Why Did You Get Married?

Trademark said:
If you are married, why did you decide to wed?
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It's largely a signaling device. It matters, culturally.

If you don't marry your partner, everyone who is married feels that by remaining unmarried, you are telling them that they were somehow wrong to get married themselves.

This makes them feel like tools, and they are immediately ill-disposed toward you.

My business changed dramatically when I got married, and again when I had children. There are all these things that seem like they shouldn't matter, but that have importance to the rest of the world.

When I got divorced, for example, my performance reviews at work dropped - and I don't believe my actual performance dropped at all. All my metrics were still on track.
 
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Ok I am not married but I was in a long term relationship. And it was about teamwork. We worked great together like 1. She did her job with her set of skills and I did mine. The relationship was great, it was balanced. It was a partnership.

I would pretty much only get married if I felt the same way again. Each partner needs to bring equal parts to the table.
 
turbolapp said:
It's the ultimate validation. It's a ceremonial way of saying I will hold you higher than all others, you are my partner, lover and friend and I happily accept this for the rest of our lives.

As humans we need validation in everything that we do, community and relationships are no different.
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It doesn't get much better than that, well said!

That, as well as "I knocked her up" running a close 2nd. ;-)
 
I come from a one part traditional, one part fucked-up family. In part, the soon-to-be marriage is for them. Let me explain.

On the traditional side, it's for my parents and my grandmother (who is nearing the bucket-kicking end level); they would really appreciate it, which is important to me. On the fucked-up side, it's to add some normalcy to the same-sex relationships*, republicanism, alcoholism, divorce rate and other scenarios that will put a family through the paces. To be fair, there are republicans on both sides...

On the other hand, fuck all of them. It's for me, and like turbolapp said, it's the ultimate form of validation. Besides, if you're going to be with someone for the rest of your life, or even the next 10 years, why not enjoy some tax breaks?

Also, I'm not afraid of commitment you pussies.

* For the record, I have nothing against same-sex relationships (especially if she's hot), but the strains that it can put on a family are undoubtable.
 
zerohex said:
Good luck with that 'cause it'll never happen. Just sayin'.
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specially nowadays where most women only bring pussy and debt into the marriage.

marriage is dumb. Marrying someone without having sex first is even worse and will only lead to her or you cheating in 99% of the cases. Believe it or not, most women who cheat on men do it for the better sex, not bc they suddenly "fell in love" with her affair. If you fuck a woman right, she'll most probably skip a random cheating opportunity.

When will people realize that a life lasting monogamy is simply against nature.
 
BigWill said:
Ok I am not married but I was in a long term relationship. And it was about teamwork. We worked great together like 1. She did her job with her set of skills and I did mine. The relationship was great, it was balanced. It was a partnership.

I would pretty much only get married if I felt the same way again. Each partner needs to bring equal parts to the table.
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Partnership? And who happens to be the senior vs. the junior partner? Who gets to make the FINAL decision when you disagree?

If you got two stubborn people in a relationship it could end up ugly. Been there done that :)

ricdes said:
When will people realize that a life lasting monogamy is simply against nature.
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Could not agree with you more, Sir!
 
ricdes said:
specially nowadays where most women only bring pussy and debt into the marriage.

marriage is dumb. Marrying someone without having sex first is even worse and will only lead to her or you cheating in 99% of the cases. Believe it or not, most women who cheat on men do it for the better sex, not bc they suddenly "fell in love" with her affair. If you fuck a woman right, she'll most probably skip a random cheating opportunity.

When will people realize that a life lasting monogamy is simply against nature.
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you sound bitter brah, any stories to tell with your czech women!
 
Marriage is retarded. We're not monogamous creatures. We're here solely to propagate our genetic material.
 
ricdes said:
specially nowadays where most women only bring pussy and debt into the marriage.

marriage is dumb. Marrying someone without having sex first is even worse and will only lead to her or you cheating in 99% of the cases. Believe it or not, most women who cheat on men do it for the better sex, not bc they suddenly "fell in love" with her affair. If you fuck a woman right, she'll most probably skip a random cheating opportunity.

When will people realize that a life lasting monogamy is simply against nature.
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bitter and ugly, party of 1
 
LMAO at all the young dudes ranting about propagation and the eeeeeeevils of marriage. Like the man said, when you meet the right girl you'll look back and wonder why you ever asked such retarded questions.

I get the main question now: why did you get "married", as in why did you invite society and the goobermint to weigh in on your relationship.

Wedding presents, duh. We made out like bandits :P
 
Nikko said:
LMAO at all the young dudes ranting about propagation and the eeeeeeevils of marriage. Like the man said, when you meet the right girl you'll look back and wonder why you ever asked such retarded questions.

I get the main question now: why did you get "married", as in why did you invite society and the goobermint to weigh in on your relationship.

Wedding presents, duh. We made out like bandits :P
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When I meet the right girl I'll stay with her until the chemicals in my brain tell me otherwise. We know that "falling in love" is simply chemicals. I'll keep my wallet and my dignity. Will never happen for me unless I stand to make some serious cash on the deal or if her dad owns a business I can take over.
 
onlinemoniez said:
When I meet the right girl I'll stay with her until the chemicals in my brain tell me otherwise. We know that "falling in love" is simply chemicals. I'll keep my wallet and my dignity. Will never happen for me unless I stand to make some serious cash on the deal or if her dad owns a business I can take over.
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If you're worried about your wallet, hook up with an older girl who already has her career going. Or sign a prenup. Take money out of the equation. Oh and make sure you can keep your My Little Ponies, too. Bitch ain't gonna touch MLPs.

If "falling in love" is just chemicals, then so is your job. I'm sure you have days/weeks/months, as we all do, when work is fucking shitty and it's a grind to make it through. At the end of the day, though, and over the long term, I still love what I do and I still do it despite the times that suck.

Marriage is kind of like that.

I've gotten to the point where I FINALLY understand how much of a huge pain in the fucking ass I can be, and I love the fact that my wife gets that and manages around it. That's fucking hot to me (because I'm a tremendous pain, really) but it's not "put your mouth on my dick" hot. It's another kind of hot that I really didn't understand until I realized someone knew me as well as she knows me.
 
onlinemoniez said:
When I meet the right girl I'll stay with her until the chemicals in my brain tell me otherwise. We know that "falling in love" is simply chemicals. I'll keep my wallet and my dignity. Will never happen for me unless I stand to make some serious cash on the deal or if her dad owns a business I can take over.
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Prenup FTW!
 
Because she got preggers and I figured it was the right thing to do.

Been happily divorced for a couple years now :)
 
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