Married w/ prenup?

Ar Scion

Ar Scion

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Anyone here married with a prenup?

Would you recommend one?

Whenever the topic comes up the girl will more than likely go "You want a prenup? That means you don't love/trust me."

How do you handle it without getting sucked into that frame of "Rendering yourself financially liable for my wellbeing for the rest of your life even after divorce is what true love is all about?"
 


if the girl doesn't want to marry you if you demand a pre-nup, I think it's pretty obvious you shouldn't marry her anyways
 
I was thinking a sunset clause on the prenup would make her happier. Like a 20 year sunset clause
 
I didn't get a pre-nup despite everyone pushing me to do so (including the fiancé) due to substantial family assets. I didn't see the need because I didn't think there was anyway I'd be getting divorced (had been together for 6 years prior). Eight months later I'm separated. On the plus side, I got divorced so soon everything is unambiguously NOT common property. Enjoy poverty, slut (I'm not bitter).

Get a fucking pre-nup. If she's insulted, dump the fucking bitch.
 
Is there a benefit you receive after marriage that you cannot enjoy unmarried, and with your girl? Emp brought up a good point here (start of that thread), but few people get married for that reason alone. Usually, it's an emotional reason. Something that belies logic.

Regarding prenups, watch yourself. Just because a prenup exists does not mean it will stand if challenged. Every state is different. Some respect it more than others.

Example (full article)...

"Cynthia Rodriguez believes her marriage to Yankee slugger Alex Rodriguez is "irretrievably broken." She wants their two kids, their $12 million Florida mansion and her Mercedes.

"She also wants a "determination as to the validity or enforceability" of the prenuptial agreement they signed before getting married.

"Just because Cynthia signed a prenup does not mean a judge won't throw it out, divorce attorneys told ABC News. Airtight prenuptial agreements are rare, and a number of factors can give an angry spouse the means to get out of it.

"Rules for prenups vary from state to state, and each contract has to be evaluated on its individual merits."
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clockwork84 said:
I didn't get a pre-nup despite everyone pushing me to do so (including the fiancé) due to substantial family assets. I didn't see the need because I didn't think there was anyway I'd be getting divorced (had been together for 6 years prior). Eight months later I'm separated. On the plus side, I got divorced so soon everything is unambiguously NOT common property. Enjoy poverty, slut (I'm not bitter).

Get a fucking pre-nup. If she's insulted, dump the fucking bitch.
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Nobody goes into marriage expecting a divorce, but it happens regardless. Congratulations for getting out of it early and saving your assets though.
 
Ar Scion said:
Nobody goes into marriage expecting a divorce
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Some do ... both men and women...


Anyway, remember that a pre-nup will only cover your pre-marital assets. If you have substantial financial / liquid assets, you may want to consider using those to buy / invest in illiquid assets (e.g. real estate).

After marriage, financial assets are easily co-mingled (b/c of interest on cash, dividends on stock, etc.).

If you hold title to a piece of real estate in your name, it's easier to keep this asset separate.
 
Trademark said:
Is there a benefit you receive after marriage that you cannot enjoy unmarried, and with your girl? Emp brought up a good point here (start of that thread), but few people get married for that reason alone. Usually, it's an emotional reason. Something that belies logic.

Regarding prenups, watch yourself. Just because a prenup exists does not mean it will stand if challenged. Every state is different. Some respect it more than others.

Example (full article)...
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It's psychological. When you're young and boning girls left and right, marriage is unthinkable. But you eventually grow up and learn to accept it. There's the stability and peace of mind.

It comes to everyone eventually, if you ask me.
 
Ar Scion said:
I was thinking a sunset clause on the prenup would make her happier. Like a 20 year sunset clause
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This is a nice idea, find a happy medium that says this is not just about business it's also about love and this contract underscores what marriage is everyday, and that's compromise.
 
CPAPIMP said:
just keep shit in the companies name, and not your personal/joint account.
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That won't keep divorce attorneys and judges awarding her half the company. They will say that she was there to help support you emotionally and with advice while your business grew.

A prenuptial agreement is the only way to help mitigate (notice the word, mitigate, not eliminate) the risk of losing half your "current" assets through a divorce. Since everyone leaves the marriage with what they entered it with.

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To the OP: Just point out that the agreement doesn't say you distrust her, but you want to keep your business assets separate from your personal assets.

Like Nicky said, it's a business decision. Just make sure you're incorporated prior to an agreement being signed.
 
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