what about cutting down on your 9-5... to say 4 days a week. dedicate 1 full day per week to IM.
full time job + girlfriend = no internet monies
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Yeh, i think everyone here is right to some degree. I had the same problem, and for me, it was simply a matter of making a little bit of time each day for her. For us, we eat dinner together and play a card game or something similar. I also make sure Friday and Saturday nights we go out and do something fun.
Having a few thousand extra dollars roll in every month didn't hurt either. You just have to make sure she knows your goals. Have very detailed goals of where you want to be in 1 yr, 5 yrs, 10 yrs, etc and make sure she knows how she'll fit into the plan.
It's not an easy conversation, but things will improve once you go through it.
Good luck!
Having a few thousand extra dollars roll in every month didn't hurt either. You just have to make sure she knows your goals. Have very detailed goals of where you want to be in 1 yr, 5 yrs, 10 yrs, etc and make sure she knows how she'll fit into the plan.
It's not an easy conversation, but things will improve once you go through it.
Good luck!
spot on. none of her own hobbies or friends to occupy her. she is a beautiful, loving dedicated girl though *sigh*...and yes. our spending time together is cuddling, tv or shopping at the mall. total dumb fuck time wasters that i couldnt give a shit less about. im honestly not interested in the top ten fights on "the bad girls club" lol, just lost an hour of my time on that dumb shit.
with that said, she isnt totally unreasonable with her requests. im pretty obsessive compulsive by nature anyways, and when i have my mind on something it is the only thing i think about, and therefore the only thing i want to do.
my thoughts exactly, hence my "how long to get to $50 a day consistently" poll that i got so much shit for, lol. i knew i would get some shit for that one, but ive got to either lose the day job or the gf. as soon as i reach $50 daily i have a part time job lined up and ready. hell, i will be able to work on my sites while at work with the job i have waiting.
fuck it, i may just lose the job and the girl....and then the part time job....and be on my way to brazil to fuck caramel colored beauties poolside. :updown:
Now you are thinking. Make it your 2011 business plan to get rich off internet monies then incinerate every last red cent on booze and strippers.
Agreed, Great advice. Never start the LYING GAME. It is going to turn sour on you at the moment you least suspect it, even years afterward.
Truer words have never been spoken.
My GF is really a good, good girl. She tries to give me my space when I am working but she still is a woman and sometimes I have to give in. The benefit is that I am at this full-time and she has a job, so I have a whole chunk of time to grind while she's gone. If I were grinding AFTER a 9 to 5 though, I can imagine it would be ALOT more of a challenge to get some understanding from her.
One thing I will say though, if you are not totally in love and seeing her as your future wife, I'd consider letting her know that she is halting your future plans with her attitude and you need her to understand or get to gettin'....
Most GF's aren't all that special(Proof, look at how many Ex-GF's every man you know has) and if you sacrifice your future earning potential for some chick that you are gonna see walking through the mall with her new boyfriend/husband 3 years from now while smirking at you, you are gonna hate yourself for letting her influence your life so strongly and causing your current "brokeness".
BUT, if she is "that special one" really talk and communicate how this venture will benefit both of you in the future and make sure to reassure her that you truly care about her. Have date nights that you don't break, eat with her and compliment the crap outta her randomly, but genuinely. When she walks by tell her how beautiful she is(RANDOMLY, don't be predictable or repetitive) and how much you appreciate her patience. Leave the computer every once in awhile, walk over to her, give her a kiss on the forehead or cheek and without saying anything just walk back to your computer and go back to working (get ya game up boys...). IF she truly love you she will work with you, if she won't boot her bruh....
Please don't stop--continue with the sophomoric, hackneyed attack--your emotional intelligence is gleaming through every word you type.
This.
Grown women understand that relationships mean sacrifice.
I've always wondered how anyone with any type of major success does so by having a steady girl, so you work + hang out with girl. Ok, when do you have time to yourself? Never? How do you ever think? And in the case where you have a full time job + external job (internet) + girlfriend, I don't see how that's even possible.
i was the same way about my now husband. he spent alot of his free time working on his sites and i felt sort of neglected.
i knew he HAD to work so as a way to spend time with him, i started my own website and we worked across from each other at night. the first site i made now makes $xx,xxx.00 a month and it allows me to NOT work. if you can't beat 'em, join 'em...
now we have a business creating sites and monetizing them together. win/win for both of us.
i knew he HAD to work so as a way to spend time with him, i started my own website and we worked across from each other at night. the first site i made now makes $xx,xxx.00 a month and it allows me to NOT work. if you can't beat 'em, join 'em...
now we have a business creating sites and monetizing them together. win/win for both of us.
if a chick has her own thing going on then they are not so needy.
when i first started dating my now husband, i had a pretty solid career and working 50+ hours a week.
he would work, then we would have dinner together, then watch a movie or something every night...after that, he would get back on the computer for a couple more hours before coming to bed...i learned to do my own thing on the computer during the couple of hours before we went to bed.
i think because i was not very needy is one of the many reasons he married me...he was a self confessed bachelor for life before we met.
You have a full time job and a girlfriend?!!? OH MY GOD, HOW DO YOU FIND THE TIME??!!??
Seriously...so you get off work at 5? Then go to the gym...get home at say 7:30? That gives you 1.5 hours to work out assuming you can be to the gym by 5:30, leave by 7:00, 30 minutes travel to be home at 7:30.
Spend time with your GF all night long until 11 pm or so, like 3 hours. Then spend 3 hours on the computer until 2 am, go to bed. Sleep for 6 hours, get up at 8 and go to work.
What do you do for lunch? Eat at your desk or whatever, and go to the gym during your lunch break. Now you have even more time.
What's the problem again?
Figure out your priorities man.
Spend time with your GF all night long until 11 pm or so, like 3 hours. Then spend 3 hours on the computer until 2 am, go to bed. Sleep for 6 hours, get up at 8 and go to work.
What do you do for lunch? Eat at your desk or whatever, and go to the gym during your lunch break. Now you have even more time.
What's the problem again?
Figure out your priorities man.
eat, go to gym, train, shower, and come back to work in my 30 min lunch break? ok.
its easy to break it down on paper like that but it doesnt translate into reality very accurately.
Definitely this. When I was working full time, I would take my laptop with me, and at lunch would work like a champ out of my car in front of a restaurant that had wifi. You can get quite a bit done in an hour if you really focus.
