Professional Pick Up Coaching For Internet Marketing - Trade Skills
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Think like an insurance agent. Here's what to say:
"Let's get some coffee. Today at 4:00 or Thursday at 5:00. What works better for you?"
Her: "What about Wednesday? You free?"
You: "Nope. Got plans. Today or Thursday. When do you wanna go?"
Bring an attractive friend home but make sure ur neighbor can see you with this friend. A good female friend will wing woman you on this one.
These kinds of situations are dangerous IMO. I'm not going to say that it's impossible to convert this girl, but what I find is that it's MUCH easier to "start over" with a different girl. Once a girl has an opinion on you, it's hard to sway her from it. It's pretty clear and you already said it yourself, she put you in the "friend's zone", and well, it's going to be a uphill battle trying to get out of it.
Yeah, she's basically using you as an "emotional tampon"
Make no mistake, infatuation is a really powerful drug, not that I've ever been in any major drug related withdrawals, but I can confidently say that post-breakup depression has been one of the WORST feelings in my life.
You should start looking at this from an ROI perspective, from the way it sounds you're dropping a LOT of time into this girl and the way it's looking right now, it doesn't seem like it's going to turn around anytime soon.
I think it's real easy to rationalize these situations and think to yourself
"oh she's special"
"oh I love her"
"she's the one"
(please don't take offense to this)
when it reality, the root of the problem is just lack of options. If you had 5 other high quality girls vying for your attention, you wouldn't even think twice about this girl. As mentioned in the last post, don't fret over this one girl, learn to have a healthy rotation of girls in your life so you're not reliant upon one.
In anycase, this probably isn't what you wanted to hear and I know you want to know how to get this specific girl. For this girl in specific, I'd recommend you remove yourself from her for at least a couple weeks, you really need to paint it in her mind that you're not just some plan B guy she can always fall back on and that you are in fact a high quality guy with options, you'll be more likely to convert that way. The big problem here is that when you try to physically escalate with her, she'll probably give you flak for it since you didn't set proper precedence in the relationship from the get go.
Hey Bro instead of asking her out and waiting for her response and wondering and thinking about whether or not she is interested in you there is a simple way of telling whether she is or isn't interested and attracted to you.
Msg her on FB and tell her "Here is my number : xxx-xxx-xxxx give me a call some time."
then the ball is in her court and she needs to make the decision to call you.
If she likes you she will call you.
Looks like the OP is giving some good advice and has managed to get his Rep back amazingly enough.
Too passive. Be aggressive.
Always be closing. Whether to get coffee, get laid, or get married.
This is going to sound terribly misogynistic, but the more you do pick up the more you'll realize that women love being told what to do. When you ask a woman what she wants, she'll often say "a confident guy", "a guy who's in control", "a guy that will protect me", etc etc. You need to be willing to lead the interaction.
It's in the wording and the frame control. A lot of guys, when they ask a girl on a date, they'll say "So... like... do you want to get coffee sometime?" and their hesitance is reflected in their tonality.
Instead... if you're able to carry the interaction well, make her laugh a bit, and then on a high note as you're parting from the interaction you say "you know what, we're totally getting coffee this week, what're you doing tuesday/wednesday?"
Take the lead, I used to always bitch about how the d-bags always got the girls and it's because they're selfish and don't mind asking for things their way, it's funny/odd what characteristics get rewarded in the field of dating.
I'd have to agree with Jake. A girl will NEVER call you back (well, never want to say never, but it's a VERY low probability).
Gotta man up and make the move! THx for the input though =)
this thread is a god send for me....
my girlfriend likes to suck other guys cocks....i dont know what to do. i believe in being able to grow through your sexuality while being in a relationship, but i dont want indirectly suck multiple cocks....advice?
id really appreciate it..thx man.
my girlfriend likes to suck other guys cocks....i dont know what to do. i believe in being able to grow through your sexuality while being in a relationship, but i dont want indirectly suck multiple cocks....advice?
id really appreciate it..thx man.
That makes SO much sense! Thanks.. Im gonna stop contacting her. Then if there is anything there the ball is in her court and i am not kidding myself.
Thanks a lot!!
* pm me if u want any info.. i do mainly web dev and the like but can point u in the right direction.
Glad to Help
You'll need to elaborate on this, I hope you say isn't true in the literal sense, if you're letting your g/f blow other guys, I think you're being a little too nice... but that's just me =)
np
That makes SO much sense! Thanks.. Im gonna stop contacting her. Then if there is anything there the ball is in her court and i am not kidding myself.
Thanks a lot!!
* pm me if u want any info.. i do mainly web dev and the like but can point u in the right direction.
No Probs.... hope the situation has picked up!
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somebody seeing as you have given some pretty good advice already maybe you can help me out a bit here too...
have you ever had any luck converting a girl from "just friends" to "more than just friends"??
there is a girl i have been hanging out with for ages and she says things to me like she feels really close to me and can really trust me but just isnt ready for a "relationship" right now. im finding it difficult to move our friendship past the stage of just cuddling on the couch sometimes and talking a lot. a few times we have been out and i have tried just putting my arm around her or holding her hand but she goes all quiet for a while and things get uncomfortable, she has kinda pulled away when i have done that as well.
should i just tell her how i feel?? help!
have you ever had any luck converting a girl from "just friends" to "more than just friends"??
there is a girl i have been hanging out with for ages and she says things to me like she feels really close to me and can really trust me but just isnt ready for a "relationship" right now. im finding it difficult to move our friendship past the stage of just cuddling on the couch sometimes and talking a lot. a few times we have been out and i have tried just putting my arm around her or holding her hand but she goes all quiet for a while and things get uncomfortable, she has kinda pulled away when i have done that as well.
should i just tell her how i feel?? help!
Although I have not been on VH1's the PUA i'll add some advice here anyway, its definitely very possible to turn a girl from just friends to more than friends, I used to be , with a lack of better word, beta as fuck and NEVER made ANY sort of move towards ANY girl EVER, then I started i guess growing a bit more into myself and being a bit more confident and was starting to just naturally flirt more with 'everyone' and I noted alot of my strictly friendly female friends responded well to this and took it from there.
Though there are definetly also situations where getting girls from friends to more than friends is hard\impossible. If you are already have a somewhat cuddly\physical sort of situation going i would just try to take it from friendlycuddly to something a bit more sexual. If you are willing to risk the friendship\feel like the friendship is worthless if it doesnt grow into something more then you might aswell just go for it.
She might be a bit more hesitant to show a favorable response to your "moves" because of your friendship so you might have to push a bit further without nescesarily getting any response at first. When you put your arm around her and she goes quiet\pulls a bit back it MIGHT be she is thinking "oh shit I dont want this /I Hope he doesnt like me this way" But it could also be her just being unsure if you are just doing 'whatever' or if you are actually trying to bring your friendship into something more.
She does not want to be the one to take it to the next level, so she gets uncomfortable because she doesnt know what to do, and does not want to risk the friendship by making the next move herself The pulling away part could be her wanting to find out if you are just going to let her go (and take that as a sign that you were just doing whatever) or if you pull her in as a sign that things might be 'on'.
One thing you can do to create alot of sexual tension without doing much is upping the eye contact I assume yall might have been having significantly. Eye contact is such an awesome too for projecting sexuality. As a last note having 'the talk' with her about your feelings and whatnot is (in my opinon) not at all a good idea ever. It projects all the wrong things, and the few times it does work, is when she also by some magical misshap has "feelings" for you, if this is the case then just taking control of the situation and making things a bit more sexual between you would work every time.
Hey Man,
Everyone's been through that kind of situation at some point. Once you've done pick up for a while, you'll realize that while the social tips/tricks are helpful, it's the shifts in perspective that truly change you as a person.
e.g it's one thing to say that you don't really care about rejection on a rational level, but when you walk into a bar and get denied 5x straight and still keep your head up, that takes experience & work to build up that mental tenacity.
I see a lot of guys in your position, it's easy to get hung up on one girl, especially when you've known her for so long. You need to realize at this point, that she's probably using you as an emotional tampon, which quite frankly, isn't fair to you, nor is it optimal use of your time. And from your side, it's not necessarily easy break away from it given the amount of time you've "invested" in her.
At this point, she's already made her decision on you and it sounds like she's put you in the friend's zone.
I think a guy earlier had a similar question. At this point, you need to start respecting your own time, if she's not going to convert, you definitely need to move on and to answer your question, YES, you should tell her exactly how you feel.... that:
1. You have sexual interest in her and would love to pursue that route.
2. If she doesn't feel the same, that it's Okay and that you'll simply move on and it's no big deal.
At which point, you'll need to demonstrate to her that you have options. It's a little counterintuitive to begin but bottom line, girls want a guy with high value, she wants to feel as if she's "conquered" you. It's that "oh I want a challenge" bullshit girls always say.
Hope that helps, shift your perspective & the rest will follow
I don't know shit about this PUA bullshit. But I use to say shit like this too and it never worked. You've got to be a confident, aggressive and make her laugh. That's pretty much it. And the best way to make her laugh is to make fun of her and tease her. You can get away with saying pretty much anything as long as you say it with a smile or a little smirk.
And like someone else said, girls like to be told what to do.. whether they admit it or not. Don't ask her questions.. especially cheesy shit like "how was your day" when you don't even know her yet. Why? Because you don't really care how her day was.. and she knows that. And if she doesn't, well she's gonna think of you as a good friend, not someone she wants to fuck.
When you send her a text... it should make her laugh, get her mad (in a good way), surprise her, catch her off guard, or ANYTHING to stimulant her emotions. When you ask her "how was your day"... she feels no emotions from that.. it's just a typical, boring question that 5 other guys probably ask her everyday too.
Then again, maybe this only works on highschool girls, but I doubt it. I've been in a relationship for about a year and half and this is what you have to constantly do to keep her interested.
The simplest way to put this.. is you need to act like a fucking BOSS. A boss is confident, straight forward, stubborn, aggressive, unapologetic and knows what the fuck he wants in life. You gotta act like a boss in business AND person life. It makes you look interesting, exciting, unique, and better than her. It works bro... just look at fucking Charlie Sheen. lmao
PS - And like everything in life, it takes practice. You gotta fail and fuck up several times before you get it right. But eventually you will start to understand how they're minds work. Just don't be afraid to fuck up or else you'll never progress.
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