My son wants a dollhouse for the holidays.

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xecutech said:
Does he spend alot of quality time with his dad? What kind of things do they do together? I think the legos are a wonderful idea, tell him to build his own house with them, and maybe get dad to help. It shouldn't be too hard to get dad to participate, as no man can turn down an opportunity to play with legos, no matter what age! :)
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He spends alot of time with his stepdad. And Steve (that's my husband) is a very fix it, build it, plant it, kind of guy. Grant follows him around like white on rice. Lately, they've been playing chess together. They build marble shoot rollercoaster thingys. (Although I'm not sure if that's more for Steve or Grant) And railroad/train tracks/stations.

However Grant specificly asked for a dollhouse because he wanted to decorate. So ,if within in the next month that's what he still wants, that's what he'll get. :)
 


Well, I really don't think you have anything to worry about. I love to paint and decorate, and my wife jokingly refers to me as having a "queer eye" for decorating. She know's that I am as straight as they come, but really, wanting to decorate doesn't mean anything.

Also, you may have mentioned a doll house or was looking at one, and he may think it's an opportunity to do something with his mom. I always try to do stuff with my mom, and my mother inlaw, as you have to keep mom happy and apparantly your son may have learned that early.
 
When I was a kid, my best toy was, and still is, my imagination. It's not the material objects we play with so much as it is what we do with them.

Your sons desire to have a doll house and to decorate it is a manifestation of his desire to exercize his imagination. Do not stifle that or attempt to force it in another direction.
 
Get him the dollhouse, let him decorate. Next time you paint a room let him pick the colour. If you're worried about what other kids will think, this is a great time to sit him down for the "99% of all people everywhere are fucking douchebags, even little kids who suffer from having fucking douchebags for parents, so don't let them bother you" talk.


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fm1234 said:
Get him the dollhouse, let him decorate. Next time you paint a room let him pick the colour. If you're worried about what other kids will think, this is a great time to sit him down for the "99% of all people everywhere are fucking douchebags, even little kids who suffer from having fucking douchebags for parents, so don't let them bother you" talk.


Frank
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Ok I'll fit that in with these discussions: "Where do babies come from" question from a couple of weeks ago. The "mom, is god an angry god?" from a few days ago (damn, grandma lay off the brain washing please!) and one of the new ones "Drugs are bad, my teacher says so. Mommy did you know that wine is a drug? Why are you doing drugs mommy?" from last night.
 
turbolapp said:
Ok I'll fit that in with these discussions: "Where do babies come from" question from a couple of weeks ago. The "mom, is god an angry god?" from a few days ago (damn, grandma lay off the brain washing please!) and one of the new ones "Drugs are bad, my teacher says so. Mommy did you know that wine is a drug? Why are you doing drugs mommy?" from last night.
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LOL.. I died laughing when I read that.

Last year we were in the cinema with a colleague and his daughter. So before the movie they show one of those "COPYING MOVIES IS A CRIME!!" ads.
Then, in the quiet theater, you could hear her accusatory


"Daaaaaad!"

::emp::
 
Get it for him. I don't think wanting to decorate or even play with dolls has anything at all to do with sexual preference. Maybe he'll grow up to create some cutting edge furniture designs and make billions
 
seocracy said:
Yeah...I used to ride dirt bikes and burn ants with magnifying glasses and cut off little girls pig tails......and now Im gay as a tangerine....

go figure
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Wow, I didn't see that one coming....who knew tangerines were gay?
 
Weird, I posted a response yesterday but it isn't here.

"Where do babies come from"
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"Vaginas." When they're ready to ask, they're ready to know -- at least the very basics of it. You don't have to sit him down with a copy of the Kama Sutra and one of those devices pictured above to fill him in on the basics of where babies come from.

The "mom, is god an angry god?"
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This is actually an excellent opportunity to derail brainwashing --
"I don't know honey; let's check" and then look at the histories of all the major religions in the world, so that your kid can see how nobody in the world has any clue about what happens when you die, aside from the bit about the worms.

"Drugs are bad, my teacher says so. Mommy did you know that wine is a drug? Why are you doing drugs mommy?" from last night.
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Fill in your kid that wine in moderation every day is actually considered quite healthy. Make sure the school knows it too, and let them know that you'll be happy to have your lawyer explain it to them if they won't explain it to your kid.


Frank
 
I'd worry it's fruity and will only lead to more fruityness, buy him some guns and swords and video games!
 
I had the Death Star section. It was like a wedge of the round death star. Now that I think about it, it was a little like a umm dollhouse. But it was real futuristic inside and you couldnt stick a couch or curtains in there.


1979 Death Star Playset

Apparently it was designed or made in 1979 but I had it after that.

The top is a gun for shooting pesky Xwings. Next down is a bridge that extends. Dont remember next floor. Bottom floor is the trash compactor with real space junk and a monster.
 
turbolapp said:
I would rather fruityness than gunlyness.
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Sounds like a political slogan!

I've never been into decorating, but like most played with 'boys dolls' - my he-men used to play with my sisters' barbies and flower fairies all the time.

I don't think there's anything to be concerned about he likes interior design, it's kinda like cooking - used to be viewed as 'woman's work', but most top chefs are men.

Respect to Jacob for telling your story, but the TV thing you mentioned Lauren sounds wrong - the parents where putting a kid through gender re-alignment?? or did I misread? That can't be right - apart from the physical aspects (still growing, hormones, etc), how can parents make that choice? Reminds me of that guy who's penis was cut of by accident at birth and so was raised as a girl.
 
lmao@gender re-alignment! (its re-assignment). I appreciate the comment because its got me wondering why they call it gender and not sex re-assignment. although i guess they do call it both. sex is between your legs and gender is between your ears. Its your sex (physical characteristics) they are bringing in alignment with your gender (how you `perform` or present yourself). ill also mention again that gender and sexuality are two different things - presenting in a gender opposite to your sex is not an indication that you`re gay, just that your mind doesn`t line up with whats between your legs.

The younger they start, the better chance they have at life because life becomes better once it starts receiving you as the person you were meant to be - for me that wasnt until 30, others not until their 50s and later, some are lucky enough to never having gone thru that first puberty. Far as I know, they wont start a kid on hormones until they hit puberty. My partner says they will start them on hormone blockers around 13ish and hormone treatment not until they are around 16. I myself am one who hates being shot up with hormones every 2 weeks but the benefits far outweight getting poked twice a month.
 
Re: The TV Show... 6 years old just seems too young. As this thread shows kids change their mind all the time. Is a 6 year old capable of making that sort of decision?

Without knowing all the info it's hard to form an opinion but I can just imagine Jerry Springer or something... "My parents made me a girl, now I want to be a boy again."
 
LOL I giggled at the gender re-alignment too...woke my hubby from his nap.

I'm to lazy to go back and read what I initially wrote, so I may have just misspoken. There was no surgery for the 6 year old. It was just a kid who had been born a boy and wanted to be treated as a girl, wore dresses, a scarf in the hair, had all girls toys, purses..etc. I meant the parents were trying to nurture her and treat her as she wanted to be treated, but you could tell they were worried (about how others would treat her).
 
is homosexuality even a learned/picked up trait? If it is, then I guess you could worry some(that is if you have a preference). And no.. it's not too young for kids to be socially affected by outside forces at 6 years. In fact, it's probably the strongest during their youngest years. If you leave a baby with a pack of wild dogs for 6 years they will most likely believe they are dogs for a good potion of their lives. Even if they become human again, they will be socially retarded in the sense that they will not quite understand the intricate sense of speech.

So yea... i would say kids are highly influenced by everything. If you want to read more go get a psych book with scholarly articles on the subject. Don't go to your neighborhood library either cause you won't find it there. Goto uni libraries where there is a lot of research on the matter.

but... I do say that it will be hard for you to tell whether a doll house will affect him sexually in any way. Everyone is different and have different perceptions of things... good luck :D
 
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