Is Marriage Becoming Obsolete?
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That doesn't really say much since only like 5% of the population gets married these days.
Maybe we should have this conversation in our 50s and 60s.
From talking to older people myself. I get a much different vibe.
Im living the higher life and I know it. But its going to take another 20-50 years for some of you to figure out what you missed out on. Maybe I'm just lucky or smart. I got a hot smart wife, and she makes the household run like a well oiled machine. Shes got style, shes got taste, she gets along with all people and my mom. I make the monies. We both work on ourselves and on our goals together; and we made a choice to share our life (Its the biggest gift we give each other). Hard times or not, and we've had hard times. Marriage was our commitment, there is no backing out. Having a girlfriend for 20 years, is like leaving room for that just in case shit. That extra step just makes the ballgame complete. Its mental, specially for her.
There is some people that are just miserable, married or not. I know them, I've got a buddy whose wife loves to suck other mans dicks. Its like shes proud of fucking new man all the time. Marriage in not for her, I get it. It would suck to get unlucky with a wife like that. She claims after 8 years shes not happy and not in love; and now after 2 other relationships in which shes claimed she was happy and in love. The honeymoon stage is gone and shes on to the next guy (with a couple new one night dicks in between). Funny things is the divorce isnt even final yet. She now has some STD btw. Sad situation.
From talking to older people myself. I get a much different vibe.
Im living the higher life and I know it. But its going to take another 20-50 years for some of you to figure out what you missed out on. Maybe I'm just lucky or smart. I got a hot smart wife, and she makes the household run like a well oiled machine. Shes got style, shes got taste, she gets along with all people and my mom. I make the monies. We both work on ourselves and on our goals together; and we made a choice to share our life (Its the biggest gift we give each other). Hard times or not, and we've had hard times. Marriage was our commitment, there is no backing out. Having a girlfriend for 20 years, is like leaving room for that just in case shit. That extra step just makes the ballgame complete. Its mental, specially for her.
There is some people that are just miserable, married or not. I know them, I've got a buddy whose wife loves to suck other mans dicks. Its like shes proud of fucking new man all the time. Marriage in not for her, I get it. It would suck to get unlucky with a wife like that. She claims after 8 years shes not happy and not in love; and now after 2 other relationships in which shes claimed she was happy and in love. The honeymoon stage is gone and shes on to the next guy (with a couple new one night dicks in between). Funny things is the divorce isnt even final yet. She now has some STD btw. Sad situation.
Marriage is totally outdated. We should get our principles and guidance from animals because after all they are higher than us. If they can run about, so should we. Society works much better when families are broken and sex runs rampant. We can let the state raise the children and pattern our lives after what we've evolved from. After all, we wouldn't want to ever strive for something better or have to establish a certain level of responsibility in order to attain greater freedom. So much for all these outdated rules that brought society and decency. We're entering a new age, it's time to push aside all these silly concepts like marriage and instead fulfill our every whim. Rules are for religious people and we all know that is complete and utter nonsense. Marriage has never done anything good for the world. We need less people married and less people committed to each other. We need more people running from their problems rather than working through them. We're here to enjoy our passions, not to grow. Duh! Don't you guys watch TV?
I just don't get why you need marriage to 'prove' commitment to each other, it just seems weak minded to me, I think it's more of a commitment to not get married. I know I'll be with my girl for the next 20 years, just like the last 20, she feels exactly the same about marriage as I do, it's what the sheep do to fit in. People used to marry because they had to, we've moved on now, you don't need to be married to have a family unit, it's just a piece of paper. Must admit I would fancy a stag do though 
I just don't get why you need marriage to 'prove' commitment to each other, it just seems weak minded to me, I think it's more of a commitment to not get married. I know I'll be with my girl for the next 20 years, just like the last 20, she feels exactly the same about marriage as I do, it's what the sheep do to fit in. People used to marry because they had to, we've moved on now, you don't need to be married to have a family unit, it's just a piece of paper. Must admit I would fancy a stag do though
Yeah, I agree with this. I think the legal aspect is pretty much worthless. If two people really love each other they don't need to be officially married. It almost puts more skin in the game not to have the paper, because it is based purely upon principle and not money.
That said, I think the family unit and concept of a couple working together is entirely necessary. Whether they have a piece of paper or not is completely inconsequential.
I am happily married, but also think marriage is an outdated concept.
The only thing that I noticed change between the day before my wedding and the day after my wedding was my bank balance.
I don't need a marriage certificate to love someone, be in a committed relationship, or have children.
The only thing that I noticed change between the day before my wedding and the day after my wedding was my bank balance.
I don't need a marriage certificate to love someone, be in a committed relationship, or have children.
I that case birthdays, and most holidays are outdated.
What a waste of money. I dont need a big party to tell me I'm turning 28. What the heck is the point to any celebration. Because thats all a wedding is, a big celebration. Its a human thing.
I feel sorry for some of your girlfriends. I guarantee you shes been planning since she was like 4. She wont tell you that.
What a waste of money. I dont need a big party to tell me I'm turning 28. What the heck is the point to any celebration. Because thats all a wedding is, a big celebration. Its a human thing.
I feel sorry for some of your girlfriends. I guarantee you shes been planning since she was like 4. She wont tell you that.
Yes, but birthdays and holidays are celebrations without contracts that imply liability. This is a huge difference.
You'd understand that a woman who raise kids for 20 years, takes care of the household. Which is really fucking hard. While her husband is learning, working, investing, getting promoted. That its a partnership, and all is equal. You dont think she deserves 50% after he dumps her in her 40s for a younger hottie. With no work experience, education in some cases, to start all over.
A contract is only fair. Dont be a bitch and pay up. Sacrifices are made on both sides.
A contract is only fair. Dont be a bitch and pay up. Sacrifices are made on both sides.
Now.....
Statistics don't lie... however i think we can all agree that the average age for people getting married has been increasing as well.
Sooo....
You take a snapshot of time and you go "omg the number of married persons is dropping" rather than.
"Oh hey look... people aren't getting married right out of high school anymore."
Thats not to say that divorce rate hasn't increased (looks like it has nearly tripled) or that the number of married people hasn't actually dropped....
Just saying...
Think about all 18 year old men and women that would have been married in 1970
But those BORN in 1980 might wait until their 35 to get married?
They show up as 'never married' in this.
Statistics don't lie... however i think we can all agree that the average age for people getting married has been increasing as well.
Sooo....
You take a snapshot of time and you go "omg the number of married persons is dropping" rather than.
"Oh hey look... people aren't getting married right out of high school anymore."
Thats not to say that divorce rate hasn't increased (looks like it has nearly tripled) or that the number of married people hasn't actually dropped....
Just saying...
Think about all 18 year old men and women that would have been married in 1970
But those BORN in 1980 might wait until their 35 to get married?
They show up as 'never married' in this.
Rusky, I wasn't being clear with my reference to contracts. I will address that problem now.
When I sign a contract, it is because I cannot get what I want without that contract. For example, let's say I want my kid enrolled into a local montesorri school. Most of these schools (from what I've seen) have contracts that assign certain responsibilities to the parent and kid. If I don't sign it, my kid doesn't get in. So, I have to decide whether signing the contract is worth it given what I want.
It is the same when signing a contract to have someone build a deck on your home. It's the same idea when you "fill out" an application to an affiliate network. The app is a contract. Without it, you may not get what you want (good offers, timely payouts, drinks with the birdman, whatever).
Now, let's deal with marriage. It's a contract. You asked whether I think the female deserves everything you mentioned in your post? I dunno. It's impossible for me to tell since human interactions are complex.
The real question, given the contract of marriage, is whether you can get what you want without signing it.
Can you "get" love, affection, sex, kids, and great conversation for a lifetime without it? Of course. Can you get it with the person you have in mind? Well, that's another ballgame altogether.
This is the reason a lot of women issue an ultimatum to their guy. Marry me or I leave. This isn't good or bad. It just is. Some guys succumb. Some guys do not. And some find girls who are fine with building a happy life without getting married.
Again, human interactions are complex.
Personally, I'm not a fan of marriage. But I am a fan of making a life with one person with whom you spend your remaining days. People will be doing that long after you and I are dust in the wind. They may not get married to do it, though.
Fuck I'd never do that to my girl. Don't generalize. Sure it happens to some people, but that doesn't mean there needs to be a contract. If she wants it, fine. But that just proves that you don't trust each other in my opinion. Contracts are between yourself and bastards that don't give a shit about you like banks and car dealerships. They shouldn't be needed between two people that supposedly love each other. If you feel you need a contract then you should listen to your gut and find someone else that you can truly trust.
