full time job + girlfriend = no internet monies

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so....ive been working hard on my first few sites, feeling focused, determined, and optimistic, but my gf of 3 years is stressing the shit out of me about being on the computer "too much".

after i get off work and hit the gym, i have about 3 hours of internet time on week days and as much as need on the week ends, but she is putting a major guilt trip on me about not spending enough time with her. she hates it when im on the computer, so now even when i do set aside work time, i know shes pissed at that very moment and it fucks with my focus. even on the wk ends now, as soon i get up to get on the pc she makes some smart ass remark or sighs or something to let me know she isnt happy about it. on one hand, i can see her point, this thing is taking up a lot of my time and that def cuts into the time we can spend together. on the other hand, ive got some fucking goals and ive got a long ass ways to go. hell, i feel like the time i do have to work isnt sufficient.

not sure what im expecting by writing this, i would just rather vent this out to people who understand the kind of dedication, and damn near obsession it takes to achieve things sometimes. ive tried to explain this to her, but she just doesnt get it. if it were up to her, id just go on with my mediocre 9-5 gig and spend all my time with her.

im sure some of you have similar experiences?...
 


Dump the dumb bitch.

On a serious note, she is being unreasonable but she isn't asking for much. You seriously need to talk to her about this than some random guys on the internet that are going to make fun of you. Communication is key. Tell her all of this exactly, tell her you aren't goofing off you are trying to achieve goals.

That said, if she wants some time why don't you try to talk to her and schedule some 'together' time..that way she knows when the man is working and to not disturb him.
 
if age <= 25 then dump the bitch, acquire currency
else dump the bitch, acquire currency
 
along the lines of what mattfca said.... it kind of depends on how old you are and how old she is, and a huge thing is communication. i'd sit her down, and tell her that you have ambitions in your life, and that you'd like her to be a part of them, but you're going to need her support (not just for her to stop nagging you, but actual encouragement), because if/when you succeed, you'll both be the beneficiaries of this success. if she does not see this, after you explaining it to her 3 times, i wouldn't dump her at that point, because it'll throw your life into chaos even more, but i would start growing apart from her emotionally and start planning a future without her.
 
You're definitely right that it takes obsession to make it. If she doesn't understand that and insists on acting selfish, you probably have to reevaluate the relationship.

Or just wait till she goes to sleep and stay up all night and work when the house is quiet. You might not be getting enough sleep but the money and the will to succeed has to be the motivation to do it.


At the end of the day you gotta think about yourself.
 
If she isn't in the kitchen making you a sandwich or giving you head while you PPC, you're doing it wrong.
 
show her the money you're making while on there.

wake up before her and get your shit done

stay up after her and get your shit done

ask for x number of hours per day to work, then focus on her.

chicks need unreasonable amounts of attention at unreasonable times (PROVE ME WRONG 6 WF GIRLS!) so just pacify her then fucking hustle like there's no tomorrow. Buy her shit with the money you make, and make sure she knows where the money came from.
 
If the girl is important make time, sit her down and tell her your goals, ask her how much time she sees as reasonable.

If all else fails just learn to sleep less. I've worked some 14+ hour days at work and come home to having 4-6 hours of work to do before I could sleep. All part of trying to make something of yourself/your sites.
 
if she's not supportive of your goals then its not gonna work out bro. You all could work out set date nights where you don't do any work and make sure you give her your full attention, but if she's going to be all snarky and shit for you trying to better yourself, I say you punt.

Stay on your purpose.
 
Once you start bringing in cash from your sites, her stance will change. I went through something similar; all it took was finally making money.
 
AdvExtreamer said:
along the lines of what mattfca said.... it kind of depends on how old you are and how old she is, and a huge thing is communication. i'd sit her down, and tell her that you have ambitions in your life, and that you'd like her to be a part of them, but you're going to need her support (not just for her to stop nagging you, but actual encouragement), because if/when you succeed, you'll both be the beneficiaries of this success. if she does not see this, after you explaining it to her 3 times, i wouldn't dump her at that point, because it'll throw your life into chaos even more, but i would start growing apart from her emotionally and start planning a future without her.
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This is some good advice.
 
Yeah I've been with my girl for well over a year now and it's definitely had a negative impact on my business.

I'd love to give you some advice... but I have no fucking clue what to tell you sir... I'm in need of advice myself lol
 
dude you gonna have to lie and tell her your schedule changed. for example if your current fulltime job is from 8a-4p and she expects you home and available at about 5p....

then tell her your shift is now from 10a-6p so she wont expect you free until 7p
that way when you get off work at 4p go straight to the library or stay in your office till 6p doing your AM work.

something similar works for me, what the wife (and kids) dont know wont hurt them.
but yeah once they see you come home and jump on the computer they think you are ignoring them, it sucks, u gonna have to adapt.
 
Danc1122 said:
Yeah I've been with my girl for well over a year now and it's definitely had a negative impact on my business.

I'd love to give you some advice... but I have no fucking clue what to tell you sir... I'm in need of advice myself lol
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lol me too.

I've been with my girlfritned for almost 3 years now.

hummmmmmm

she hates it when i'm on my PC whenever i'm with her.

So, what i do is... I stay up longer than her and i wake up earlier than her.

but then i think she kinda understands how important it is now tho..
 
I had a similar experience a couple of years ago and the relationship ended for that reason. I was a workaholic, she didn't understand it, different career trajectories...

Looking back, I was 20 years old and she was even younger so I could understand her position. Most 20 year olds aren't driven by something to the point of obsession, which is fine when you're on your own. But date a young girl who doesn't understand why you'd choose to work on a Friday night and it's a recipe for disaster.

If it's any encouragement, life becomes a lot easier once you're successful enough to remove the burden of the day job and spend your regular working hours on the shit you actually want to do. But if you're anything like me, you'll never be free from the weight of your own expectations.

She sounds pretty high maintenance so personally, I'd be out of there. I don't see any good in lying about changed work hours, or in starving yourself of sleep to try and duck her sighs. Working through the night is fair enough, but doing it just to avoid the sleeping dragon sounds like a fast track route to resenting her as the biggest problem in your life.
 
If you ask me, most women are never satisfied when it comes to these things. You are probably going to have to make a really tough decision; work on your projects or be with her. Women have an odd complex that for some reason or another, they feel like the world revolves around them. They don't look into the future, and they don't necessarily think about what's best in the long term.

Honestly you'll get a lot more done without her around, and you shouldn't feel like you should have to devote all your extra time to her. It really takes a special woman to understand otherwise.

I would also hedge a bet that she has no real personal hobbies or close friends, because if she did it wouldn't be that much of an issue. Let's face it, most women hate all other women so that's not surprising. Also most women are too worried about getting married and making babies to have hobbies. So what the fuck are you going to do? Most of the time you spend with her I would also bet is basically down time cuddling, watching TV, or other time wasting bullshit.
 
AdvExtreamer said:
along the lines of what mattfca said.... it kind of depends on how old you are and how old she is, and a huge thing is communication. i'd sit her down, and tell her that you have ambitions in your life, and that you'd like her to be a part of them, but you're going to need her support (not just for her to stop nagging you, but actual encouragement), because if/when you succeed, you'll both be the beneficiaries of this success. if she does not see this, after you explaining it to her 3 times, i wouldn't dump her at that point, because it'll throw your life into chaos even more, but i would start growing apart from her emotionally and start planning a future without her.
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Best response of the thread.

IMO the OPs age plays a significant role here, if young and no kids etc. then sit her down for a good chat, give her a couple of chances, and if she is still driving you mad then show her the door and focus on work.

Make sure you get rid of her before you start to make real monies and/or acquire assets, otherwise she gets half when she walks out the door.
 
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