full time job + girlfriend = no internet monies

This is probably one of the only untrolled things I'm going to say for the next few months especially when I'm gonna get banned again, here it goes.

Everyone saying "dump her" or "disregard females acquire currency" obviously hasn't had a serious relationship. I don't know how your relationship was before you got into AM but if you guys been together for 3 years and she is upset about this it's pretty obvious that in those 3 years you've been giving her a lot of attention and she's not use to this busy you and having no time for her so hear her out. Especially that you're 29, which is the average age to get married and she is probably fantasizing about that idea.

I would have a long and serious talk with her if you really love her because she is not use to you not giving her as much attention. You guys should discuss your goals, her goals and what both you guys are going to get out of this AM life. Introduce her to tumblr that's what I did with mine and all she does now when I'm doing AM shit is lurk/post on tumblr or play Nancy Drew games



FUCKING COMPROMISE
 


I agree with Hack, good and serious answer.

knowing your priorities will make you walk your path, presenting them to your wife, will make your path fucked up. she always need to know that she is priority no1, even if she isn't, so make her believe she is, make yourself believe she is. promise her romantic trip in Venice when you earn some bucks, she's gonna love the idea and you'll have motivation to reach the goal...

good luck friend
 
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didnt see the word love in any of OP's posts, so if it's not love, it's an easier situation to deal with. Try and juggle, if you cant, drop a ball.

If it's love, try and juggle, just dont drop THAT ball. throw the other balls a bit higher.

I enjoyed writing that, I feel old. Time for shower.
 
whenever i feel like fucking i just go to amsterdam. otherwise porn is enough for me. girlfriends are a waste of time and money.
 
One thing that can help is living to learn with less sleep. I get home from work, then go for a run, and it's about 7pm. By the time we eat dinner and cleanup, it's 8. Spend a couple hours with the wife, then she's off to bed at 10 or 11, and I'm on the computer doing SEO voodoo until 2am or so.

It took me a little while to get adjusted to ~5 hrs of sleep per night, but now I don't even get tired during the day anymore.

P.S. If lack of sleep causes you any health issues like depression that leads to suicide, I take no responsibility for this idea.
 
galacon said:
Marry her and she'll leave you alone as long as there's cash in the checking account.
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Christ Almighty! I hope you are just being humorous. Probably the worse advice ever.

@OP: A woman can make you or break you. You are probably young so it is understandable why you are in a "serious relationship" with an emotional infant.

There are women who are intelligent, logical and will help you with the give and take necessary to make things work for the long run. Sure shes good looking and has a nice ass, but if you make a commitment she will become a fat and whinny albatross.

If you try "working around" your problem woman-child you will end up burnt out with a spoiled and demanding, self-centered harpy.

Find a woman who is smart, has interests of her own. You work online so if she needs to follow her career to a new location then you have the freedom to stay with her, but only if she's the right babe.

Don't concede what you value for a nice and convenient piece of ass.
 
@OP - Good luck my man - I hope all this works out for you. I can really give you one piece of advice - possibly in my mind the the most important piece of advice I can give anyone in this sort of situation.

==>In your relationship you are the most important person. <==

Make your decisions based on this, but don't use this as an excuse to be unloving or misogynistic.

You'll be fine mate - keep the dream alive :-)
 
punker barbie said:
she prolly logged on to your history and found some porn sites now automatically thinks everytime you are online you're looking at naked chicks
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it doesnt help that when im reading WF i tell her im researching...which is true, but if i stumble into STS and she sees overly large, hi def boobies....well it just doesnt add credibility to "im researching"...lol. but, i simply cant pass up a boobies icon.

since this thread is still alive, update... im moving out....i need my fucking space. EVERYTIME i sit down at the computer, i feel guilty. fucking productivity killer. to be clear, my AM goals arent the only reason, but im not going to get into too much detail here.

thanks to all that posted.
 
bloodvayne said:
it doesnt help that when im reading WF i tell her im researching...which is true, but if i stumble into STS and she sees overly large, hi def boobies....well it just doesnt add credibility to "im researching"...lol. but, i simply cant pass up a boobies icon.

since this thread is still alive, update... im moving out....i need my fucking space. EVERYTIME i sit down at the computer, i feel guilty. fucking productivity killer. to be clear, my AM goals arent the only reason, but im not going to get into too much detail here.

thanks to all that posted.
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I usually put a boobs icon to warn you
 
OP: Sound like you've made the right decision. If you're going to succeed with this (or any business), you need to be totally, irrevocably and completely obsessed with making it work.

Your woman needs to know that if she confronts you and says "it's me or the business", you will choose the business without a second thought. The same as if she had a child, and you tried to make her choose between you and the kid. A person who's right for you would never dream of giving you that ultimatum.

That doesn't mean you don't love her. It just means that you choose to make this whole IM thing an essential part of who you are, and she needs to either accept that, or you're not right together.

I lived with a girl for 5 years who had an "employee" mentality. She hated the fact that when I was with her, I was still thinking about my business sometimes. We split up, and it was totally the right decision.

I've been with my wife nearly 7 years, and although she gives me grief about work sometimes, she knows it's my way of life and respects me for it. (I think it helps that she has a career as a scientist she's equally committed to.)

If you wimp out and give up on your dreams just because she tells you she wants you to spend more time with you, you'll only end up losing her respect anyway.
 
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bloodvayne said:
im sure some of you have similar experiences?...
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Calender and schedule
You have all your time added up per week
40hrs fulltime work
15 hrs computer
8 hrs sleeping
3 hrs with girl friend
etc etc

Add it all up and come to an agreement with your schedule.
You may find gross negligence is happening.
Re-schedule and fill in the blank spaces.
repeat and fine tune due to everyday circumstances.
 
Hey bruh! Just give up on your goals and dreams. Spend all your time with her and work your 9-5 til you cant anymore.

^^^If that sounds more ridiculous than breaking up with your girl then...

YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO!
 
Bit late now, but heres the womans side of the situation:
You've suddenly got this thing that you do, that you want to do, all the time, that means you spend much less time with her. She feels neglected and creates crazy scenarios in her head of what you're doing and why. The problem isn't that you want to work on IM, its that she feels replaced by it, like she's no longer good enough and that you have more interest in other things. Her self confidence has taken a hit because you are so focused on your work and she feels like she's been moved into second place. Essentially, when this sort of thing occurs, it invokes the same emotions in a woman as cheating on her would - except she has the added pressure of being seen as completely unreasonable and that she should just 'stop' instead of dealing with her emotions and why they are happening. Something else is making demands on your time, energy, and emotional focus and that is a threat to her because she used to be the focus of all those things. This kind of situation will only be exasperated by pointing out that it is the 'business or her' because that then makes the threat very real.

The better way to try and resolve issues of this nature is to talk to her about it. Let her explain her feelings while you explain yours. Jealousy occurs when someone feels a need for something they don't have or feels that thing has been taken away from them - what is it she feels she is losing to your IM work? Is it time with you? Is it the quality of time you spend together because your focus is elsewhere? Has your sex life taken a dive because of your focus on work?
Emphasise that you don't have less interest in her because you now have more interest in something else and compromise in a way that suits you both. That could be taking weekend mornings to go out with her and suggest she spend time with her friends in the afternoon while you work. Encouraging your girlfriend to keep busy while you're working will help to keep her mind off things and help her realise that she can utilise the time instead of feeling uneccessarily insecure. Spending *quality* time when you are together will help strengthen your bond and put weight on the fact that you don't have less interest in her, you are just more busy sometimes. It can also help to talk to her about what you do when you're on the computer and why. Just knowing that is enough to put some womens minds at ease. You know when some girl gets crazy jealous because her bloke see's another woman occassionally without actually knowing anything about her? and then she finally meets the girl and realises she poses 0 threat to her relationship and everything is fine. Women's minds work weirdly, we create worst case scenarios all the time and sometimes those just need to be put in their place. I think its to do with the need to protect kids or something - it annoys us too so try and help the problem rather than destroying her self confidence over it. Hope that helps someone.
 
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