Nurse records top 5 regrets of people of their deathbed.

[efeezy]

Ive booted 80% of my friends. Its pretty hard to relate to them from a work point of view, many grow spiteful and "hate".

I find its much better to have 3-5 really good friends as apposed to 30-40 half ass friends. I used to be the guy everyone called on friday /sat night for something to do. I would often be rolling with a crew of 30ish people into bars ect. I knew them, but not a real close level. Maybe there's just not time for that anymore, maybe im getting old, either way I prefer to keep it small now.

I don't really regret anything though. I could go out tomorrow and start being super outgoing again, not for me, no regrets.

I'm the same way. I literally have 5 really good friends and that's it. I have other "acquaintances", but not people that I choose to be around on a regular basis. My good friends I've known for a long time and I'll do anything for them, but everyone else has been kicked to the curb, and that includes some family that I just don't have time for their drama anymore. My life is much better without negative assholes, friends & family, trying to bring me down to their level. I just want to do my thing, with my wife & kids and close friends, that's it. Haters can hate. Half ass friends who don't show any respect can get fucked.

 

[Russ86]

i find myself isolating from people too these days. depression perhaps? i really don't know what the fuck is wrong with me. and this 'working from home thing' doesn't help either. it's making things worse.

This I can definitely relate with. Having a 9 to 5 job kind of forces you to get out of the house and be social. If you work from your computer, it is on you to maintain that balance... You can't just work 8 hours on your computer, and then afterward hop on your laptop for the rest of the night and watch movies/shows or browse forums (I've done this a lot)... I started doing this and quickly realized the downward spiral I was headed for. For me the biggest thing is getting the fuck out of my house, and literally forcing my mind not to think about anything related to my business when I'm not actively working on a project.

 

[guerilla]

i find myself isolating from people too these days. depression perhaps? i really don't know what the fuck is wrong with me. and this 'working from home thing' doesn't help either. it's making things worse.

When you get out of the rat race, you see it for what it is. And frankly, it is depressing to be in, or have to interact with it.

I went through a long 3 year depression at the beginning of my IM career. It forced me to be lighthearted about a lot of things, and to learn to be able to laugh at myself. My suggestion is to stand in front of the bathroom mirror each day until you snicker or giggle. Words wonders.

With that being said, some people see me as a prick, but me and my family are quite happy with the way things are.

Same here.

This is precisely why I try to just do whatever the fuck it is I want to do. Period.

I'd say I do 95% of what I want, nearly all of the time. It's liberating not to answer to anyone else. Suddenly work and family become a lot more fun when it is all on your terms.

Ive booted 80% of my friends. Its pretty hard to relate to them from a work point of view, many grow spiteful and "hate".

That's common with a lot of losers online as well. People suck at what they do, so they get bitter and weird. I only have a handful of friends on line, nearly everyone I know in meatspace is family, and I like it like that.

So pretty much all my life choices had as a side effect having people I care far away. At the point it also applies to my daughter...which sucks.

I think it was Gandhi that said something like, "action indicates preference". Maybe you need to ask yourself if your actions indicate your preferences, and if not, why?

My top 5 regrets are all women.

You got it easy then. Most women are forgettable and replaceable.

It's the ones that aren't that really teach us something about ourselves.

 

[Robert_Frost]

I'll die unhappy if i don't learn how to let go of the hatred that's built in my heart.

 

[guerilla]

I'll die unhappy if i don't learn how to let go of the hatred that's built in my heart.

Hatred is like playing a prank on yourself. You can stop any time. The first step is to realize it's a joke.

 

[Robert_Frost]

I just want to wake up one day and realize that I am the person that I always wanted to be growing up. I want to live my childhood dreams and that's pretty much it.

 

[Robert_Frost]

Hatred is like playing a prank on yourself. You can stop any time. The first step is to realize it's a joke.

I feel you man, but it's just hard. Thank you for your words.

 

[guerilla]

I just want to wake up one day and realize that I am the person that I always wanted to be growing up. I want to live my childhood dreams and that's pretty much it.

Then do it. No one can stop you but you, and if you're stopping yourself, stop doing that.

The hardest part of any of this is freeing your mind from the traps and fears we place around it as we leave childhood for adulthood.

When those scales fall, just about anything seems possible.

 

[seowizard417]

working in front of your computer for 8 hours beats working in front of someone else's computer for 8 hours.

 

[lose lose win]

When those scales fall, just about anything seems possible.

Problem is, as I'm sure you realize, they don't just "fall"...they have to be brought down intentionally.

 

[IMHopeful]

Thanks for posting this Russ. I'm just getting over a year of severe panic/anxiety disorder that made me think about dying constantly. I've been feeling awesome for about a month now, but your post made me think about how quick my new-found positive perspective can go back down the shitter.

If you've never been in a life-or-death situation, or been otherwise trapped inside your head thinking your dying and had to face the possibility of dying without accomplishing your goals: You need to print the OP out and really make an effort to stare at it once a day.

 

[blogspotter]

I used to have a few regrets when I was in my late teens, and early twenties.. More so, earlier. But now I have none. Nothing that comes to mind at least (well, I wish I had a longer penis lol)
I like to think myself and very positive, and it kinda grows on people that come across me too.

I don't know, I maybe be living a dull life. I now that I am a little weird and different.
But I am like a robot when it comes to emotions. I can pretty much decide what I want to "feel", and I feel mostly good.

I don't have any best friends, but a lot of good acquaintances.. Maybe they are good friends... They all think I am a wonderful person lol. Maybe because I always smile..
Yes, I always smile... And I am always in touch... Thanks Mark Zukerberg for making it even more easier.. I make it a point to call every person I know once in a while... All my cousins, friends..


I like to help people..
I try very hard to be positive all the time...
I enjoy doing stuff..

I once read an article on regret minimization by Jeff Bezos, and I take that very seriously.
I try to take measures so that there are as least conflicts as possible, and even if there are any I am usually prepared. I don't usually do stuff, that I will regret doing. Even if I do, I make sure I am in the safe.
Doesn't mean, I always play safe.. I do things that I like, but I make sure I won't regret it. Like, I make sure I don't get caught..

I really wouldn't want my life to be anything different from how I have lived it.
I try to do a good deed whenever I can.. I send money to all my younger cousins during any holiday.. Also to my old relatives... Aunts, Grand Aunts, Grand uncles.. Not much, but still.. I tip well, and he is a very very lucky cabbie, or a doormen, or a valet, or a security guard if I meet them working on a Holiday..

(edit: forgot to mention stripper lol )


I don't know..
Some people just complicates life.
I celebrate life...

I also don't do anything I don't enjoy doing...

What I am saying is I do things to make me happy. And that has made always made me happy most of my waking life.

PS: I do work hard, but I genuinely enjoy working.. so not sure if I will regret that,

 

[Vcize]

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."

This is why I got into all this affiliate nonsense, so I could work less and play more. It's fucking stupid as all hell that a normal job still requires a 40+ hour work week. People were working this much 200 years ago and didn't have access to half the time-saving stuff we have now. Aren't we supposed to be using computers to automate and expedite tasks such that we humans actually work less? Instead we just find more bullshit to find the same length work week.

It's nonsense, and my protest was to be quitting that job and doing this instead. Then I get a year into this shit, look back, and realize I'm working twice as much as I did when I had that shitty desk job anyway.

:angryfire:

 

[efeezy]

This is why I got into all this affiliate nonsense, so I could work less and play more. It's fucking stupid as all hell that a normal job still requires a 40+ hour work week. People were working this much 200 years ago and didn't have access to half the time-saving stuff we have now. Aren't we supposed to be using computers to automate and expedite tasks such that we humans actually work less? Instead we just find more bullshit to find the same length work week.

It's nonsense, and my protest was to be quitting that job and doing this instead. Then I get a year into this shit, look back, and realize I'm working twice as much as I did when I had that shitty desk job anyway.

:angryfire:

My old job in the car business was a 50-60 hour work week, sitting behind a desk, waiting to take orders for cars, finding cars, doing contracts, &delivering cars. I'd be at work for 10 hours a day and I probably had 3 hours of actual work to be doing. I had to be there the rest of the time, just in case the phone rang and one of my clients needed something. That was the part I could never handle. I couldn't just say, "Ok, I've got my work done for the day, I'm getting the hell out of here.", because as far as my superiors were concerned, I should have been there from 7am to midnight 'just in case'. Oh and I drove 90 miles round trip each day, so that made it even more fun.

The only and I mean ONLY thing that kept me going was that I worked with 2 other guys who were fun to be around all day every day. We had all worked together for 13 years, but aside from that, it was a pretty mundane job.

It's not even the money now that makes my life better. I made good money in the car biz too, but doing it on my own terms is the best fucking thing ever.

 

[1nspire]

I regret not running acai berries back in the day

 

[Jameel]

Ive booted 80% of my friends. Its pretty hard to relate to them from a work point of view, many grow spiteful and "hate".

I find its much better to have 3-5 really good friends as apposed to 30-40 half ass friends.

Agreed.

I would rather have 4 quarters than have 100 pennies.

 

[Robert_Frost]

My old job in the car business was a 50-60 hour work week, sitting behind a desk, waiting to take orders for cars, finding cars, doing contracts, &delivering cars. I'd be at work for 10 hours a day and I probably had 3 hours of actual work to be doing. I had to be there the rest of the time, just in case the phone rang and one of my clients needed something. That was the part I could never handle. I couldn't just say, "Ok, I've got my work done for the day, I'm getting the hell out of here.", because as far as my superiors were concerned, I should have been there from 7am to midnight 'just in case'. Oh and I drove 90 miles round trip each day, so that made it even more fun.

The only and I mean ONLY thing that kept me going was that I worked with 2 other guys who were fun to be around all day every day. We had all worked together for 13 years, but aside from that, it was a pretty mundane job.

It's not even the money now that makes my life better. I made good money in the car biz too, but doing it on my own terms is the best fucking thing ever.

Having your own business that supports you completely, living life by your own terms, not having a coffee breath boss breathing over you is like having sex with god. Just could never go back to the grind after supporting myself for so long.