Nurse records top 5 regrets of people of their deathbed.

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1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it."


2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."


3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."


4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."


5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."
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Source: Top five regrets of the dying | Life and style | guardian.co.uk


Makes you think a little bit.
 
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We have similar regrets in MMO... I wish I didn't just read for the first year and actually just put in the time do anything.

I consider #5 quite a lot. People get stuck in whats around them, what they know and what they've been told. Most don't even consider they can do x with their lives because nobody around them has ever done it. Not a single person I know wants to earn their own money. Actually, not a single person I know truly believes they can make their own money because everybody around us is stuck doing the same old shit. Then we look at older people and they are stuck doing the same shit we are doing and the cycle doesn't get broken. I studied business, 2 OF US wanted our own businesses ffs!


People are afraid of the unknown and taking a gamble with their lives. It's like people need to become 'desensitized' to doing things. If everyone in your family is a sporting freak and your friends all enjoy sports - you'll probably never smoke. If everyone around you just thinks school > college > 9-5 thats probably what you will end up doing. Few people say "fuck it, I can do what I want".
 
CitizenSmif said:
We have similar regrets in MMO... I wish I didn't just read for the first year and actually just put in the time do anything.

I consider #5 quite a lot. People get stuck in whats around them, what they know and what they've been told. Most don't even consider they can do x with their lives because nobody around them has ever done it. Not a single person I know wants to earn their own money. Actually, not a single person I know truly believes they can make their own money because everybody around us is stuck doing the same old shit. Then we look at older people and they are stuck doing the same shit we are doing and the cycle doesn't get broken. I studied business, 2 OF US wanted our own businesses ffs!


People are afraid of the unknown and taking a gamble with their lives. It's like people need to become 'desensitized' to doing things. If everyone in your family is a sporting freak and your friends all enjoy sports - you'll probably never smoke. If everyone around you just thinks school > college > 9-5 thats probably what you will end up doing. Few people say "fuck it, I can do what I want".
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You know, this is very true and well said. At least at the end of my life I can look back and say that I didn't follow the heard and get a 9 to 5 job, I can look back and know that I had the balls to take that leap of faith in myself... probably true for most of us on here, but exceptionally rare for other people.
 
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One of the things that made a huge impression to me while reading The Millionaire Fastlane book was the definition of wealth which was friends and family.

That has made me struggle with my inner belief system because I know it to be true...yet I have made so many choices to remove me away from friends and family.
 
wiredniko said:
One of the things that made a huge impression to me while reading The Millionaire Fastlane book was the definition of wealth which was friends and family.

That has made me struggle with my inner belief system because I know it to be true...yet I have made so many choices to remove me away from friends and family.
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i find myself isolating from people too these days. depression perhaps? i really don't know what the fuck is wrong with me. and this 'working from home thing' doesn't help either. it's making things worse.
 
evolutionvision said:
The singularity is near. This might not even matter to my generation.
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If I am on my deathbed my biggest regret will be that I just barely missed the ability to be immortal (or at least have an indefinite lifespan).

As Steve Jobs said as he was dying: "I'm either going to be one of the first to be able to outrun a cancer like this, or I'm going to be one of the last to die from it."

It would absolutely kill me to be close to dying in 30-40 years from now; knowing if I was just a little bit healthier and could live an extra 5-10 years I might be able to live another 300 years.

My next biggest thing I fear is that I'll someday be old and think fondly on my dreams and how foolishly ambitious they were.

The biggest takeaway should not be to address those 5 things mentioned in the article. What you should be doing is always be asking yourself what your goals are, and what you are currently doing to achieve those goals. It is way too easy to lose sight of that and start to drift away into patterns. It is a fight; a fight to always make sure that your goals and dreams are in front of you and never get pushed away because of circumstances that pop up in life.
 
"Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans" - John Lennon

After seeing a bunch of friends and family die so young, I try to be happy with how my life is at any given moment. I'm very blessed to have what I have. I don't want to miss my life because I'm worried about what I need to be doing in 10,15, 30 years time. That may never even come, so enjoy life now.
 
This is why:

- I don't have many friends, the ones I have are lasting friendships
- People hate the fact that I talk my mind out. Shit why should it be different? Just to please others? Gime a break.
- I try to be content with the current state of my life. Love what I have and I'm content with that.
- Be humble to realize tomorrow could be my last day on earth and so I try to treat other with the respect they deserve.

With that being said, some people see me as a prick, but me and my family are quite happy with the way things are.
 
This is precisely why I try to just do whatever the fuck it is I want to do. Period.

Never was like that before.. Had about 4 years into a corporate soul suck of a job, when I was offered a job "opportunity" in Orlando.. everyone told me not to do it, but i just said fuck it and did it. "Job" was a bust, but I ended up having the best six months of my life. Yachts, strippers, and celeb parties...all brought to me courtesy of POF..

Every since then I have resigned myself to just do whatever the fuck I want. Taking that initial big "risk" is key.. after that, freedom of choice is far more attainable. Just do it motherfuckers!
 
wiredniko said:
One of the things that made a huge impression to me while reading The Millionaire Fastlane book was the definition of wealth which was friends and family.

That has made me struggle with my inner belief system because I know it to be true...yet I have made so many choices to remove me away from friends and family.
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I consider wealth to be the same thing. I hate when people call me "rich", often they are much more rich/wealthy than me.
 
prince said:
i find myself isolating from people too these days. depression perhaps? i really don't know what the fuck is wrong with me. and this 'working from home thing' doesn't help either. it's making things worse.
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Ive booted 80% of my friends. Its pretty hard to relate to them from a work point of view, many grow spiteful and "hate".

I find its much better to have 3-5 really good friends as apposed to 30-40 half ass friends. I used to be the guy everyone called on friday /sat night for something to do. I would often be rolling with a crew of 30ish people into bars ect. I knew them, but not a real close level. Maybe there's just not time for that anymore, maybe im getting old, either way I prefer to keep it small now.

I don't really regret anything though. I could go out tomorrow and start being super outgoing again, not for me, no regrets.
 
prince said:
i find myself isolating from people too these days. depression perhaps? i really don't know what the fuck is wrong with me. and this 'working from home thing' doesn't help either. it's making things worse.
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Well here is the thing. In my case I moved away from Greece from all my friends and family to live in the States. I then moved from NY to CA losing friends once again to be in a state with better weather...then my ex-girlfriend got pregnant and moved to NY...so I ended up moving to Ohio (I could get a job there).

So pretty much all my life choices had as a side effect having people I care far away. At the point it also applies to my daughter...which sucks.
 
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