Solve this disagreement between the wife and I, who's right?

Who is being unreasonable?

  • Your wife is being unreasonable

    Votes: 138 89.6%

  • You are being unreasonable

    Votes: 16 10.4%
  • Total voters
    154


Although I agree that 'asking' isn't the right approach, it's a little to late to play it any different now. The fact that you already asked, doing something she didn't agree to will really piss her off.

She probably has some issues with some family going and she doesn't want to be alone.

Most woman are irrational. Those on here don't really count as it's obvious you already think outside the box.

+1 on the take your brother along with you and watch it there suggestion.

I see that you already talked to your wife about it. WHY THE FUCK would you agree to her calling her Grand Parents, delivery of a message is much more important than the message itself. You should have said "I don't want to put you in a bad spot with them, i'll give them a call and ask them if it's ok with them". Especially after what was suggested here. It was a PERFECT moment to take back control of the situation.

Yes Asian chicks are crazy but they got nothing on Colombian chicks.
 
OP is pussy whipped. This is fuckin ridiculous.
OP: you and your brother go out to a strip club, bang some whores, sniff some coke, then both of you go back to your wife's family and watch the fight there. Tell that bitch to go make you a sandwich.
 
THIS

her labia tingle will be strong if you keep this up throughout your marriage?

ask??? lol

Andrew Scherer said:
You actually asked her if you could, I kinda feel sorry for you.



There is no request.

It's "I'm going to see my brother on his birthday for 3 hours on xxx but I'll be back"

There is no trickery involved, persuasion, or overanalysis necessary.

Thankfully playing from a position of strength is a simple endeavor.

GLB
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amateursurgeon said:
You're approaching this all wrong. She's not a guy. Women don't respond to rational arguments in emotional situations.

I have a wife who is possible the most rational person you could meet at work, but when shit like this crops up, she's a fucking fruitloop.

Luckily, this fact makes them remarkably easy to outmaneuvre, if you just think a few steps ahead. Here's how I'd run it:


Call up her Grandparents, tell 'em how much you are looking forward to the reunion, and then explain the brother situation. Ask if it's OK, because you didn't want to offend them, but it would mean a lot to him.

They will (ofc) say yes. You can tell your wife then that you didn't want to upset her GPs, so you called them to check, and they insisted that see your brother.

Having done that, you've now placed your wife in an impossible situation.

She can either let you go see your brother.

Or she can carry on insisting, and have to explain to GPs why she wouldn't let you see your brother, and look like a shrew at the reunion.

Now, the important thing here is how you break this to your wife.

DO NOT FRAME IT IN AS I WAS RIGHT AND YOU WERE WRONG.

The key with women is to let them feel that they're right, whilst doing whatever the fuck you want with your life.

So you say "You know, you were right honey, I was being thoughtless about this."

(pause).

"So I called up you GPs to check that it was ok, because I really wouldn't want to upset them or your family. And they insisted that I go."

Try not to smirk when you do this as it will ruin the whole effort.
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+rep

Solid game advice
 
JMan1234 said:
That's why I can't believe she's saying no. Because I don't go out with friends (heck I really don't even have any other than a couple neighbors!, working from home I don't meet many people). I don't go out drinking, etc... She knows that really the only entertainment/fun things I like to do involve going to see my brother and/or watching a good boxing match. And the frequency is only 3-5 times per year, that's it.
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That's the problem. You've probably got her used to doing whatever she wants. She knows if she works you hard enough she can get her way. :banana_sml:
 
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JMan1234 said:
My wife's family has a reunion/anniversary celebration coming up for her Grandparents.

Of all the weekends they could have selected for this, it also happens to be the weekend that I was expecting to spend with my brother for his birthday, and watching a boxing match together.

The reunion with my wife's family is, I believe Friday-Sunday, so basically 72hrs. I'm asking her for a 3hr window to drive back and watch the fight with my brother, and then drive back to her family event.

So far she is completely denying my request, and thinks I'm being unreasonable. She says there's no way I'm going to leave for 3 hours.

I say she is being unreasonable. 3 hours out of 72 to spend time with my brother on his birthday is not an unreasonable request. So what say you?

(And no, I'm not posting pics of my wife's boobies, let's get that out of the way).
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You are fucking whipped man. If anything you should be allotted that whole night to go kick it with your brother.. seriously learn how to manage your woman better.
 
OP it seems to me like you are punching seriously above your weight with your wife. Either she is gorgeous and you are ugly and you can't believe your luck at getting her or she is responsible for bringing in the cash and you are struggling.

I can't think of any other reason that you would put up with such unreasonable behaviour, you need to make a stand - it will only get worse if you let it continue.

It would also appear that you haven't been married for too long so you should nip this in the bud early on, but I don't see the marriage lasting in its present form.
 
Give up and find a new wife, you've screwed yourself on this one beyond the point of repair. When you have so little control over your life that you seek outside assistance to get "permission" to go somewhere for three hours.... well it's time to hit the reset button.

It's guys like you that mess things up for the rest of us. She's on the phone right now telling her girlfriends how she "straitened you out" and "got you in line" over your three hour request. Her friends get the idea they can pull that crap too and WE ALL SUFFER from your mistakes. Our wives and girlfriends try the same bullshit and it's a cascading avalanche of bullshit now.

If you don't watch that boxing match with your brother you will face a lifetime of oppression and put us all at risk. If you decide to skip the boxing match please trade in your computer for a sewing kit so you can get to work mending socks with her grandmother like all the other little girls.
 
I have a wife like this also. It took me a while to realize she is just insecure and pathetically needy and needs to do everything with me. I dont even bother asking for anything. If she puts up a big shit storm over 3 hours, fuck it and make it 10. She has to realize you are only giving her the courtesy of keeping her informed of your plans.

Someone post that video on how to beat your wife!
 
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