"Love" is based on physical appearance

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Anybody see the new documentary show on MTV called Catfish?

People fall in love with people over the internet, then they meet them in person.

On the episode last night, the young 24 year old women fell in love with a male stripper with a ripped up body who only sent her 3 pictures of himself, all shirtless. He avoided meeting her in person for over a year until the show's producer finally convinced them to meet. The girl claimed she was "in love" with this man and kept talking about how strong their connection was.

When she meets the guy at his house, he's an average looking guy with a little extra weight and 5 years older than he said he was. Not the ripped up guy with abs he claimed to be.

After a month they now only talk a "couple times a week" but the guy is still hoping that one day they will be in a relationship.

At the end the shows producer introduced her to the real ripped up dude from the "fake" photos through skype, she got all giggly and kept bouncing around on screen all excited. She didn't even know this guy and this was her reaction to meeting him on cam.

This is the only full episode I've seen, but I've caught the end of another one and it was basically the same result. Different physical appearance then what was expected = "love" no longer exists. The producer of the show has a similar story and it ended the same way.

This proves 2 things: 1) "Love" as it is portrayed in society is not real. "Love" is merely based on physical appearance first, and everything else second.

2) The marketing lesson: the desire for "love" is so strong that people are willing to believe someone who sends them 3 pictures and avoids meeting them for over a year is really who they say they are.
 


You've obviously never been in love, and have had it returned, have you?

If you had ever experienced that, there's no way you'd post what you just did.
 
it'd be cool to see this supported by real statistically significant research instead of an MTV production (inb4 social psych is a soft science). Productions like this can be considered a case study at best.
 
Kiopa_Matt said:
You've obviously never been in love, and have had it returned, have you?

If you had ever experienced that, there's no way you'd post what you just did.
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As you can tell from the post above, I don't believe in love. So no, I have never "been in love" and never will be.

"Love" is a conscious decision, and I don't make it. Loving myself is better.
 
The English language is very poor when it comes to describing 'love'. The Ancient Greeks had it much better, they had:

Agape - what you have for your children and spouse.
Eros - lust
Philia - bromance
Storge - affection (e.g. familial)

She certainly felt Eros.. but nothing else.

The way we experience things is heavily influenced by the labels we give them, so it's no wonder people get messed about about 'Love' - it's a vague, almost meaningless term.

Another thought, you can never really know or love another person, only the simulacrum of that person you hold in your mind. What happened here was that when she met him, she was forced to adjust her internal representation to match her sensory perception of him. She no longer found that representation to be as pleasing.
 
NetMillion said:
As you can tell from the post above, I don't believe in love.
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You will if it ever finds you.

PS. No, I'm not in love right now, but have been when I was previously married. My current relationship sucks. The blowjobs are great though.
 
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NetMillion said:
As you can tell from the post above, I don't believe in love. So no, I have never "been in love" and never will be.

"Love" is a conscious decision, and I don't make it. Loving myself is better.
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One day you'll realise you're not a binary robot, but a human being...
 
Nope you got it wrong. Physical attraction is a pre-requisite. Every one of us has an imprint in their brain of what's attractive to them. So yes, if the guy turns out to be someone else of course with most people it'll be a shock.

You say she was open to the real stripper guy, yup but that's all she was. She'd get in a relationship with him and it'd be a train wreck waiting to happen.

Who says she wouldn't give that dude a chance if he was honest from the start? Problem is a disconnect between his pics and reality not necessarily the way he looks. On the other hand it's very delicate what some people consider attractive and what they don't. Maybe the real dudes looks just didn't click with her, who says it was connected to ripped physique (it probably was though, I'm just trying to illustrate the issue in real life might have a million outcomes).

Dude I've seen so many hot chicks be with ugly mofos just because they gave them a chance since the guy was persistent and they ended falling in love in them because of their personality.

Also those chicks are probably typical bimbos, not someone I'd base my understanding of human interaction on.
 
cardine said:
Love (of all types) are chemical reactions, no more and no less.
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it's even less than that. you can choose to let the reaction take place.

In my own life for example, I date a girl who is everything I would ever want, except for one thing: she doesn't have big natural tits.

I want big natural tits in my life, so why would I ever commit to her or "fall in love" with her?
 
AdamC said:
I really don't think that's true.

We have preferences based on how we develop culturally imo.
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I didn't mean it's genetic, I tried to say if she didn't find the next guy attractive it's not her fault if something didn't click in her brain. The other guy might also be ripped but because of different facial characteristics he just wouldn't click for her and the OP wouldn't be able to make his case.
 
@ OP -- ever think that a years worth of lies also takes away from the "love" the girl thought she had? ... and then she meets this jacked up guy after being lied to for a year by a less attractive guy, and she wants to fuck.
 
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