What Do You Do When Your Kids Want To Kill You?
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Drop her off at the nearest fire station. Knock 3 times and drive back home.
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It's strange, because the natural instinct I have regarding someone who threatens my family doesn't go away just because it's a member of my family making the threats.
Somebody just skyped me and told me that this wasn't something to joke about.
I'm not joking.
This is 100% real, and I'm 100% not sure how to handle this in a manner that helps her, and protects my family at the same time.
Only one thing you can do...
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heres your problem. ask her if she wants to get high. before i was an aggressive prick. now years of drug abuse has turned me into a mellow passive aggressive asshole with absolutely no work ethic whatsoever.
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heres your problem. ask her if she wants to get high. before i was an aggressive prick. now years of drug abuse has turned me into a mellow passive aggressive asshole with absolutely no work ethic whatsoever.
Not a troll.
Not sure what to do.
I know there are some parents on this board, and some smart people, and some thoughtful people too, so I was hoping for some ideas that maybe I haven't thought of.
In that case, I would send her off to live with some other relatives until she gets her mind right. No way I would take a chance with someone harboring homicidal thoughts no matter who it is. Girlfriend don't like it - peace out baby.
Once of my first thoughts actually.
I know that you can't prevent violence, all you can do is try to put some distance between yourself and violent people.
Got insurance?
If so, get a hold of both a psychologist and a psychiatrist immediately. I'm assuming you haven't really had much of a chance to discuss things with her, so you honestly need to assume the worst and be very cautious. Either a psychologist or psychiatrist (whoever you talk to first) will be able to give you initial advice or at the very least refer you to a specialist about what to do next.
If you think she's truly a danger, she needs to be institutionalized, which sucks to hear but until you know how true this all is and how much you can actually trust her, there's no reason to take any chances.
There's a good chance she's just being an angsty teenage girl, and especially nowadays kids are extra shitheady because of all the "freedom" and "independence" they are afforded by technology (as is made apparent by her texting her boyfriend detailed plans of murder without realizing that someone might be tuning into that). But you just can't assume that at this point.
If you think it's really serious, call the cops now. If you think you can wait until tomorrow morning, get a hold of mental health professionals immediately. They might not be able to fix anything immediately but they'll at least have advice or resources for you.
I would assume you are going to want to also keep her in your sight at all times at least for now. Also, have you talked to the boyfriend? Is he in on this bullshit or scared too or what?
Good luck bro.
EDIT: I mention both psychologist and psychiatrist because she probably needs both CBT (therapy) and some sort of sedative or related meds to mellow the fuck out. Psychiatrists rarely do therapy and psychologists can't give out drugs so you need to talk to both.
If so, get a hold of both a psychologist and a psychiatrist immediately. I'm assuming you haven't really had much of a chance to discuss things with her, so you honestly need to assume the worst and be very cautious. Either a psychologist or psychiatrist (whoever you talk to first) will be able to give you initial advice or at the very least refer you to a specialist about what to do next.
If you think she's truly a danger, she needs to be institutionalized, which sucks to hear but until you know how true this all is and how much you can actually trust her, there's no reason to take any chances.
There's a good chance she's just being an angsty teenage girl, and especially nowadays kids are extra shitheady because of all the "freedom" and "independence" they are afforded by technology (as is made apparent by her texting her boyfriend detailed plans of murder without realizing that someone might be tuning into that). But you just can't assume that at this point.
If you think it's really serious, call the cops now. If you think you can wait until tomorrow morning, get a hold of mental health professionals immediately. They might not be able to fix anything immediately but they'll at least have advice or resources for you.
I would assume you are going to want to also keep her in your sight at all times at least for now. Also, have you talked to the boyfriend? Is he in on this bullshit or scared too or what?
Good luck bro.
EDIT: I mention both psychologist and psychiatrist because she probably needs both CBT (therapy) and some sort of sedative or related meds to mellow the fuck out. Psychiatrists rarely do therapy and psychologists can't give out drugs so you need to talk to both.
Confront her and put her into therapy immediately.
If this is real, then I wouldn't waste any time putting her into treatment for what is obviously some sort of mental illness.
If this is real, then I wouldn't waste any time putting her into treatment for what is obviously some sort of mental illness.
Insurance is good, there's options as far as treatment goes. GF is a nurse with adolescent psych experience, and has a lot of contacts in the medical community. We are reaching out to them now.
I'm inclined to treat it as an imminent danger, and act accordingly.
The boyfriend is a tool, and hasn't done much in the way of discouraging this behavior, but I don't know how he feels about it.
She doesn't know that we know any of this, we just found out about an hour ago.
Sorry to imply anything, but if you have treated her well, it seems strange to me that she would behave this way. I think you need to be very honest about how your family works. If after looking honestly at yourself and your family and you can't find a reason for her feelings, then you should probably call some sort of youth hotline asap.
If you really feel that she's a threat you can have her held on a 72 hour evaluation in most places. You can opt for a private facility or a state one (I'd recommend against that) as well. From there you can then go into private treatment.
probably trolling to check if you read her texts no? How did you find out anyway? I mean good catch but just sayin... A good direct talk I think would be best, best of luck
Take her to a dinner or anything that she really likes. Then ask her why she wanted to all this? After that if she was really serious take her to proper counseling or psychiatrist. Try to find out the roots of the problem (what made her to develop this attitude/thinking). She's not into drugs or drinks so it's truly a psychological issue. I don't think she'd kill you (However, prepared to be safe) but this level of fantasies will ruin herself and her future if not corrected asap.
I'm deleting the OP at the request of my GF, who doesn't want this to play out publicly.
Thanks to everyone who offered advice.
Thanks to everyone who offered advice.
This.
Probably a C- idea at best, but you might want to get a contact alarm or something of that nature for your bedroom door. I suppose you could mitigate the risk of fire too with a smoke detector in your room and an emergency escape lader if on second floor. Of course letting your daughter know about this would mess with your lines of defense.
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