Any advice on being distracted by females? (how it affects success)

[thehobbster]

You end up spending so much time and energy trying to 'make it up to her'

I haven't lost a single power struggle in my current relationship because I learned to not play them. Here is the thing. Somebody in the relationship is going to feel more secure. Right at the beginning of this relationship I established that I would bounce at any moment without second notice and without remorse or sadness. Total detachment. So instead of trying to play power struggles with me, it's already understood that I hold the power. She thinks she wants to be with me more than I want to be with her. That may or may not be true in reality, but it's true in her mind. And I don't have to put up with 90% of the bullshit most guys who don't understand this principle do. I've never "made up" a single thing to her because she can't convince me I messed up.

 

[BigWill]

That doesn't make a whole lot of sense. Plenty of guys stay away from marriage and long term relationships because it's fucking torture for them, not because they aren't capable of doing it.

I agree with liesnillusions, 9 times out of 10 long term relationships are pointless time-sinks and get in the way of ambitions and dreams. Most girls offer little to nothing outside of sex, they suck at stimulating conversation and take every joke seriously. You end up spending so much time and energy trying to 'make it up to her' when she thinks you fucked up when in reality she is emotionally needy and needs to latch on to a stronger person to get through life.

Start taking a tally of how many times your girl expresses that you need to change something to make her happy and vice versa- the girl always wants you to change exponentially more than you want her to. They are vain creatures who train men like dogs using sex as a treat.

It's not like I aim low either, I would never even think of being in a relationship with a girl I would classify as 'stupid' or a whore. I've been in a relationship with a psychology major for almost 2 years now, and I know it's the closest I'm going to get so I'm just sticking with it. I fantasize very often about being free of it, I certainly wouldn't say that someone who chooses to stay away from these relationships has a 'shitty personality', there's a big difference between avoiding relationships and being unable to maintain them.

I personally know plenty of amazing women. In fact some of my best friends are girls. I guess most guys don't know how to work a relationship. Guys who stay away from a relationship because its "torture" are obviously beta and with low quality women.

Like I said before real girls will support you, take care of you, encourage you, look up to you and respect you.

 

[BigWill]

I haven't lost a single power struggle in my current relationship because I learned to not play them. Here is the thing. Somebody in the relationship is going to feel more secure. Right at the beginning of this relationship I established that I would bounce at any moment without second notice and without remorse or sadness. Total detachment. So instead of trying to play power struggles with me, it's already understood that I hold the power. She thinks she wants to be with me more than I want to be with her. That may or may not be true in reality, but it's true in her mind. And I don't have to put up with 90% of the bullshit most guys who don't understand this principle do. I've never "made up" a single thing to her because she can't convince me I messed up.

Yep. Good way to play it.

 

[ayzo]

Its not about minimizing your distractions but maintaining your focus and productivity. It's very easy to sit at your computer for 8 hours and "feel" like you're working when in reality all you've done is dick around and accomplished very little or nothing at all.

 

[EricVonDoobie]

I haven't lost a single power struggle in my current relationship because I learned to not play them. Here is the thing. Somebody in the relationship is going to feel more secure. Right at the beginning of this relationship I established that I would bounce at any moment without second notice and without remorse or sadness. Total detachment. So instead of trying to play power struggles with me, it's already understood that I hold the power. She thinks she wants to be with me more than I want to be with her. That may or may not be true in reality, but it's true in her mind. And I don't have to put up with 90% of the bullshit most guys who don't understand this principle do. I've never "made up" a single thing to her because she can't convince me I messed up.

This is the key

 

[mpbiz]

Anyone who says they don't want to be in a long term relationship or get married is a certified homosexual, or out of touch with reality (or more than likely is a loser with a shitty personality which would explain why they can never find any decent girls).

Maybe our reality is different from yours.. because I make my own.

Your statement is ignorant. It's not about finding decent girls. Women in general need lots of attention. You can tell me all you want that there are women out there who have their own shit going on and will give you your space, but at the end of the day they ALL need more attention and time.

This becomes a problem when you are so motivated that you need to wake up and bust your ass all day to reach a certain goal.

You've been with the same girl since you were 15. I can respect that because you're happy and thats all that matters in life, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't think its hilarious that you met your "soul mate" at 15.

To each his own.

 

[TFLNetwork]

This becomes a problem when you are so motivated that you need to wake up and bust your ass all day to reach a certain goal.

You really must be joking? It becomes a problem? What females are you hanging around with? I have never run into any issues with balancing both. I hit 7 figs with her before i turned 20 and never once did she complain when i wouldn't sleep or take her out on a date for weeks at a time because i was working my ass off. If you are trying to bang random girls, this could be an issue. If you can't balance working with maintaining a relationship, i don't know what to tell you.

And I actually lol'd at the soulmate comment haha.

 

[guysmy]

Funny, it’s always those in long-term relationships that constantly resort to ad hominem attacks directed at those that prefer to be single. Why are the unattached such a threat?

Some prefer the security of a relationship. Others enjoy the freedom of bachelorhood. All of us have experienced both. It comes down to preference and weighing the costs versus benefits.

Having a girlfriend or wife doesn’t automatically make you a sex god and being single doesn’t make you celibate.

Marriage operates contrary to sexual reproduction habits. Men are biologically programmed to spread their seed so it can be argued that sticking with one woman for two decades for example works contrary to his natural disposition. The same can be argued for women. It is beneficial to have a male with resources around to help raise the kid, but it would give her more genetic variety if she found a different partner for the next child and so on.

Romantic love peaks early in a relationship and slowly tapers off. What reason is there besides tradition to make pair bonding last “until death do us part”? I congratulate those that can make a lifetime marriage work, but this is simply not realistic for the majority. People fall in and out of love and forcing people to push down these emotions only makes matters worse in the long term.

Veering back to the main topic, it’s in a woman best intrest to encourage her man’s business endeavors. If she is in it for a long haul she will back you up. If she isn’t (or has personality flaws), she will put her own immediate needs first thus making it easier for you to drop the ball.

 

[Unarmed Gunman]

First of all - to each his own.

That being said - money isn't everything. If your entire life revolves around making money I feel bad for you and would suggest you adjust your priorities. I've made a lot of money in my life and lost a lot too but my family has always been there. For me, there is nothing more rewarding in life than playing with my kids, teaching them about life and just enjoying time with my family. As Big Will said, the right woman is a huge asset and if your woman isn't then you've got the wrong one. Building a team of people around you that you can trust will outlast anything else.

Once you've lost everything you own it makes it so much easier to see what really matters in life. Now that I live comfortably I refuse to forget that lesson.

 

[dmnEPC]

First of all - to each his own.

That being said - money isn't everything. If your entire life revolves around making money I feel bad for you and would suggest you adjust your priorities. I've made a lot of money in my life and lost a lot too but my family has always been there. For me, there is nothing more rewarding in life than playing with my kids, teaching them about life and just enjoying time with my family. As Big Will said, the right woman is a huge asset and if your woman isn't then you've got the wrong one. Building a team of people around you that you can trust will outlast anything else.

Once you've lost everything you own it makes it so much easier to see what really matters in life. Now that I live comfortably I refuse to forget that lesson.

+rep

Someone who actually gets the meaning of true success and is destined for great things.

 

[cardine]

Anyone who says they don't want to be in a long term relationship or get married is a certified homosexual, or out of touch with reality (or more than likely is a loser with a shitty personality which would explain why they can never find any decent girls).

It's nice to know that you're so secure in your beliefs that you need to personally attack anyone who doesn't think exactly like you.

 

[Bombastic]

My first year full time in IM, I had a girlfriend and stuck with her. I could focus. If I didn`t have her at that time I don`t think I could have gotten as far with it as I did.

Now I don`t have a girlfriend, but I tend to go in waves. Like, focus on work for like 3 weeks then take one week to focus on meeting new girls, then go back to work for 3 weeks and just go on dates with those girls I met during that week. I don`t get mentally distracted by dates, only by picking the girls up in the first place.

Some guys can balance their life better, and just party on the weekends and work on the weekdays, but I can`t because I get into a focused zone and have to stay there a while to build momentum without interruption, whether it`s work or girls.

The solution though may be no masturbation. I`m a week into a no fapping mission and I`m becoming a beast in both zones simultaneously. In Think and Grow Rich Napolean Hill doesn`t spell it out explicitly, but it`s pretty clear to me that he`s referring to no fapping when he talks about transmutation of sexual energy.

 

[infoslob]

I think it was Berto who had posted that he had found success by masturbating less.

Cheers to Berto, the guiding light.

 

[dmnEPC]

The solution though may be no masturbation. I`m a week into a no fapping mission and I`m becoming a beast in both zones simultaneously. In Think and Grow Rich Napolean Hill doesn`t spell it out explicitly, but it`s pretty clear to me that he`s referring to no fapping when he talks about transmutation of sexual energy.

wo wo wo slow down there. There is a fine line in the masturbation mission. Pretty much what he is talking about is the 3 times a day or even the daily fap that needs to be watched (maybe watched is the wrong word). The problem is if your deliberately going to deprive yourself of that release whether solo or part of a some variation of a group you may find that after a certain amount of time (maybe a week maybe 4) that's going to come back and bite you.

If you find yourself on the no cumming diet for to long your going to lose that focus and pretty much be distracted and looking for that release all the time. So go ahead walk the line but don't be afraid to find the perfect balance for you.

 

[ShadowCaster]

Huh, so that means that we should wank off moderately?

 

[dmnEPC]

Huh, so that means that we should wank off moderately?

If you want to lead a balanced life where your in charge of your decisions and not your dick you may want to consider it.

 

[ShadowCaster]

If you want to lead a balanced life where your in charge of your decisions and not your dick you may want to consider it.

Well that might just be one of the most valuable advices I've gotten in WF. I'll surely try that.

 

[handrewrites]

I know this is not an answer for 99 %. But I believe it's a fact. Unless you have an all pervading, almost insane drive in you to achieve something -- you will be distracted by chicks. And even then they will still fuck with your head at times. At least this was my personal experience fwiw.

Hell even when you're in a situation where your life is at risk you can get distracted by chicks. There was a study a while back that showed that men performed more poorly on tests after speaking to an attractive female.

A real female will encourage you to go farther in business/life.

Only if it benefits them somehow (i.e. you're married to her). I don't think there's anything wrong with that just as I don't think there's anything wrong with me being hard-wired to impregnate as many attractive females as possible.

Why are there so many guys who seem to put pussy up on a pedestal? This is one of the dumbest posts I've ever seen.... how do you get "distracted by females"? My girl sits downstairs and doesn't bother me all day when I'm working. You just need to find the right girl.. And like BigWill said above, the right girl will push you, not hold you back.

It's okay bro, this is the gay webmaster forum. You can crawl out of the closet now.

And sure, getting into a long-term relationship automatically makes you not attracted to other females. That's why cheating doesn't exist.

I've been with the same girl for a long time and it's impacted my business for sure, mostly for the better. The only downside is the sheer volume of time it takes to maintain a relationship. I'm not distracted by females at this point, I'm distracted by the relationship--which isn't nearly as bad since relationships are relatively stable compared to picking up/getting rid of women on a constant cycle.

I say you're with the right girl if you're not distracted by other girls.

lol if they're that much of a distraction then just opt for grade A hookers.

Not a bad idea in fact.

Funny, it’s always those in long-term relationships that constantly resort to ad hominem attacks directed at those that prefer to be single. Why are the unattached such a threat?

Some prefer the security of a relationship. Others enjoy the freedom of bachelorhood. All of us have experienced both. It comes down to preference and weighing the costs versus benefits.

Having a girlfriend or wife doesn’t automatically make you a sex god and being single doesn’t make you celibate.

Marriage operates contrary to sexual reproduction habits. Men are biologically programmed to spread their seed so it can be argued that sticking with one woman for two decades for example works contrary to his natural disposition. The same can be argued for women. It is beneficial to have a male with resources around to help raise the kid, but it would give her more genetic variety if she found a different partner for the next child and so on.

Romantic love peaks early in a relationship and slowly tapers off. What reason is there besides tradition to make pair bonding last “until death do us part”? I congratulate those that can make a lifetime marriage work, but this is simply not realistic for the majority. People fall in and out of love and forcing people to push down these emotions only makes matters worse in the long term.

Veering back to the main topic, it’s in a woman best intrest to encourage her man’s business endeavors. If she is in it for a long haul she will back you up. If she isn’t (or has personality flaws), she will put her own immediate needs first thus making it easier for you to drop the ball.

qft

 

[ZeroOne]

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[thehobbster]

My lady actually came up with the idea for my highest earning site. And even wrote a good portion of the content.