes you have surpluses. That's how it works and that's what makes it worthwhile. As long as you are moving forward your foundation is always growing and it will be harder and harder to fail.
I've always thought that that feeling of uncertainty, failure and rejection is always a liberating and valuable experience. It's as real as it gets in life. You're stuck with nothing but yourself and your own creativity to dig yourself out with. It forces you to really dig deep and come out with something completely outside of the ordinary. I get that feeling every once in a while and I love it. I think it is healthy to be there every now and again and to use it to fuel new and creative endeavors. I think the challenge and struggle is much more enjoyable than the end result. It is the process that counts. Usually when you feel like you are doing everything wrong and completely messing up you are actually closer than you think.
In my experience most of the businesses I work on are never instant successes. They usually don't quite work on one level or another. There are usually problems with them or things that I didn't foresee before jumping in. But that's not a failure. It's usually something that will resurface or be reworked into another business at a later time. I've had some businesses that are missing 1 serious piece and so I let it sit for a year or so only to find that a year later that there is now a solution to that missing piece and the business finally generates revenue. It just depends.
It's like a huge puzzle of all your efforts and you're constantly building and finding new pieces and seeing where they fit. Most of the time pieces don't fit and you have to keep trying new things. Every once in a while you get a solid match and things work out very well. Sometimes you have droughts and sometimes you have surpluses. That's how it works and that's what makes it worthwhile. As long as you are moving forward your foundation is always growing and it will be harder and harder to fail.
I've always thought that that feeling of uncertainty, failure and rejection is always a liberating and valuable experience. It's as real as it gets in life. You're stuck with nothing but yourself and your own creativity to dig yourself out with. It forces you to really dig deep and come out with something completely outside of the ordinary. I get that feeling every once in a while and I love it. I think it is healthy to be there every now and again and to use it to fuel new and creative endeavors. I think the challenge and struggle is much more enjoyable than the end result. It is the process that counts. Usually when you feel like you are doing everything wrong and completely messing up you are actually closer than you think.
^^This. I had 4 business ventures that failed this last year, and lost enough money to send both my kids to college. But, I had one venture that has turned out to be a great success. Your gonna kiss a lot of toads until you finally find that prince. Failure is all part of being an entrepreneur.
Thanks for posting this thread, it's kinda where I'm at right now, too.
When I get in this place I like to organize. Everything. My room, my notes, my finances, my schedule. I don't know why, but for me when I can actually see everything in it's rightful place I can get a little more perspective. It almost seems like when I'm disorganized I can't really see what's going on so I assume the worst.
When I see everything laid out, whatever it is, I can evaluate it and realize things are not as bad as I had imagined.
^Aside from that phaggy shit, I envision the success I want and reinforce in my mind that I am willing to do anything to achieve that. No matter what fucking happens, I'm getting out of where I am and getting where I want to be. No matter what.
And if all that fails, I write.
Somewhere between despair and torment I found something. The illusion of relief lay at the mercy of memory. Unreal. I'd come to on the floor, my phone cracked against the wall and rugburns on my face, with no idea how I got there but without a doubt that I was faced with the same thing that led me there in the first place. I wanted to die. I sold myself short for wisps of a dream that was no more real than the ideals I'd constructed for the sake of...
I left myself with nothing but a shattered mind.
I'm taking this back.
When I get in this place I like to organize. Everything. My room, my notes, my finances, my schedule. I don't know why, but for me when I can actually see everything in it's rightful place I can get a little more perspective. It almost seems like when I'm disorganized I can't really see what's going on so I assume the worst.
When I see everything laid out, whatever it is, I can evaluate it and realize things are not as bad as I had imagined.
^Aside from that phaggy shit, I envision the success I want and reinforce in my mind that I am willing to do anything to achieve that. No matter what fucking happens, I'm getting out of where I am and getting where I want to be. No matter what.
And if all that fails, I write.
Somewhere between despair and torment I found something. The illusion of relief lay at the mercy of memory. Unreal. I'd come to on the floor, my phone cracked against the wall and rugburns on my face, with no idea how I got there but without a doubt that I was faced with the same thing that led me there in the first place. I wanted to die. I sold myself short for wisps of a dream that was no more real than the ideals I'd constructed for the sake of...
I left myself with nothing but a shattered mind.
I'm taking this back.
Just keep your nose to the grindstone (no pun intended). Keep busting your ass every day. Work directly on the stuff that get's you paid. Dont get bogged down in busy work.
It wont be long before you're driving a sports car and banging a new bulimic coke head every night.
It wont be long before you're driving a sports car and banging a new bulimic coke head every night.
Every single failure is extremely valuable as long as you start looking at them as lessons - actually paying attention to these lessons just makes you better at what you do. You'll eventually apply all of these lessons to a project that will make you 7 or more figures.
I would only feel dejected if I weren't learning anything.
I would only feel dejected if I weren't learning anything.
coffee is for closers. you fucking hear me? im here from wickedfire, you call yourself a salesmen? the good news is your fired. oh, you have my attention now? good. first prize, Cadillac. 2nd, steak knives. 3rd is your fired. ABC Always Be Closing. The fuckin leads are weak. You're weak! Fuck you, that's my name. You drove a Hyundai to get here, I drove an 80K BMW to get here. One thing counts, the conversion. you fucking hear me? you see this watch? this watch here costs more then your car. I made 970,000 last year, how much did you make. you see pal, thats who I am. you are nothing. good father? fuck you go home play with your kids. you think this is abuse? you don't like it, leave. i can go out here tonight and make 15,000, can you? go and do likewise. get mad you son of a bitches. you know what it takes to sell acai berriez? it takes brass balls to sell payday loans. you wanna go out tonight and close. if not your gonna be shining my shoes. a bunch of losers sitting around the bar. i used to be an affiliate, tough rap. these are the new leads. these are the wickedfire leads. you dont like them fuck you. giving to them to you would be like throwing them away. i wish you good luck but you wouldnt know what to do with it.
I know it may sound weird - but take up a sport, or weights, or something else you can have success with in some way every week. Business is typically long term, and very much a rollercoaster ride. However, in the weights room as an example, you can get that extra rep, or lift that extra pound every week for a fair while.
The times in my life when I've felt dejected are when I have all my eggs in one basket from a success point of view, and something goes wrong for a day or two, or longer. I've become a lot happier since taking on some new hobbies I can get involved with on the side. Things where my success in them are completely independent of my business. That way, when I have a shitty day in the office, I can go do that, and have success with it, and all in all it balances things out a whole lot more, even if the hobby isn't "as important", it doesn't seem to matter. You feel better.
The times in my life when I've felt dejected are when I have all my eggs in one basket from a success point of view, and something goes wrong for a day or two, or longer. I've become a lot happier since taking on some new hobbies I can get involved with on the side. Things where my success in them are completely independent of my business. That way, when I have a shitty day in the office, I can go do that, and have success with it, and all in all it balances things out a whole lot more, even if the hobby isn't "as important", it doesn't seem to matter. You feel better.
While my view of success if heavily weighted toward monetary gain, it was more of a snide remark about how the majority of posters on this forum try to give off the persona that they are ultra-successful, highly-dominate alpha males who bench press cars, never fail, and never have a bad day.
But, judging by some of the responses in this thread, not everyone on this forum is a complete asshole - which gives me hope. :thumbsup: