Hoping this is a good place to ask...salary for an ecommerce manager?

That's much, much lower than the positions here and for the industry. I'm currently right outside philly and similar positions are $90k+ all day long, with quite a few reaching to $150k.

Not that surprising - over here, a decent ecomm manager would get $100->150k in London easily. As soon as you move to a smaller city, you'd be looking at 50k if you're lucky.