Kevin O'Leary on entrepreneur sacrifices & relationships
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I'm with you G, no doubt. Men, just like women, can't get over on looks forever. But I think the dudes who can't easily pull the baddest chicks are naturally inclined to work harder at achieving financial success to even the playing field.
If a man can make a woman feel comfortable financially AND turn her on physically, he's more than good.
Balling isn't necessary for comfort.
A lot of "marketers", in particular here, forget that what people love is all that matters. The "why" is completely subjective.
Our job is to;
1. Fulfill their desires
2. Teach them about new desires
What I consider a "real baller" isn't balling for sex or comfort.
Bud Fox: How much is enough?
Gordon Gekko: It's not a question of enough, pal. It's a zero sum game, somebody wins, somebody loses. Money itself isn't lost or made, it's simply transferred from one perception to another.
Balling is a game you play against yourself.
Did you ever think that is his freedom?
What people may think of as "work" may just be life to others.
It is freedom. I'm pretty sure he does those because he wants to and not because he'll starve if he doesn't
He could potentially say FUCK IT ALL and he'd still be OK for the rest of his life.
I tend to agree. But when it comes to women and what most need from a man financially, all they need and desire is comfort. Financially, everything on top of that is man fueling his own desires and/or ego.
No level of balling will give a man true control over other men without consequence or even TRUE security. No level of financial holdings secures a man in this world. It may very well give him the perception of security, but it's not tangible.
Comfort is a true feeling, security is a false perception.
There is no such thing as a "true feeling".
Every feeling, perception and value is subjective.
looks like jon forgot to send the email about this forum turning into some seduction community ripoff to some of us.
seriously, put an end to this madness. women arent out to get you. youre fighting windmills. read some don quijote. it wont even show up on your bill if you pick it up with the next set of spinners you need to "step your game up"
seriously, put an end to this madness. women arent out to get you. youre fighting windmills. read some don quijote. it wont even show up on your bill if you pick it up with the next set of spinners you need to "step your game up"
Whether or not you are free when rich depends on who you are.
Many (if not most) people who are highly successful are initially motivated, at least in part to prove something wrong. Either a nagging fear that they're "not good enough", or that teacher in 5th grade who told them they'd never amount to anything. They strive to be successful, telling themselves that when they are, everything will be ok....
...then they achieve their goals, everyone is telling them how successful they are, but they STILL feel the same as they always did. The nagging voice continues. This is what leads to "imposter syndrome".
What happens then depends on the individual:
1. Some just keep working along the path, hoping the feeling will go away
2. Others start to self-sabotage. These are the people who go crazy with drugs, booze, sex, fast cars, or other addictions to the detriment of careers/families/health their (e.g. Tiger Woods)
3. A few, perhaps after doing 1 and/or 2 and surviving, work on accepting themselves as they are (why do you think Steve Jobs became a Buddhist?).
Only people who achieve 3. could remotely be described as being free, because the others are still marching to the drumbeat of their psychological scripting.
Now, there are those who become successful purely because the love what they do, and doing it is just an expression of who they are. They do what they do because they're in love with the process, not the end-result. But I'd argue they are in a small minority.
I'd say they're free too.
Of course, the upshot of this is that you could argue self-acceptance is more important to freedom than financial wealth.
Many (if not most) people who are highly successful are initially motivated, at least in part to prove something wrong. Either a nagging fear that they're "not good enough", or that teacher in 5th grade who told them they'd never amount to anything. They strive to be successful, telling themselves that when they are, everything will be ok....
...then they achieve their goals, everyone is telling them how successful they are, but they STILL feel the same as they always did. The nagging voice continues. This is what leads to "imposter syndrome".
What happens then depends on the individual:
1. Some just keep working along the path, hoping the feeling will go away
2. Others start to self-sabotage. These are the people who go crazy with drugs, booze, sex, fast cars, or other addictions to the detriment of careers/families/health their (e.g. Tiger Woods)
3. A few, perhaps after doing 1 and/or 2 and surviving, work on accepting themselves as they are (why do you think Steve Jobs became a Buddhist?).
Only people who achieve 3. could remotely be described as being free, because the others are still marching to the drumbeat of their psychological scripting.
Now, there are those who become successful purely because the love what they do, and doing it is just an expression of who they are. They do what they do because they're in love with the process, not the end-result. But I'd argue they are in a small minority.
I'd say they're free too.
Of course, the upshot of this is that you could argue self-acceptance is more important to freedom than financial wealth.
Here is the full interview:
part1:
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWzbMHWnePM]Kevin O'Leary, Part 1 | Sept. 28, 2011 | Appel Salon - YouTube[/ame]
part2:
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ta9Fp1qEogg]Kevin O'Leary, Part 2 | Sept. 28, 2011 | Appel Salon - YouTube[/ame]
part3:
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LQ9Swd6Qf0]Kevin O'Leary, Part 3 | Sept. 28, 2011 | Appel Salon - YouTube[/ame]
part1:
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWzbMHWnePM]Kevin O'Leary, Part 1 | Sept. 28, 2011 | Appel Salon - YouTube[/ame]
part2:
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ta9Fp1qEogg]Kevin O'Leary, Part 2 | Sept. 28, 2011 | Appel Salon - YouTube[/ame]
part3:
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3LQ9Swd6Qf0]Kevin O'Leary, Part 3 | Sept. 28, 2011 | Appel Salon - YouTube[/ame]
The danger is this: the more money you make, the more your money starts to define you as an individual.
You get all this respect from society, all these hot women giving you attention, you get invited everywhere to speak, you see your kids all proud to tell their friends "my dad is a rich businessman" as you drop them off at school in your Ferrari... so you see, you started off this whole adventure wanting freedom, but now freedom took #2 spot... #1 is the social currency, attention & respect that all this money gave you... you love that feeling and you want more of it. You start to work harder and harder not only to maintain your wealth but to increase it... Money now controls you.
I'm not saying everyone goes down this path, but a LOT do.
You get all this respect from society, all these hot women giving you attention, you get invited everywhere to speak, you see your kids all proud to tell their friends "my dad is a rich businessman" as you drop them off at school in your Ferrari... so you see, you started off this whole adventure wanting freedom, but now freedom took #2 spot... #1 is the social currency, attention & respect that all this money gave you... you love that feeling and you want more of it. You start to work harder and harder not only to maintain your wealth but to increase it... Money now controls you.
I'm not saying everyone goes down this path, but a LOT do.
He talks about this here:
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3DwFZagk1s]Kevin O'Leary Interview Pt 1 - YouTube[/ame]
Basically he talks about how he can easily walk away from what he does now and that he really does it because he enjoys it and for no other reason whatsoever. Whereas before he had to do things he did in order to get where he is now.
I find the following video really interesting too because you can see how his experiences define him. Even now at old age he still gets emotional when he talks about how he felt when he got fired the first time
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4O1bFoaySo]Kevin O'Leary Dragons Den Story.mp4 - YouTube[/ame]
Bad example. Jobs was always a Buddhist ever since he was in his college days. He was largely influenced by the hippy movement and claimed to be a Buddhist his whole adult life. And was also a big prick all the way until he died (i.e. claiming he will go thermonuclear to destroy Android, ignoring doctors advice about his cancer and trying to use homeopathy/spirituality/strange diets to cure it until it was too late.)
Fallacy of the noble poor. It's the modern equivalent of the noble native.
Poor people do not have better personality or character than rich, probably in most cases they are poor because of the lack of character.
Rich people have time to develop other areas of their life - if they choose to - such as exploring art, reading and charity work. All will add to your life experience. Then there's being a mentor and leader for others.
While those without financial freedom will many times find their character compromised at the mere opportunity to trade up financially or in other ways.
In short: money is neutral, it's what you do with it that matters.
Wow, his new show they talk about in this vid sounds pretty badass. Kevin takes ex cons and tries to school them in this business world...tries to teach them to make monies with a legal hustle. Will def watch.