Ever wonder if people like you for what you can do for them?

Just start putting a price on your time. Thats what I started doing, and you find out who your friends really are. You know, the ones who still call you even though you're not shelling out free info, or teaching them how to make money. I bill consulting at a very reasonable $150/hr, but if you wanna come over and shoot the shit about anything other than business, I'll buy the beer. Keep business and friends separate.

Also try and keep your success on the down low, jealousy is a mofo. And at the risk of sounding like a sexist .. it's worse with women. Even people you perceive as "more successful" might have money problems, debt kills.
 


cheshire said:
Just start putting a price on your time. Thats what I started doing, and you find out who your friends really are. You know, the ones who still call you even though you're not shelling out free info, or teaching them how to make money. I bill consulting at a very reasonable $150/hr, but if you wanna come over and shoot the shit about anything other than business, I'll buy the beer. Keep business and friends separate.

Also try and keep your success on the down low, jealousy is a mofo. And at the risk of sounding like a sexist .. it's worse with women. Even people you perceive as "more successful" might have money problems, debt kills.
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wise stuff my friend, will try to use it.
 
BlueYonder said:
A writer friend I know for many years has a Wordpress-hosted blog that she's been keeping up with quality content for about 6 years. I had a look at it, and told her it's a PR5 authority site.

She didn't know what that meant, so I explained the basics of page rank, authority sites, SEO, developing domains, online branding, giving feedback on templates she liked, blah blah blah. I sent approximately 25 emails to help out, being that she wants to develop her online presence.

Then when I mentioned briefly what I'm doing, which is running a thriving business in the middle of a horrible recession, and asked what she thinks of my little enterprise - the emails stopped.

It feels like all she was cared about was info relevant to her, and has no interest in what I'm doing or how I apply the info I told her to my work. I suppose I'm guilty of being overly available and accommodating.

Maybe she was using me for info, or maybe not, but I certainly let her. Perhaps if I were writing a novel, and not online ads for cash, she'd be interested in my work. :(

Do you ever feel that people are using you for info? If I wanted to be nasty I could drop links at her site without telling her why it matters.
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You're thinking about it too much. Chances are, she skimmed over it and it went over her head.
 
Is it possible that maybe the emails stopped because she was abducted at an interstate truck stop, bound and gagged while being forced to perform unspeakable acts, then finally cut up into small pieces and discarded along an old abandoned mine access road? Or maybe she's just hatin'.
 
There are those that help and there are those that need help...

I prefer to be the former ;)

and I am sorry to say the reality today is "Yes" there are many more people that will like you for what you can do for them.

Remember it's always your choice so keep on helping those in need...

KARMA keeps things balanced :yin-yang:
 
cheshire said:
Just start putting a price on your time. Thats what I started doing, and you find out who your friends really are. You know, the ones who still call you even though you're not shelling out free info, or teaching them how to make money. I bill consulting at a very reasonable $150/hr, but if you wanna come over and shoot the shit about anything other than business, I'll buy the beer. Keep business and friends separate.
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Could not agree more.

I enjoy talking about Internet marketing, helping people with their ridiculous web sites, but have found that because a) I am enthusiastic about the subject and b) it is a newer category of knowledge, unlike being a dentist etc. people often feel like they can get lots of free info from you and it isn't really a business relationship or something they should hire you to do professionally for them.

I've been trying to force myself to "sell" consulting more and give away the knowledge less. Hard to do though.

Real friends show up with a 6 pack and like Cheshire says, that makes their hourly rate about $4-$9 vs. the non-friends rate.
 
Someone I don't really know - just a person who "friended" me on FB - asked for a full course on getting traffic to his blog yesterday. I gave him a list of things to Google and told him to educate himself. No more getting sucked dry for info, kthanksbye.

Another person who has a regular FB pity party that I tried to help seems annoyed by me, so I'm through being the helper. It seems that if you don't value your time, nobody else will no matter how much info you have.
 
BlueYonder said:
I am a chick
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Being a human is playing the most elaborate game of tit for tat ever.

Don't give too many tits before getting your tats back.

Or, in your case.. don't send a full blown SEO/Branding/Online Exposure course before getting a backlink/mention/comment on the PR5 website.
 
BlueYonder said:
Someone I don't really know - just a person who "friended" me on FB - asked for a full course on getting traffic to his blog yesterday. I gave him a list of things to Google and told him to educate himself. No more getting sucked dry for info, kthanksbye.
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Why did you waste time on that person at all? Your still being a push over...

I would tell them to to fuck off.
 
Did you stop and consider that maybe "she" is just not a good "friend" and only in it for her and what she can get out of you. aka bad friend, drop her
 
Have you considered that maybe she thinks you're trying to use her?

Just reading what you wrote I assumed that you were giving her a bunch of information about her successful site and talking about how much you knew as a way to get a job out of her. Then you asked if she just used you for the info and I was like oh wait what? topic change :)
 
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