Getting Married/Marriage Expenses

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Why does everyone think they have to be sooooo expensive? Tell your women they wouldn't like it if you tried to pay for sex, so why the fuck should you pay for her love? $20k?? Are you kidding?!? If she wants "HER" day to be so damned extravagant, tell "HER" to fork over the cash.
 


Wow, this thread has received a lot more attention than I thought it would. Apparently marriage is a touchy subject around here. I know a lot of you have said to not get married at all, but how come? Many of you didn't give me reasons. I'm just curious if those comments are from people who are married and something is amiss, or if its just people who are saying not to do it just for the hell of it.
 
The Lunchbox said:
Wow, this thread has received a lot more attention than I thought it would. Apparently marriage is a touchy subject around here. I know a lot of you have said to not get married at all, but how come? Many of you didn't give me reasons. I'm just curious if those comments are from people who are married and something is amiss, or if its just people who are saying not to do it just for the hell of it.
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I was married for a week, semi arranged marriage lol
 
My wife and I almost eloped to Vegas because we both just love Vegas. But we didn't, and we were glad we decided to stick around and celebrate with our families.

I don't have a problem with an extravagant wedding as long as you arent blowing your life savings on the thing. Or, even worse, taking out a loan to do it. If you have to do these things, you're making a huge mistake. If you can afford a high price wedding, go for it. Even better, if the bride's parents can, since tradition has it they pay, not that anybody follow that anymore anyway.

I can't stress this enough, but get a good photographer. Don't go with the cheapest bozo you find. I've seen wedding pictures that were so poorly taken it's a joke. Make sure the guy shows you pics hes done so you can get a feeling for how talented he is.

Buy a rubber chicken so everyone can do the chicken dance.

Open bar is a must, don't charge guests for drinks unless you're really hurting for money.

Good luck, your life is about to be turned upside down from the stress of it all. Wedding are highly stressful for everyone involved.
 
Meh, $4000 wedding is a bit excessive. Just go out, have a nice dinner at Burger King and then file the paperwork for marriage at city hall.
 
It's not about marriage it's about people. You either find a good mate and have a good marriage and are blissfully married or you find a shitty one and make a terrible decision and are miserable and get a divorce.

I'm flat out bewildered by people who say marriage is hard, though. It's not hard at all and, if it is then: YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG.
 
Do not get married.

If you insist on doing it, do not get married without a pre-nup.

If you insist on doing THAT, then do not get married without immediately going to iTunes and downloading as many episodes of "The Tom Leykis" show as you can find and listening to them first.

That said, I spent $35K on my wedding. I got zero sex that night. It hasn't gotten much better and I don't recommend it.
 
Sharksfan said:
Do not get married.

If you insist on doing it, do not get married without a pre-nup.

If you insist on doing THAT, then do not get married without immediately going to iTunes and downloading as many episodes of "The Tom Leykis" show as you can find and listening to them first.

That said, I spent $35K on my wedding. I got zero sex that night. It hasn't gotten much better and I don't recommend it.
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Ouch.
 
turbolapp said:
It's not about marriage it's about people. You either find a good mate and have a good marriage and are blissfully married or you find a shitty one and make a terrible decision and are miserable and get a divorce.

I'm flat out bewildered by people who say marriage is hard, though. It's not hard at all and, if it is then: YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG.
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I couldn't agree more! And though it's been said a million times over... communication really is key. You have just GOT to be willing to talk to them about everything and anything. Doesn't mean you HAVE to talk it all to death - but if you're willing to, then when the time comes that it's necessary, you won't have an issue. If you can't imagine yourself telling your deepest, darkest secrets and desires to the person... you probably shouldn't be getting married. That, and including each other in the fun times... it's all good and well to have a girls or guys night out, but if you hang out with the friends once a week while only heading out on a date once a month or less, than something's wrong. It also helps when you don't get caught up in the mundane, boring, traditional dates.... go play poker, go to an amusement park, get in a food fight. You'll never forget the crazy times, and the smiles and laughter will bring you closer together.
 
riddarhusetgal said:
Damn! What's up with all these unhappily married men?! Not to diss you guys but if your relationship doesnt' work out, doesn't mean his won't. Also, I challenge some assumptions that are being made here:

1) Your sex life will go to hell. Who told you that? There are actually married couple's whose sex life get better through the years. Hell, maybe you guys need some tantric sex videos. Or, perhaps you need more open minded wives. Your wife should be as interested in pleasing you physically as you (I hope) are for her.

Get her some books to read, watch videos, role play, ask her to meet you at work for a mid day "snack" (wink.....)

Don't brain wash the guy into thinking his sex life is going to suck. If that doesnt work, do some kind of meditation or something...

2) You won't have fun anymore - huh?! Your wife should be your best friend. Did you have a LIST when you were looking for a partner? Yes I mean an actual physical list. I know I had mine!!

If video games, beer (light for the ladies, lol), gliders and rugby were your thing, perhaps you should have only "entertained" women who liked those things. Yes there are women who enjoy all those things - and look fucking hot in high heels doing it

4) Morals/Character. All this talk about "money". First of all, it's as easy to love a rich man as it is to love a poor one. What's wrong with a woman who wants a guy who is financial successful? Once again, if you did your "research" you'd look for a woman that had both character AND ambition.
A woman with good character isn't going to NOT spend whatever resources you have JUDICIOUSLY. I personally wouldn't blow $25k on some Manolos and Jimmy Choos or a Birkin bag even though I know my man wouldn't mind.

However, I recognize if I helped him meet some quarterly goals, not only would his income increase and he'd be happier, I could have those toys too!

LOL
In other words, the right ambitious woman combined with morals and good character to send your net worth from $XXX,XXX to $XX, XXX,X,XXX and beyond!

So please stop giving this guy a hard time.

Lastly, one thing you may want to invest in before the wedding is pre-marital counseling.

Alot of people don't ask themselves important questions until AFTER they get married. Such as:

Am I a largely traditional man or liberal - do I expect my lady to change once we get married?

How do I feel about child rearing, spanking for instance?

Do I want to live abroad or not and what about her?

Do I want a non-conventional marriage or not? (ex. some couples purposely take breaks from each other, let's say one goes off to take a class or something 3 months a year so both can enjoy their alone time...)


These are just my IMHO's. But I was hoping the guy heard the feminine perspective so he doesn't get cold feet!!!!
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#1 I'm not married, nor will I ever be out of personal choice (had one shot turned it down). Been single 2 and a half years and am in no hurry to get back into a relationship.

Women have this funny view of marriage. They act like guys should talk to them and this and that... but that's not what most guys do. I'm sure there's lots of great marriages out there, but for every good one there's AT LEAST (thanks to divorce stats) one bad one (although it's a little lower with a recession going on right now). Although that doesn't even take into account people staying together for the kids or financially.

So the best thing you can do is on your wedding day (or better yet before you pop the question) is flip a coin and get it over with right then and there before she can take half of what you got.

Look I've seen lots of guys in REALLY bad situations. A couple kids, and/or divorced, not even being able to pay their bills or have any money because now their former wife and/or kids are taking all their cash. Think it can't happen to you? Bull shit. We'll see how great you think getting married is then.

I've seen plenty of guys that their EX-Wife had them wrapped around their balls.

I've talked to plenty of guys who say sex gets pretty non-existent after marriage. I'm not saying it happens to everyone but damn, don't you just get bored after a while?

Guys bitch about their wifes non-stop.

In conclusion spare yourself the pain, the money, the torture and agony, and just say no. Statistically it's just not worth it. It's a better bet to take all that wedding cash and go to Vegas and put it on black (or red if you so choose).
 
Sharksfan said:
Do not get married.

If you insist on doing it, do not get married without a pre-nup.

If you insist on doing THAT, then do not get married without immediately going to iTunes and downloading as many episodes of "The Tom Leykis" show as you can find and listening to them first.

That said, I spent $35K on my wedding. I got zero sex that night. It hasn't gotten much better and I don't recommend it.
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So you're a complete retard and made a shitty decision. Why does that mean everyone else will too?
 
zero sex on wedding night? that's like epic fail. wedding night sex is like practically institutionalized. in fact, in many places you could probably get the marriage annulled the following day as it hadn't been consummated.

sucks for the peeps in bad marriages. not married here but adore my long-term gf; she's my best friend and lights up my life. sounds like you guys got w/ the wrong person.
 
turbolapp said:
It's not about marriage it's about people. You either find a good mate and have a good marriage and are blissfully married or you find a shitty one and make a terrible decision and are miserable and get a divorce.

I'm flat out bewildered by people who say marriage is hard, though. It's not hard at all and, if it is then: YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG.
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More true words have never been spoken...

If you are with your mate and you are fucking honest with yourself about whether your partner is right for you then there is no reason for problems at all. Marriage isnt hard if you're with the right person.

To the OP: Just get married like The Dude would. Hire out a bowling alley, mix some White Russians and party the night away. Come to think of it though, The Dude would never get married, he'd just help the woman fucking conceive maaaan
 
Sharksfan said:
That said, I spent $35K on my wedding. I got zero sex that night. It hasn't gotten much better and I don't recommend it.
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How do you NOT have sex on your wedding night? Seriously. I'm very fascinated to hear this story. What the hell else were you or your spouse thinking at the time? "Let's get some rest so we can wake up early and go to WalMart and buy doilies for our new house?"
 
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