Why Did You Get Married?
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negative option too.. ftc should be all over this shit instead of wasting time messing up my berry game
I'll get married when I fall in some sad and complacent state which makes the restrictions and conformism required of having a life long partner seem better than my absolute freedom.
i was like that and then i met someone i wanted to be with, i was kinda pissed about the timing because i wanted to be single.. it worked out. you'll know what i mean when u meet one
wtf? bitter? just telling the truth. that shit is a fact. Plus I'm a happy un-married man.
I think about this a fair amount. I have friends my age getting married (best man in my best friend's wedding in June), and then some older friends who are now going through marriage difficulties.
I DO want to have kids. At least 2, but hopefully 3 or 4. I'm all about "spreadin this seed", and want to find someone worthy of sharing my genes with.
However, I am struggling with the idea and institution of marriage. Especially here in California, where so much of the hard work I've done can get ripped away SO easily.
At this point, I don't think I want to enter the institution. And if I do, it'll be after I'm already very comfortably wealthy, and I'm getting an iron-clad pre-nup. You enter with nothing, you leave with nothing. And if I marry an ambitious woman who strikes it rich, I deserve the same.
Sidenote: If you're ever in loud alpha male drinking party mode, go to the bar and scream shit like "WHO WANTS TO GET A PRENUP!!!" and stuff. You will get fun responses.
I DO want to have kids. At least 2, but hopefully 3 or 4. I'm all about "spreadin this seed", and want to find someone worthy of sharing my genes with.
However, I am struggling with the idea and institution of marriage. Especially here in California, where so much of the hard work I've done can get ripped away SO easily.
At this point, I don't think I want to enter the institution. And if I do, it'll be after I'm already very comfortably wealthy, and I'm getting an iron-clad pre-nup. You enter with nothing, you leave with nothing. And if I marry an ambitious woman who strikes it rich, I deserve the same.
Sidenote: If you're ever in loud alpha male drinking party mode, go to the bar and scream shit like "WHO WANTS TO GET A PRENUP!!!" and stuff. You will get fun responses.
im not yet married, but im looking forward to that.
for every situation there are cons and pros, and for me it's just a usual things if married couple encountered problems that will end up the relationship. That depends on the person on how they manage to fix these things. If there's LOVE, I think everything will be settled.
for every situation there are cons and pros, and for me it's just a usual things if married couple encountered problems that will end up the relationship. That depends on the person on how they manage to fix these things. If there's LOVE, I think everything will be settled.
you get married because one day you will be old and meeting the opposite sex get substantially harder. Different people have different emotions built by the way they were brought up. Some people see life/love at a very "literal" sense. Sure in theory marriage doesn't make much sense especially looking at recent statistics, however its not that easy.
Most people who had a long relationship understand, emotions influence your brain and actions. Having a healthy sense of emotions is huge.
Most people who had a long relationship understand, emotions influence your brain and actions. Having a healthy sense of emotions is huge.
I'm 24 yrs old with no plans on getting married anytime soon, if ever. To me it creates an unnecessary sense of commitment which can end up as a huge legal and financial bind (especially as a male) if your partner transforms into someone you didn't think they were.
I believe that men are more polygamous in nature as well. On the most basic primal level, men can fuck tons different women and knock up many of them at the same time, while women are limited to finding and counting on a single man to be there and protect herself and the baby.
So legally (most of the time), and instinctively (every time), marriage is more beneficial to women then it is to men.
I believe that men are more polygamous in nature as well. On the most basic primal level, men can fuck tons different women and knock up many of them at the same time, while women are limited to finding and counting on a single man to be there and protect herself and the baby.
So legally (most of the time), and instinctively (every time), marriage is more beneficial to women then it is to men.
Hmmm..
Did all that before getting married. We were living together for 6 years and had been together for 9.
The reason then is simply love and after a few years, there was no question in my mind that I wanted to get married to her at one point - waited too long IMHO.
As a signalling device, it is powerful, and in most countries it also has legal consequences. Things like contracts, etc..
A very cruel experience for my wife was when she was not allowed in the emergency room because we were not married.
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Did all that before getting married. We were living together for 6 years and had been together for 9.
The reason then is simply love and after a few years, there was no question in my mind that I wanted to get married to her at one point - waited too long IMHO.
As a signalling device, it is powerful, and in most countries it also has legal consequences. Things like contracts, etc..
A very cruel experience for my wife was when she was not allowed in the emergency room because we were not married.
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Interesting insight. I can certainly understand this as a logical reason to marry. Especially since access to you in an emergency room would be otherwise denied.
For those of you speaking of pre-nups, remember... having one does not guarantee protection (despite what a lawyer claims). It is like a wall protecting your home from intruders. You will only know its strength when it is tested.
I have a good friend who was screwed after having an "airtight" pre-nup created (to the tune of millions). This, after hiring a PI to take vivid pictures of his wife cheating, over and over and over. I'm sure many of you know similar tales.
Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not
This is something we would like to know more about. What exact legal circumstances broke the pre-nup?
I'm only 19 so I am aware I don't have much life experience but I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years now and I know I want to get married to her one day. I don't feel that she'll leave me or cheat on me if we never got married, it just feels like I want to stand infront of everyone and make that commitment to her. Will we last forever? maybe we will and maybe we wont but I want to know that I did everything I could because so far a night with her is better then a night with the guys, the sex is better then any I've had with other girls and when I'm down she picks me up like nobody else ever has. That's what makes me want to promise myself to her.
As far as the monogamy thing goes I have hormones running through me like crazy and my instinctual need to "spread my seed" is probably as strong as it will ever be but I don't have any drive to sleep with anyone else. There have been a few times the offer was there and I just had to say yes but I didn't even consider it for a moment. Hopefully that will be the same in 20 years.
As far as the monogamy thing goes I have hormones running through me like crazy and my instinctual need to "spread my seed" is probably as strong as it will ever be but I don't have any drive to sleep with anyone else. There have been a few times the offer was there and I just had to say yes but I didn't even consider it for a moment. Hopefully that will be the same in 20 years.
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This played a lot into my decision.
I knew I am going to spend the rest of my life with my wife. I don't need some license to tell me that. But all the legal aspects of it were definitely a factor in deciding to get married.
Although, there are plenty of negative consequences to entering into the legal construct of marriage. For instance... there's a third party in every marriage that no one takes into consideration... the State.
Even when this is pointed out, not many seem to think it's a big deal. But consider that even if a married couple decide on a peaceful resolution (hey... it could happen) to their desire to end the marriage, if they have kids, the court still gets involved and officiates over what happens with them.
Just take time to consider whatever you're thinking about doing. :banana_sml:
I guess I got married because my wife wanted to and I really had no strong desire not to be married.
I mean, sure there is no reason to get married. If that is the case, there is also no reason not to be married. It doesn't really provide or take away anything. If anything marriage probably makes men more attractive and available to do things they wanted to do while single. What you do with that is up to you.
I mean, sure there is no reason to get married. If that is the case, there is also no reason not to be married. It doesn't really provide or take away anything. If anything marriage probably makes men more attractive and available to do things they wanted to do while single. What you do with that is up to you.
Reasons people get married:
- Religion
- Tradition
- Peers Expectations
- Laws give more rights to married partners
- Stories and Movies teach women that's what they're supposed to do to feel like a real women.
- Occasionally a man will want it to Lock-Down his wife and make him feel more secure about having that trophy on his arm. It's harder for her to get out of the relationship. I'm not saying everyone, so don't take offense people!
If a person is religious or traditional then there's no question why they're getting married. The religious books tell you to get married so you better fucking do it!
This question really only applies to non-religious people. That said I've been in love and living with a gorgeous women for 7+ years w/out getting married. It's been great. We're committed to each other and will prob get married eventually just because it's a society-norm for couples to do so and because of health insurance benefits and other benefits by law. Those are completely bullshit reasons to get married though and we shouldn't have to do it for those reasons. But fuckit, we live in a ridiculous Christian controlled society and Christians make the laws for now.
IMO marriage should not be something the law even takes into consideration for anything.
Some Law benefits:
- Marriage Tax Penalty has been eliminated. Now you'll only pay less taxes when married, never more taxes than if you filed separately.
- Medical decision capability (if someone is incapacitated)
- Easier to leave your wealth to your spouse
- Yes, non-spouses are not allowed into operating rooms
- other shit i cant think of right now.
- Religion
- Tradition
- Peers Expectations
- Laws give more rights to married partners
- Stories and Movies teach women that's what they're supposed to do to feel like a real women.
- Occasionally a man will want it to Lock-Down his wife and make him feel more secure about having that trophy on his arm. It's harder for her to get out of the relationship. I'm not saying everyone, so don't take offense people!
If a person is religious or traditional then there's no question why they're getting married. The religious books tell you to get married so you better fucking do it!
This question really only applies to non-religious people. That said I've been in love and living with a gorgeous women for 7+ years w/out getting married. It's been great. We're committed to each other and will prob get married eventually just because it's a society-norm for couples to do so and because of health insurance benefits and other benefits by law. Those are completely bullshit reasons to get married though and we shouldn't have to do it for those reasons. But fuckit, we live in a ridiculous Christian controlled society and Christians make the laws for now.
IMO marriage should not be something the law even takes into consideration for anything.
Some Law benefits:
- Marriage Tax Penalty has been eliminated. Now you'll only pay less taxes when married, never more taxes than if you filed separately.
- Medical decision capability (if someone is incapacitated)
- Easier to leave your wealth to your spouse
- Yes, non-spouses are not allowed into operating rooms
- other shit i cant think of right now.