Embrace Your Speed And Failure.

guerilla said:
Honestly, I miss working in the office. I miss the regular hours and the consistent faces. Sure, it would get old again after 3 or 6 months, but there are times I miss it.

The grass is always greener.

Take whatever you think an opportunity is, and double the downside and halve the upside and ask yourself, is this still something I want to do?

There is honor in failing, those who get it, get it. I'd rather work with a guy who failed than a guy with a PhD.
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I am loving the regular hours aspect of it. They are pretty lax on me leaving when ever I want/need so the office is a highlight.

I made a great decision in joining but it's a lot more difficult to adjust than I imagined.

Grass is definitely greener.

I don't say I prefer failures over successes, but I rather enjoy a lot of my failures because they tend to teach much more than the successes. It's usually easier to pinpoint the cause of failure than success.
 


guerilla said:
Honestly, I miss working in the office. I miss the regular hours and the consistent faces. Sure, it would get old again after 3 or 6 months, but there are times I miss it.

The grass is always greener.

Take whatever you think an opportunity is, and double the downside and halve the upside and ask yourself, is this still something I want to do?

There is honor in failing, those who get it, get it. I'd rather work with a guy who failed than a guy with a PhD.
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What about a guy who failed his PhD?

Seriously though, I see failure as a necessary part of success. Like the saying "all the greatest champions come back from defeat", or those tacky Nike ads with Michael Jordan, where he says he's missed thousands of shots - and that's what makes him the best. You have to take risks to succeed, and failure is inevitable with enough risk.

The first hurdle is having the guts to take the risks, the second hurdle that really sets people apart is having the guts to get up after those failures and keep smacking your head against the wall until it gives way, and you succeed.
 
blureach said:
I don't say I prefer failures over successes, but I rather enjoy a lot of my failures because they tend to teach much more than the successes. It's usually easier to pinpoint the cause of failure than success.
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That bit was directed at the OP. My bad for not making that more clear.

maybenot said:
What about a guy who failed his PhD?
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I hold academia in pretty low esteem, so if you fail your PhD, then you're a pretty big loser IMO.
 
guerilla said:
That bit was directed at the OP. My bad for not making that more clear.


I hold academia in pretty low esteem, so if you fail your PhD, then you're a pretty big loser IMO.
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Come to think of it I've never met someone who failed a PhD, but that's only out of the 10 or so I know of personally who did one. I see your point on academia, but there are quite a few exceptional people within it, or at least, part of it e.g. Daniel Kahneman.
 
Exceptional people generally do their work in the private sector, where they have to be accountable and compete with the entire world. Academia is like a subset of government, where everything is controlled and managed, and where politics plays a much larger role than performance. At least, that's my perspective.
 
guerilla said:
Honestly, I miss working in the office. I miss the regular hours and the consistent faces. Sure, it would get old again after 3 or 6 months, but there are times I miss it.

The grass is always greener.
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It's funny the grass is really always greener. Even when the other side was shitty. Our minds apparently have an amazing capability to forget all the fucked up things and focus on those few nice moments as time passes. Case in point, I often find myself fantasizing about times in the army and how I miss the brothership and the constant push of my bodies physical limits. Sometimes I wonder if in another reality I'd just sign that contract for 10 years. But truth is, overall it sucked hard. No sleep, always cold, no rest through the day, shitty food, no time to work on personal goals, a lot of idiots training with you whom you can't avoid, etc etc etc.

I've learned to embrace the nostalgia and understand it simply means that specific time you feel it for had a few bright spots here and there - however that doesn't even come close to being worth it going back there in most cases (this is especially true for relationships).

Hah I don't know why I went off on a tangent here, enigma gl ;)
 
"Until someone has paid their bills doing something, they're not an expert in it."


maybe, but there are a lot of volunteerism by experts on sites such stackoverflow, but I suppose they earn money at more traditional jobs, too.

and there are a lot of people making $ with internet marketing, but they aren't experts ( script kiddies come to mind)

The skill is knowing where your strong and weak and getting assistance to cover your weaknesses so you can focus on your strengths.
 
JoseArmando said:
It's funny the grass is really always greener. Even when the other side was shitty. Our minds apparently have an amazing capability to forget all the fucked up things and focus on those few nice moments as time passes. Case in point, I often find myself fantasizing about times in the army and how I miss the brothership and the constant push of my bodies physical limits. Sometimes I wonder if in another reality I'd just sign that contract for 10 years. But truth is, overall it sucked hard. No sleep, always cold, no rest through the day, shitty food, no time to work on personal goals, a lot of idiots training with you whom you can't avoid, etc etc etc.

I've learned to embrace the nostalgia and understand it simply means that specific time you feel it for had a few bright spots here and there - however that doesn't even come close to being worth it going back there in most cases (this is especially true for relationships).

Hah I don't know why I went off on a tangent here, enigma gl ;)
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These developments don't surprise me at all. However, I still think you made the right decision by moving to SF and taking that job. Great path down self discovery and now, come what may, you know what you don't want.

The only regret may be Intel. And that just might be my own, I really liked her. :(

Are you going to stay in San Fran?
 
@Barman I was the one who put bob Slidell because the tags were so fucking bad. Haha. WORST TAGS EVER.

@Turbo No I regret it too. She's great. I've woken up a few times at night because I don't want her to end up with someone who sucks, even if it's not me.

I'm going to stay in SF because I have a lease with a fucking 4k security deposit, and it wouldn't matter if I went back at this point I don't think. Seems like it's very done.

@Moxie You saw that did you?

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The upshot of all of this is I'm really back at square one. It's kind of refreshing in a way. I really want to start speaking again, ideally about more far reaching topics than SEO. Everyone I've talked to here has no fucking clue how they can market their stuff. Most people I've talked to believe you don't need marketing, and those that do believe you can just hack some little loophole to get 10 million users.

I'll post the relevant stuff here because I love the opinions I get that aren't from filthy attention whores.
 
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