So true... this is why that hot "Asian or White" girl you want to bang so bad only wants the BBC!
On a side note; this is the type of guy I envisioned this article resonating with the most:
Anyone here classify themselves as a Ghost?
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So true... this is why that hot "Asian or White" girl you want to bang so bad only wants the BBC!
On a side note; this is the type of guy I envisioned this article resonating with the most:
Jesus wept, that article sounds to me like the whining losers in the pub who sit around claiming they are really clever and could be successful, if only it wasn't for "The Conspiracy". So instead, they're going to "stick it to the man" by claiming welfare all of their lives and becoming an alcoholic.
The way he talks about it, you'd think women are a separate parasite species whose only purpose was to suck men dry until they were shrivelled up husks. Guess what? They're humans, with one chromosome different from you and me. THAT'S ALL.
Being human means this: 50% are a total waste of carbon, 45% are mediocre, 4.9% are cool, and 0.1% are fucking awesome. If you keep landing in bed with women you don't like, FIND A BETTER WOMAN. If you find that you are continually attracting shitty women, perhaps the common factor is to blame?
Also, there's absolutely nothing wrong with relationships. Or families. I can honestly say that having a child is one of the most awesome things that's ever happened to me. My daughter is one of the coolest people I've ever met (probably because she's similar to me and I'm a narcissistic egomaniac.)
Maybe I'm just too much of an old fashioned, stiff-upper-lip brit, but I've always found the idea a "men's forum" highly suspect. Too much whining, not enough action. Would Errol Flynn have joined a "men's forum?" What about Ernest Shackleton? No wonder these sissies can't attract a decent mate, and have to settle for bitching about the "matriarchal conspiracy".
The way he talks about it, you'd think women are a separate parasite species whose only purpose was to suck men dry until they were shrivelled up husks. Guess what? They're humans, with one chromosome different from you and me. THAT'S ALL.
Being human means this: 50% are a total waste of carbon, 45% are mediocre, 4.9% are cool, and 0.1% are fucking awesome. If you keep landing in bed with women you don't like, FIND A BETTER WOMAN. If you find that you are continually attracting shitty women, perhaps the common factor is to blame?
Also, there's absolutely nothing wrong with relationships. Or families. I can honestly say that having a child is one of the most awesome things that's ever happened to me. My daughter is one of the coolest people I've ever met (probably because she's similar to me and I'm a narcissistic egomaniac.)
Maybe I'm just too much of an old fashioned, stiff-upper-lip brit, but I've always found the idea a "men's forum" highly suspect. Too much whining, not enough action. Would Errol Flynn have joined a "men's forum?" What about Ernest Shackleton? No wonder these sissies can't attract a decent mate, and have to settle for bitching about the "matriarchal conspiracy".
I have relevant experience. I was voluntarily celibate for 18 months while I focused on more vital goals in my life and it definitely helped my progress. Having gone through that, though, I would never want to do it again.
True. I can agree that draining yourself by chasing sex is a serious loss. Maybe it's just my age, but sex is too awesome to give up without an incredibly compelling reason.
I have two major concerns in life: spiritual progress and worldly progress. Ultimately, spiritual progress is what matters and worldly progress is just something to do because I'm here anyway, so I might as well live deliberately and make the most of it.
I measure spiritual progress by the degree that I adhere to spiritual principles in my life.
I measure worldly progress by my ability to make money and have sex, and my ability to navigate the world freely (go where I want, do what I want, answer to who I want).
True. I can agree that draining yourself by chasing sex is a serious loss. Maybe it's just my age, but sex is too awesome to give up without an incredibly compelling reason.
I have two major concerns in life: spiritual progress and worldly progress. Ultimately, spiritual progress is what matters and worldly progress is just something to do because I'm here anyway, so I might as well live deliberately and make the most of it.
I measure spiritual progress by the degree that I adhere to spiritual principles in my life.
I measure worldly progress by my ability to make money and have sex, and my ability to navigate the world freely (go where I want, do what I want, answer to who I want).
i should. life was so much better when i was single. i was making 4 figures a day, i went to the top grad school for my major, i traveled to 30 countries, i was doing everything i wanted to do. i was continuously setting goals and achieving them.
it wasn't until last year that i got my first girlfriend. and ever since then, things have changed drastically. now nearly half my free time is spent with her. my productivity has gone to shit and so has my income. all my decisions have to take her into account. and i can't even travel alone because it will make her jealous.
i should break up with her, but i'm holding on to hope that i can live the life i want to live and still be with her. it's tough...
it wasn't until last year that i got my first girlfriend. and ever since then, things have changed drastically. now nearly half my free time is spent with her. my productivity has gone to shit and so has my income. all my decisions have to take her into account. and i can't even travel alone because it will make her jealous.
i should break up with her, but i'm holding on to hope that i can live the life i want to live and still be with her. it's tough...
I don't want to be a dick, but break up with her. Easy for me to say, and easier said then done, I've been there. It's painful, but it sounds like it'd be worth it.
Dude, if you're a person with real aspirations, it's essential that you learn to screen out weak, needy people and emotional vampires. Why on earth would you still want to be with this person? It sounds like you're both miserable.
Life is short. Too soon, you will be dead. Why waste 50% of your irreplaceable time and energy with someone who isn't a positive force in your life?
I recently read some Amazon reviews of Felix Dennis's book and the thing that resonated most was how relationships with women ruin productivity. He's like the ugliest most unpleasant motherfucker on the face of the earth so it's probably not an issue for him regardless but so true.
After reading the article I can confidently say I've been ghosting throughout my entire marriage. :thumbsup:
I dunno man, to be honest..a lot of ghosting principles resonate deeply with some of my own ideals. However, the truth is that the sexes are much more similar than we are dissimilar. Women aren't THAT much different (at all) from men and only the social constructs of power distribution dictate gender roles.
I read a crapload of those threads. I also purposefully read a feminist forum (fewer threads). I can conclusively say that men did not only display a more immature, physical rhetoric, but their arguments were based almost entirely on sex. I'm willing to bet quite a lot that at least half of those guys wouldn't be on the forum if they regularly had sex with a committed and kind woman.
The feminist forum was far more elucidating to me and gave me a more rounded idea of what was going on. Women were simply concerned with power and respect. They simply wanted to be recognized as human beings. Granted there are plenty of immature harlots but they were markedly less profane during their discussions.
Here's what I've gathered; avoid the following types of people:
1. Lazy, good for nothing buggers that can't get their fucking life together
2. People who are too far above your mental capacity or too far below (generally go for someone on your intellectual level).
3. People with a propensity for physical violence. This should be a no-brainer.
4. Very, very tricky but absolutely critical; avoid psychopaths/sociopaths at ALL costs. If you even suspect in the smallest way that they are psychos, cut off all contact immediately. Chances are rare you'll ever be in a relationship with one though (very fortunately, only 4% of the population displays true psychopathy).
Avoid those kinds of people and you should do okay. And no I will not abstain from sex, but I'm not going to chase it as it would be counter productive.
I read a crapload of those threads. I also purposefully read a feminist forum (fewer threads). I can conclusively say that men did not only display a more immature, physical rhetoric, but their arguments were based almost entirely on sex. I'm willing to bet quite a lot that at least half of those guys wouldn't be on the forum if they regularly had sex with a committed and kind woman.
The feminist forum was far more elucidating to me and gave me a more rounded idea of what was going on. Women were simply concerned with power and respect. They simply wanted to be recognized as human beings. Granted there are plenty of immature harlots but they were markedly less profane during their discussions.
Here's what I've gathered; avoid the following types of people:
1. Lazy, good for nothing buggers that can't get their fucking life together
2. People who are too far above your mental capacity or too far below (generally go for someone on your intellectual level).
3. People with a propensity for physical violence. This should be a no-brainer.
4. Very, very tricky but absolutely critical; avoid psychopaths/sociopaths at ALL costs. If you even suspect in the smallest way that they are psychos, cut off all contact immediately. Chances are rare you'll ever be in a relationship with one though (very fortunately, only 4% of the population displays true psychopathy).
Avoid those kinds of people and you should do okay. And no I will not abstain from sex, but I'm not going to chase it as it would be counter productive.
I can only speak from personal experience and even if I'm affected by cognitive dissonance, I believe Felix Dennis has a point. Obviously I have doubts in my opinion because I'm sure there is legitimately a handful of ladies that stick through the roughest times in your life. Women that are able to think long term and understand the situation. But who the fuck knows?
But from my personal experience, I've found having a girlfriend destroys productivity. Say I split my life up into sections. In the morning I can do a steady amount of work from 8-1. Then I have lunch. After I can probably work another 5 hours say from 2 -7. After that time, I have the choice to either be a fucking loser and watch TV or be productive. The only people that contact me are friends (who are probably working) and family (who know not to contact me till the afternoon). Now say you have a girlfriend, concentration is broken throughout the day having to answer text. Say she is super and doesn't need to talk during the day. Nonetheless, you're fucked in the afternoon, You have to hang out. Besides the loss of productivity due to time wasted. The real reason why dating someone ruins productivity is that subconsciously a lot of men feel that life is complete when they are dating someone. As if the aspirations to date a supermodel have diminished and the mentality of "well, fuck man, she's great, I may be poor but she loves me. Love will never tear us apart". My point being, that when it comes to hang out in the afternoon, as it usually does, you don't feel the need to work anymore. The "Life is complete" mentality makes you feel that shit can be put off.
Nevermind the fact that GF's are a huge fucking expense. You have dinner's, lunch's, valentines, birthdays, christmas and any other bullshit excuse to keep them happy.
As for as Ghost, I have to say WF taught me a lot about being a ghost. Logging in and seeing people rip on each other has been a great awakening. Knowing that having a personal opinion about someone being a cunt isn't the worst thing in the world. Fuck, I have so much more to say, but I feel like my glasses of wine have been talking more nonsense than logical sense...fuck...
Pewep, you know life is like a box of chocolates, you just never know what to expect. However, some people take their first bite out of that box of chocolates and they quickly experience the sweet, rich-velvety chocolate flavor on the first go. Others, keep biting into little pieces of shit nuggets. The individual who keeps biting into the shit nuggets and blames it on being unlucky and continues to be unlucky. The individual who keeps eating shit continues to do so until he realizes that the shit he's eating doesn't taste as bad as the shit before. Only then, does this person begins to eat the sweet, rich-velvety chocolate flavor. However, this person will never know the difference, because it was never about the chocolate but rather something else.
You put yourself through enough shit and you soon realize that the shit other people talk about is like a meadow of daisies to you.
As for my schedule? Build a Routine, humans aren't meant for spontaneity.
