Jealous of personality types?

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CerIs

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It’s easy to be jealous of someone money (or even wife) but recently I’ve found myself jealous of certain personality types. E.g. I just met a friend of mine who I haven’t seen I years and he told me how he just took off to Burning man, on his own, with little money, hitch hiking!

Plus we all have those friends who can just walk up to random hot chicks and start talking shit. Every time I look at these people I just think “personality type” and how they were probably just born that way (although not necessarily).

I would be nice though if you could buy changes in the way you think same way you save up for expensive car/gold fleshlight. Only way I’ve been able to achieve anything so far is “chemically” which is obviously not ideal.
 


Some are "born that way" in that they developed those traits early on in life, but you can do the exact same thing - it will just have to be more consciously than they developed it.
 
Their personalities were sculpted through life experiences since they were small. People aren't born cool.

Im sure they have some traits that are undesirable as well. The trick is to try and be happy with the person you are.
 
i used to be jealous of other people and how they were naturally gifted.

but now i dont really give a shit.

i used to ask a lot of my talented friends "how are you so good at getting chicks/being smart/etc?"

the #1 reply i receive is "i don't know... lol"

and then i realized that most people are just born with their talents or personalities.

then i just gave up on trying to be like someone else and focused on trying to be me.
 
Big Joe said:
Their personalities were sculpted through life experiences since they were small. People aren't born cool.
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gbmack said:
and then i realized that most people are just born with their talents or personalities.
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Not this.

Try to find out what kind of environment they grew up in and what/who influenced them early on life. Then you'd have a better answer than outright asking them how they pwn at life.
 
Have you ever looked into NLP - Neuro linguistic Programming?

A large aspect of it has to do with modeling behavior. Of course it's possible to achieve the excellence you see in others but you can't just mimic the way they act; you need to decompose the thinking strategies underlying what that person is doing.

If you tried to interview the person however you'd probably end up with the same response Gbmack gets, "I don't know". The behavior is unconscious - you'll have to observe the underlying processes yourself.

Theres no reason to be jealous of another persons strengths - and don't just toss them out as being natural gifts you can't ever emulate.
 
People's mind and personalities are incredibly plastic. Look up neuroplasticity. It is a constant battle for homeostasis though, so people usually fight change 'cause it's scary yo'.

People are born with a certain disposition towards things, and early life, society, and parents either encourages or breaks them of those habits.

Your free wheeling friend is not necessarily better than you, or more capable than you. You simply choose to not hit the open road and hang out with naked hippy girls. But he does. Sounds like you convinced yourself such a lifestyle choice is impossible, and are therefore jealous of his freedom (real or imagined).

You can also holler at girls. Go read heartiste.wordpress.com

Seconding the recco to learn NLP. It is a useful skill for yourself to learn new mental habits.
 
I get what you mean about the second part, but I don't see the hitch-hiking to burning man as requiring too much confidence? Just stick your thumb out, no confidence needed. And once you get there, you get a lot more people talking to you at festivals than in normal daily life.
 
when i look at my old friends from high school all I see is a bunch of drones slavin to work 9-5 at a mediocre job their whole life.

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they live the dream that keeps me up at night
 
Big Joe said:
Their personalities were sculpted through life experiences since they were small. People aren't born cool.

Im sure they have some traits that are undesirable as well. The trick is to try and be happy with the person you are.
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Word.

Personality is made from experiences throughout life, although you don't have to be contempt with the person you are. Many wealthy people would not be where they are today if they chose to stay the same.

...if we aint growin we dyin
 
juntao65 said:
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Not this.

Try to find out what kind of environment they grew up in and what/who influenced them early on life. Then you'd have a better answer than outright asking them how they pwn at life.
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Introversion/Extroversion is mostly genetic. They've done tons of studies separating identical twins at birth and finding that there is a huge correlation between introversion/extroversion regardless of how differently they were brought up.
 
More often than not the people you envy have serious downfalls as well, as mentioned above.

The best quote my dad always uses is: "EVERYONE has a story...EVERYONE"

Like Kiopa Matt said, age/wisdom teach you that people you would never think in a million years have the kinds of issues/problems that they do. Do you and improve you whenever possible, and let the rest fall in place.
 
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