Masturbation - Stop Touching Yourself



dantex said:
They're doing it wrong if that's how they get women.

That's the thing. Dopamine based activities are NEVER just one time deals that are manageable. Our entire novelty + scarcity based awareness is hardwired at the receptor level in our brains to require more more more more.

Combine a plethora of porn with your recent conquests, and you're hitting one hell of a prolactin and dopamine rollercoaster. The rebound effect sucks, and if you're going no-fap just be aware.

Once you can break it the first time it gets easier. I know it's cheesy but make a plan about what you're going to do if you want to masturbate, then stick to it.

After several times of controlling your desires you can see them from a more objective viewpoint and then ask yourself if they are really something that is good for you. Hit me up if you want to talk about it. Shit I sound like a monk or something.
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LOL it's even funnier reading this since I've met you in person. I love it.

My GF talked and one thing we discussed is that NO MATTER WHAT I do, I get the itch at around 11AM. Not only that, but when we're hanging on Sundays and the occasional Friday morning, we have our most epic sessions at 11AM as well.

So I'm thinking that this is when my daily testosterone cycle might be peaking, and to stop the itch, I'll hit the gym instead... which could result in great workouts.

I'll take any other suggestions. Don't see why you gotta keep em between us.

My other solution is to call the lady up for a lunchtime kill. We're beyond any type of "power struggle" mentioned by Ar Scion and have agreed never to use sex as a weapon in our relationship. So far so good there.

DAY 1 woot
 
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This site has interesting information, although take it with a grain of salt... their argument is that ejaculation and orgasm cause a spike in dopamine and other chemicals which takes 2 weeks to fully recover from. Leading to all sorts of problems.. but who knows... me personally, i definitely notice that when i abstain from masturbating i have much more energy, am way more social and outgoing, and many other benefits...


Men: Does Frequent Ejaculation Cause A Hangover? | Reuniting
Science | Reuniting
Your Brain on Sex | Reuniting

also a good psychology today article

Was the Cowardly Lion Just Masturbating Too Much? | Psychology Today
 
You know it is a really interesting thread and I am happy to have come across it. I have heard of the old arguments that it will raise your testosterone levels but none of the arguments really seemed all that compelling.

If I understand it correctly, it's the ability to be constantly aroused by different stimulus (videos) that conditions our brain to want to be constantly aroused. In turn this trains us to not want to focus (because that is boring). Maybe that is why I have such a hard time focusing?? I have some how made it through 27 years of school, including graduate school, but I have an extremely hard time focusing and have walked away with mediocre grades. The scary part is most of the time I couldn't care less - I have this whole "fuck it" attitude towards life...really bizarre but surprisingly common among males. I always figured that once I was married and have kids this would change, I would suddenly give a shit because now I have someone else to take care of. Maybe it's because I'd too busy taking care of business to sit around jerking it every day?

Also you have the chemical aspect of reduced desire in real women - why bother if you can chemically lobotomize yourself by watching porn and jacking off all the time?

This video was pretty interesting... and while I don't think it says anything new here, it does explain the problem succinctly:

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FMJgZ4s2E3w"]Philip Zimbardo: The demise of guys? - YouTube[/ame]
 
What if this is Barman's secret plan to get all the gay webmasters to think about him when they are horny? :eek7:
 
I've been fap free for about a week.

I still don't have a girlfriend. I haven't got shit done because all I can think about is stuffing my sausage into a beautiful young woman so I'm browsing pof and okcupid all day. I also sort of want to cut my dick off or jam it inside my dvd drive.

Your science fails me.

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I stopped doing drugs a long time ago. I quit using nicotine 8 months ago, and I only have a few beers each week. I can't give up looking at the occasional porn and masturbation. I've got nothing left.
 
Been about 10 days but cheated once in the middle. Don't have a GF but do have a girl I can 'see' when I need to which makes this hell of a lot easier.
 
m0rtal said:
I still don't have a girlfriend. I haven't got shit done because all I can think about is stuffing my sausage into a beautiful young woman so I'm browsing pof and okcupid all day. I also sort of want to cut my dick off or jam it inside my dvd drive.
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Don't you realize that you have replaced porn with REAL WOMEN, yet you are doing the same thing - spiking your dopamine with every new chick. Click click click click click. It's not that much different to your brain compared to skipping through a porno.

Dating sites are great sources of material if you don't need naked whores to get off. That's all I'll say about that.

But either way, the science is win... your application is fail :)
 
As for me personally, I am not a fan of this right now. I am happy to report that my testosterone and virility seems way up, but I am now more "reliant" on the woman. She is enjoying it though... but this is not right for where I am in my life.

I think ideally, if you can use your imagination to get off once in a while, it might still be good. The way monkeys do it. You're not going to be screwing with your brain too much like that, I wouldn't think.
 
It's been about 8 days for me, and I actually have a date tonight. Can't say I feel any different, the date (albeit rare) is just a coincidence.
 
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