how would you deal with your child being bullied at school?
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I have to say having him take a martial arts class is an excellent idea. Not so that he can go around and beat kids up. He will learn self defense of course, but also self discipline and more important self confidence. Martial arts don't teach kids to beat people up. Maybe they have a short self defense class the two of you could take together.
My daughter took kung-fu for a couple of years and it did wonders for her self confidence, best thing she ever did. She was at school one day and a kid was picking on her and her friends, she repeatedly told the kid to stop and the kid didn't. They both ride the same bus home and after they got off the bus she through him on the ground and started pummeling him in the chest. She never had any problems until one day he was picking on a special needs kid on the bus, calling him names, writing on his backpack. She told him that was wrong and he better stop. He didn't and after they got off the buss he got a beat down. He asked her if she could at least wait until the bus left because all his friends were making fun of him. She won't take crap off someone, but neither will she start something.
My daughter took kung-fu for a couple of years and it did wonders for her self confidence, best thing she ever did. She was at school one day and a kid was picking on her and her friends, she repeatedly told the kid to stop and the kid didn't. They both ride the same bus home and after they got off the bus she through him on the ground and started pummeling him in the chest. She never had any problems until one day he was picking on a special needs kid on the bus, calling him names, writing on his backpack. She told him that was wrong and he better stop. He didn't and after they got off the buss he got a beat down. He asked her if she could at least wait until the bus left because all his friends were making fun of him. She won't take crap off someone, but neither will she start something.
One of my fears as my son grows up is that he'll be bullied in school. He's 3 now, which is why I tell him, "If anyone pushes you - push them back harder. If they punch you, fight back."
Whether that's good advice or not, I don't know... I don't want him to be a doormat.
I'd recommend telling your son, "Do whatever it takes to protect yourself. If you get in trouble for fighting back and defending yourself I will handle it."
Him knowing that you have his back will increase his confidence. When my parents told me that I'd never get in trouble for DEFENDING MYSELF (not starting shit) I felt bulletproof.
Whether that's good advice or not, I don't know... I don't want him to be a doormat.
I'd recommend telling your son, "Do whatever it takes to protect yourself. If you get in trouble for fighting back and defending yourself I will handle it."
Him knowing that you have his back will increase his confidence. When my parents told me that I'd never get in trouble for DEFENDING MYSELF (not starting shit) I felt bulletproof.
Ok confused.... (1) He's in gifted classes, but you wanna enroll him into jui jitsu?
So you're suggesting hiring a 12 year old hooker for him
Can't wait to see that on CNN
Does your kid have friends?
If not, find out what sort of extracurricular activities your kid can do to make some friends that go to the same school... preferably big ones.
If not, find out what sort of extracurricular activities your kid can do to make some friends that go to the same school... preferably big ones.
This. Bullies pick on those that won't fight back. If he's more trouble than he's worth then they'll stop picking on him.
Corollary: Words shouldn't hurt you but when they start throwing sticks and stones the gloves come off.
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Agree, I told my daughter if she got in trouble at school I would back her, unless she started something. She got suspended once for a fight. She was sticking up for her friend who was being bullied. Funny thing is her friend is a TKD black belt. I told her to have fun on her time off.
Wrong.
Most bullies don't wanna fight. They are only looking to seize power from people weaker than them. Once your son shows the lead bully he is willing to fight, my guess is they will all back down and go find another weak kid to pick on.
Exactly this. Bullies love to pick on the weak. Once that guy gets punched in the nose, and feels that pain, he's gonna move onto other, weaker targets.
This x 1000000
or Karate, or Kung Fu, or Krav Maga, or Judo... anything that's gonna teach him how to fight and build self-confidence.
If I ever have a son I'll put him into martial arts at the age of 1. I don't care if he can't walk. He'll learn to walk in a mothafucking dojo.
FYI, Georges St-Pierre was also bullied at school. One day his dad enrolled him in Kyokushin Karate, and then...
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I agree with most of the above - and I have 3 kids. I was bullied in junior high - but there is a distinction to be made.
If there has been no physical contact yet - then I'd recommend talking to the school. Find out their exact policy and ask them to tell you how each of these things is going to be addressed. You may also want to mention that you are a marketing expert and bringing things into the media is something you do ALL THE TIME and you wont' hesitate to bring the story of a school that refuses to deal with problem into the limelight. Hell, you got IM skills, use them.
If there has been physical contact press charges. Assault - even without battery - is a crime. Technically speaking if I walk up to you and I lay one finger on it you it's assault. Talk to the police officer at the school and tell him you want each event documented and that you are taking it very seriously and will be conferring with a counselor on what your options are.
And get a lawyer. Go big or go home.
If there has been no physical contact yet - then I'd recommend talking to the school. Find out their exact policy and ask them to tell you how each of these things is going to be addressed. You may also want to mention that you are a marketing expert and bringing things into the media is something you do ALL THE TIME and you wont' hesitate to bring the story of a school that refuses to deal with problem into the limelight. Hell, you got IM skills, use them.
If there has been physical contact press charges. Assault - even without battery - is a crime. Technically speaking if I walk up to you and I lay one finger on it you it's assault. Talk to the police officer at the school and tell him you want each event documented and that you are taking it very seriously and will be conferring with a counselor on what your options are.
And get a lawyer. Go big or go home.