"Love" is based on physical appearance

You're confusing love with lust. This 24 year old girl was obviously horny and looking to get laid... even if she thought she was looking for "love".

A lot of people confuse the 2. A human being is made of a spiritual being and a physical being. Our spiritual being wants to fall in love with someone smart, intelligent, caring, etc... and experience true chemistry with someone. Our physical being just looks for someone that is physically fit, good looking and has overall sex-appeal. (fits all survival requirements)

When you're younger, your physical being rules. As you get older, the spiritual being starts to take over.
 


avatar33 said:
You're confusing love with lust. This 24 year old girl was obviously horny and looking to get laid... even if she thought she was looking for "love".

A lot of people confuse the 2. A human being is made of a spiritual being and a physical being. Our spiritual being wants to fall in love with someone smart, intelligent, caring, etc... and experience true chemistry with someone. Our physical being just looks for someone that is physically fit, good looking and has overall sex-appeal.

When you're younger, your physical being rules. As you get older, the spiritual being starts to take over.
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That's if you believe in a spiritual being.

At the simplest root of biology, we're just all looking to pass our genes to those we see most fit to pass them along with.
 
NetMillion said:
it's even less than that. you can choose to let the reaction take place.

In my own life for example, I date a girl who is everything I would ever want, except for one thing: she doesn't have big natural tits.

I want big natural tits in my life, so why would I ever commit to her or "fall in love" with her?
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You sound like a really nice guy

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Didn't read everything, but for anyone who treats this chemical reaction as more than an instinct to bang, marriage was introduced by the church, and supported by corporations so you buy more shit than you can have, and tie yourself to one spot for the next 30 years. It works out great for the megarich.

And if nothing else - megarich are your example. How many O'Learys or Trumps are wifed up atm?
 
I also wanted big natural tits in my life but ended up falling in love with a girl with big fake tits. If that's really a deal breaker for you you should end it now instead of leading her on.
 
cardine said:
Absolutely. Love is no more magical or controllable than sneezing or thinking or sleeping.
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Have you ever been in love, and had it returned? And I mean true love. Where the world simply becomes brighter, your worries disappear, your problems seem miniscule and easily conquerable compared to before, the days seem to pass by in minutes because you're enjoying life so much, and all that good stuff?

If you haven't, then you're missing out on one of the best things life has to offer. If you'd prefer just to blind yourself, and pass it off as neurological synapses that don't matter, then by all means, that's your prerogative.

I'm not in love now, but have been, and had my heart absolutely crushed and put through a grinder. Know something though? I'd do it all over again if given the chance, because the good times were worth every minute of the bad times. And trust me, the bad times were hell.

Anyway, I'm obviously getting too drunk and listening to too much music, so I'll go to sleep now.
 
PhilipShapiro said:
That's if you believe in a spiritual being.

At the simplest root of biology, we're just all looking to pass our genes to those we see most fit to pass them along with.
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You can't deny that we have a spiritual nature (call it "soul" if you will). We are fundamentally different than any other animal in the sense that we know the difference between right and wrong and do not automatically give in to our animal instincts (those who do are called psychopaths lol)...
 
cardine said:
Love (of all types) are chemical reactions, no more and no less.
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Well if you look at things that way everything is merely a chemical reaction and everything is meaningless.

It is what it is, we feel the way we feel, we are what we are, No one really knows what the fucks going on in this crazy world, so just go with it.
 
TechS said:
Well if you look at things that way everything is merely a chemical reaction and everything is meaningless.
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That is how I view life. It might seem depressing, but I'd rather have the right answer than the feel good answer.

avatar33 said:
You can't deny that we have a spiritual nature (call it "soul" if you will). We are fundamentally different than any other animal in the sense that we know the difference between right and wrong and do not automatically give in to our animal instincts (those who do are called psychopaths lol)...
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There is absolutely nothing that backs up any of these claims you made.

Kiopa_Matt said:
Have you ever been in love, and had it returned? And I mean true love. Where the world simply becomes brighter, your worries disappear, your problems seem miniscule and easily conquerable compared to before, the days seem to pass by in minutes because you're enjoying life so much, and all that good stuff?

If you haven't, then you're missing out on one of the best things life has to offer. If you'd prefer just to blind yourself, and pass it off as neurological synapses that don't matter, then by all means, that's your prerogative.
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You can have all of those same feelings by doing drugs. There is nothing magical about either.
 
avatar33 said:
You can't deny that we have a spiritual nature (call it "soul" if you will). We are fundamentally different than any other animal in the sense that we know the difference between right and wrong and do not automatically give in to our animal instincts (those who do are called psychopaths lol)...
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Souls do not exist, Gods do not exist.
 
avatar33 said:
You can't deny that we have a spiritual nature (call it "soul" if you will). We are fundamentally different than any other animal in the sense that we know the difference between right and wrong and do not automatically give in to our animal instincts (those who do are called psychopaths lol)...
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That's simply attributed to the capacity of our brains.

The existence of the soul has been a debate for thousands of years. Actually some really good reads if you're interested. People have done things like weighing a person before death, and weighing them postmortem. And then there's always the philosophical theories about the existence of a soul (lets lump philosophy with religion for the sake of this argument). There's as much proof of a soul as there is proof of God.

If anything, the philosophy of whether a soul exists or not makes for very good reads. I enjoyed Petrarch's (14th century italian philosopher) writings about it, even though I didn't agree with it. Would definitely take some time to read some of these debates if you're interested in it.
 
Kiopa_Matt said:
You've obviously never been in love, and have had it returned, have you?

If you had ever experienced that, there's no way you'd post what you just did.
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I don't think he's completely off base. Love is partly based on psychical attraction. How is it possible to love someone you can't look at without being disgusted? Could you really love a 300 lbs fat ass with 3 chins, because she had a great personality? I personally couldn't, because I'd find her repulsive.
 
Yes ok there is no scientific proof to my claims, yet we have evolved as a species in a different way than other living creatures. We are intelligent beings capable of reasoning and seeing the pros and cons of our choices. We do not give in to our inner instincts without passing them through a reasoning process in our minds.

If we choose a partner mainly based on the size of her boobs and firmness of her ass, we might be happy at first but in the end (as the bitch gets older) we'd get bored and realize that there is no "chemistry" in the couple and nothing to even talk about when sitting at a restaurant together. This creates a chaotic household and very unstable kids that will most likely reproduce the parents model when they get older... bad for society, bad for evolution.

Now I'm just being the devil's advocate here...
 
NetMillion said:
As you can tell from the post above, I don't believe in love. So no, I have never "been in love" and never will be.

"Love" is a conscious decision, and I don't make it. Loving myself is better.
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The only "conscious" aspect about it is commitment. The passion and companionship happen due to other factors. Perhaps you shouldn't deny something you have no experience of? Trust me and the zillion other people on this planet. It's worth giving a shot. "Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all." Do you fear losing what you gain? Or do you fear having to expose and make yourself vulnerable to another person on that level? Because that's also what makes it so sweet. Can't have your cake and eat it, too.


cardine said:
Love (of all types) are chemical reactions, no more and no less.
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One time, I dissolved into the entire universe, met/realized God, gained compassion and wisdom, all because I took LSD. Just because you exposed the physical correlate of the experience doesn't mean you yanked away the validity or meaning. Materialism will halt your growth to a complete standstill.
 
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