NEW TREND: a record 36% of US-based 18-31 year olds live with their parents
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It's kinda sad for me to see most of you here falling in line with the mainstream view on this.
For most of human history we have lived in larger family groups. Typically people would stay close to home or live in the same house with extended family their whole lives. IMHO, the culture we have today of forcing all the children out isn't the best for families.
Granted, I had a lot of conflicts with my parents and I was kicked out when I turned 18 and then enlisted in the military because I was homeless living in my car. That led to a lot of years of hostility between me and my parents. Now that I'm older and more mature I'm on better terms with them though.
I wish I could have stayed at home, worked and saved in my late teens and early twenties... I'd probably be in a much better place financially now if I had.
For most of human history we have lived in larger family groups. Typically people would stay close to home or live in the same house with extended family their whole lives. IMHO, the culture we have today of forcing all the children out isn't the best for families.
Granted, I had a lot of conflicts with my parents and I was kicked out when I turned 18 and then enlisted in the military because I was homeless living in my car. That led to a lot of years of hostility between me and my parents. Now that I'm older and more mature I'm on better terms with them though.
I wish I could have stayed at home, worked and saved in my late teens and early twenties... I'd probably be in a much better place financially now if I had.
Most of them move back because of high student loans, credit card debt, stolen IPHONE, and we have prove of them via these WF threads.
Persian life/culture not judging anyone else..
lived with my parents till i was 29.. bought a two story home that has its own separate entrance. and had my parents move in with me They live downstairs and me and my gf live upstairs. Told her either my parents can move in with me or she can move out.. she was just fine with them living with us. Its not to bad really.. the only thing my mom wanted was her own kitchen and we built one for her for about 4k downstairs. mostly ikea shit..
I know this isnt an option for a lot of people because not everyone gets along with there parents. but my parents are amazing people that i would die for. They have given me everything including life. I owe them till either i die or they do. in which i will miss them as long as i live and hope to see them again ( not sure it will happen im agnostic) but i can have hope.
My advice to younger folks.. Working 60 hours a week just so you can take all the money and pay rent electricity.. car payments with it? get smart. stay with your parents (if you can) till after collage. Or hell longer if you enjoy there company and you guys can benefit from each other.
stop the bullshit (especially girls) of going to collage in france and dreaming of painting in some french cafe while getting a liberal arts degree in a foreign country for 100k a year cost. ITS FANTASY.. those are in the movies. get that shit out of your head.
go to a IN STATE good collage.. stay with your parents.. drive 6 year old Toyota or Honda.. don't get into huge school debt.. don't touch your credit card.. pay cash for everything.. SAVE SAVE SAVE SAVE... don't drink alcohol.. dont fucken smoke.. ECIG or not.. respect your parents.. make sure they get to there doctor appointments.. bring your mom flowers.. get up and walk/excercise for alteast 20 minutes a day. stop wasting your life on MMOS.. the same commitment you put to get to level 60 and decked out in full gear if you committed to an online/offline business you could make some money. take care of your self. brush your teeth wear deodorant.. have good hygiene.. cutt your nails.. floss.. DONT FUCKEN FORGET TO FLOSS ITS IMPORTANT.. take cold showers couple of days a week believe me.. you'll know your alive when that water hits you. have discipline..
have confidence in your self.. be charitable.. the best nutrition for your soul is when you reach your hand out to someone who has fallen and is looking up at you for help. laugh.. laugh as much as you can.. get in your car BY your self and put on your fav music and either rock out or cry to your fav artist.. you will let out a lot of pent up anxiety doing that. Dont let your gf/wife walk all over you.. have respect for them and treat them like ladies but let them know you are the man in the relationship.. as soon as your gf/wife looses respect for you thats it your relationship as ended..
be creative.. best place is on the toilet.. but be creative.. thinks of new ideas.. but only concentrate and work hard on one. stop going from project to project half done.. see something through.. be cautious but not cynical.. be giving but disciplined. cry when you need to.. defend your self and family when the the time comes. self defense is when you remove your self from a threatening situation not when you knock someone out. Self defense to remove your self from the threat.. not engage your self IN the threat. your not rambo or jon jones this aint the movies. and last but not least DON'T BE a JEALOUS FUCK.. let others who are doing better then you INSPIRE YOU.. learn from them.. don't be envious be motivated.. inspire your self and others around you..
lived with my parents till i was 29.. bought a two story home that has its own separate entrance. and had my parents move in with me They live downstairs and me and my gf live upstairs. Told her either my parents can move in with me or she can move out.. she was just fine with them living with us. Its not to bad really.. the only thing my mom wanted was her own kitchen and we built one for her for about 4k downstairs. mostly ikea shit..
I know this isnt an option for a lot of people because not everyone gets along with there parents. but my parents are amazing people that i would die for. They have given me everything including life. I owe them till either i die or they do. in which i will miss them as long as i live and hope to see them again ( not sure it will happen im agnostic) but i can have hope.
My advice to younger folks.. Working 60 hours a week just so you can take all the money and pay rent electricity.. car payments with it? get smart. stay with your parents (if you can) till after collage. Or hell longer if you enjoy there company and you guys can benefit from each other.
stop the bullshit (especially girls) of going to collage in france and dreaming of painting in some french cafe while getting a liberal arts degree in a foreign country for 100k a year cost. ITS FANTASY.. those are in the movies. get that shit out of your head.
go to a IN STATE good collage.. stay with your parents.. drive 6 year old Toyota or Honda.. don't get into huge school debt.. don't touch your credit card.. pay cash for everything.. SAVE SAVE SAVE SAVE... don't drink alcohol.. dont fucken smoke.. ECIG or not.. respect your parents.. make sure they get to there doctor appointments.. bring your mom flowers.. get up and walk/excercise for alteast 20 minutes a day. stop wasting your life on MMOS.. the same commitment you put to get to level 60 and decked out in full gear if you committed to an online/offline business you could make some money. take care of your self. brush your teeth wear deodorant.. have good hygiene.. cutt your nails.. floss.. DONT FUCKEN FORGET TO FLOSS ITS IMPORTANT.. take cold showers couple of days a week believe me.. you'll know your alive when that water hits you. have discipline..
have confidence in your self.. be charitable.. the best nutrition for your soul is when you reach your hand out to someone who has fallen and is looking up at you for help. laugh.. laugh as much as you can.. get in your car BY your self and put on your fav music and either rock out or cry to your fav artist.. you will let out a lot of pent up anxiety doing that. Dont let your gf/wife walk all over you.. have respect for them and treat them like ladies but let them know you are the man in the relationship.. as soon as your gf/wife looses respect for you thats it your relationship as ended..
be creative.. best place is on the toilet.. but be creative.. thinks of new ideas.. but only concentrate and work hard on one. stop going from project to project half done.. see something through.. be cautious but not cynical.. be giving but disciplined. cry when you need to.. defend your self and family when the the time comes. self defense is when you remove your self from a threatening situation not when you knock someone out. Self defense to remove your self from the threat.. not engage your self IN the threat. your not rambo or jon jones this aint the movies. and last but not least DON'T BE a JEALOUS FUCK.. let others who are doing better then you INSPIRE YOU.. learn from them.. don't be envious be motivated.. inspire your self and others around you..
I have a similar story to yours, but did you ever stop to consider that maybe it is not kids today that are the problem but their parents? I mean, which kind of parents kick out their children? I'll tell you who: selfish, immature, normless babyboomer parents.
Fuck I loathe the babyboomers. I will do a little dance once the last one is in the grave.
Bro, I don't know how old you are, but I'm 51 and you just summed up my life in a fucking nutshell. Absolutely couldn't have put it better myself, homeless in car devolving into military service and all. Fucking Eerie.
All I can say is, if I had it to do over again, I pray to JA I would have the brains to work the formula and play by the "rules"...
I'd be a fucking Gazillionaire by now, no shit. But the time I wasted being a smartass know-it-all...
I have made it my mission to make sure my 16YO son knows he can stay with me as long as he feels he needs to, and as long as he respects the partnership, that can be forever. He can bring home his bride, and have all his kids in the house next door, or down the street- I'll even build it for him, very few strings attached.
That's how families USED to work. We built DYNASTIES.
Exactly, if and when (I hope when), I have kids, I'll make sure to make them understand the value of family and I'll do that by giving them the help that no one else will - no strings attached.
Ummm, do you even know what a baby boomer is? Most baby boomers are in their 60s and 70s now, and most of their kids are in their 30s and 40s.
It's getting to the point where the baby boomer's kids are now taking care of their parents. Baby boomer's aren't kicking their kids out of their houses right now. Maybe their grandkids are getting booted out of their kid's houses, but that's a whole different story, which I don't believe has anything to do with baby boomers.
That is correct, but it is still the baby boomers who started the movement of breaking down the family unit in the west.
I don't know, my parents are baby boomers, and so were most of my childhood friend's parents. None of us were getting kicked out of the house. It was actually the total opposite. We couldn't wait to get away from our parents. I was gone at 17, and most of my friends were gone when they were 18.
If anything, I'd blame technology and globalization more than baby boomers. We don't live on farms anymore, nor do we have to cut our own firewood, or tend to the livestock. Our parents are more than capable of taking care of themselves until they're in their 70s or 80s, so we head out to pursue our own dreams. When they need us though, we're there for them. My parents know full well it's a quick one sentence e-mail, I'm on the next flight to Canada, and will be at their house within 36 hours of getting that e-mail.
Besides, we're hardly disconnected from our families these days. I have family all over the place, but we're still in constant contact via Facebook, e-mail, Skype, etc., and we know what's going on in each other's lives. Granted that's quite different than living a couple doors down, but also quite different than 30 years ago where if I was living in Asia, I'd have to mail a letter and wait 2 or 3 months to hear back.
I don't know if it's a just a UK thing but we tend to move out of our parent's house when we leave school at about 18yrs old. Or rather my generation did. I actually moved to a different country but that's a different story. We also have a culture of saving up to buy property here so a lot of folk tend to be up to their neck in mortgage debt by the time they're 30. We all wanted our independence as soon as possible I guess. I don't know if kids today do this but certainly my generation did.
It makes sense to remain as a family unit as long as possible to save on costs but it just wasn't really the culture here when I grew up.
Anyway - completely off-topic, here's a song I like:
Madita - Ceylon
It makes sense to remain as a family unit as long as possible to save on costs but it just wasn't really the culture here when I grew up.
Anyway - completely off-topic, here's a song I like:
Madita - Ceylon