So my girlfriend has been using a dildo molded from her ex-boyfriend's penis, and freaked out when I confronted her about it. Am I in the wrong?
I've been with my [23f] girlfriend for almost a year now. I knew her a little bit before we started dating and hooked up with her pretty soon after she became single.
We have a pretty good sex life. She wants it almost as much as I do and usually our foreplay includes toys, and sometimes we use them while fucking too. Her favorite toy as long as I knew her had been this particular dildo that she'd always had as long as we'd been together. I didn't really think much of it. Sometimes when things were getting hot and heavy she'd hand me the toy and have me thrust it inside of her while I attended to other parts of her body, as this was the best way to make her orgasm. At the time I really thought nothing of it as I know a lot of girls can't cum from PIV.
Full disclosure I had always known my gf kept in touch with some of her ex boyfriends that she was still on good terms with and had been friends before and after their relationship ended. This one guy Tom I knew after hanging out with him once or twice when we were all drinking together, and since she never spent any one on one time with him really I had no problem at all with them getting in touch as I still occasionally talked with girls I dated in college for instance.
One day recently though I saw on her facebook page that she had been tagged in a photo with tom from another mutual friend in some photo from when they were all together + friends from two years ago. I was reading through the comments when the mutual friend said something along the lines of "omg u guys were so cute together!!1
". Well Tom replied to it with "lol haha well at least [my gf's name] still has something to remember me by 
". I thought of course at the time they were just talking about the photo, but when I checked again a few hours later, the comments were gone, all of them, which weirded me out. I asked my GF what Tom had been talking about, about what he meant with the something to remember me by comment. She didn't know what I was talking about at first but then told me about the dildo. Apparently, when she and Tom were still together, they had the idea together to make a mold of his cock using one of those dildo molding kits so that my GF would have something to use when she went to study abroad for the semester. And the dildo was the very same favorite one that we used during our foreplay. I'll admit i freaked the fuck out at the time and told her to get rid of it that instant, that I can't believe she wanted to be fucked using Tom's cock while we were having sex. She yelled back at me telling me that I was acting like a jealous child and that it was just a dildo in her collection and that i was trying to control her. So yeah that convo didn't end well and we kinda cooled off a bit separately.
We had sex since the argument a few days later though we hadn't used the toy. When she was in the bathroom I looked at it again though and started feeling mad all over again. I never really thought about it before but it is bigger and thicker than I am so to speak which of course brought some feelings of inadequacy. I talked to her about it again bringing it up and told her how I felt about it, that I couldn't help feel that in my mind it was like she was preferring tom's cock to mine. She told me it was just plastic to her and that the only reason she had it was because like I mentioned earlier she has a really hard cumming from anything else but somehow the shape of the dildo was the best thing at making her cum compared to any other toy. She said of course my oral skills are even better but that when she is by herself pretty much the only way is using that dildo and not to take it personally, that it's nothing about Tom and all about giving herself the best chance of cumming as possible. I didn't really want to start another fight so I just kind of kept my mouth shut about it.
Still, inside i'm still pretty pissed. Am I just acting overly jealous like she said though? I don't want to come off like those girlfriend's who won't even let their guy watch porn because i've been in one of those relationships and I totally get the control angle. But goddamn it makes me feel like shit knowing that sometimes when she's by herself she is using that dildo to get herself off. Like, is she thinking of me, or Tom? I know she said she thinks of me and what can I say, that she's lying? Ugh. So what should I do cause I don't want to start resenting her for it but I don't want to start another fight.
I've been with my [23f] girlfriend for almost a year now. I knew her a little bit before we started dating and hooked up with her pretty soon after she became single.
We have a pretty good sex life. She wants it almost as much as I do and usually our foreplay includes toys, and sometimes we use them while fucking too. Her favorite toy as long as I knew her had been this particular dildo that she'd always had as long as we'd been together. I didn't really think much of it. Sometimes when things were getting hot and heavy she'd hand me the toy and have me thrust it inside of her while I attended to other parts of her body, as this was the best way to make her orgasm. At the time I really thought nothing of it as I know a lot of girls can't cum from PIV.
Full disclosure I had always known my gf kept in touch with some of her ex boyfriends that she was still on good terms with and had been friends before and after their relationship ended. This one guy Tom I knew after hanging out with him once or twice when we were all drinking together, and since she never spent any one on one time with him really I had no problem at all with them getting in touch as I still occasionally talked with girls I dated in college for instance.
One day recently though I saw on her facebook page that she had been tagged in a photo with tom from another mutual friend in some photo from when they were all together + friends from two years ago. I was reading through the comments when the mutual friend said something along the lines of "omg u guys were so cute together!!1
". Well Tom replied to it with "lol haha well at least [my gf's name] still has something to remember me by ". I thought of course at the time they were just talking about the photo, but when I checked again a few hours later, the comments were gone, all of them, which weirded me out. I asked my GF what Tom had been talking about, about what he meant with the something to remember me by comment. She didn't know what I was talking about at first but then told me about the dildo. Apparently, when she and Tom were still together, they had the idea together to make a mold of his cock using one of those dildo molding kits so that my GF would have something to use when she went to study abroad for the semester. And the dildo was the very same favorite one that we used during our foreplay. I'll admit i freaked the fuck out at the time and told her to get rid of it that instant, that I can't believe she wanted to be fucked using Tom's cock while we were having sex. She yelled back at me telling me that I was acting like a jealous child and that it was just a dildo in her collection and that i was trying to control her. So yeah that convo didn't end well and we kinda cooled off a bit separately.We had sex since the argument a few days later though we hadn't used the toy. When she was in the bathroom I looked at it again though and started feeling mad all over again. I never really thought about it before but it is bigger and thicker than I am so to speak which of course brought some feelings of inadequacy. I talked to her about it again bringing it up and told her how I felt about it, that I couldn't help feel that in my mind it was like she was preferring tom's cock to mine. She told me it was just plastic to her and that the only reason she had it was because like I mentioned earlier she has a really hard cumming from anything else but somehow the shape of the dildo was the best thing at making her cum compared to any other toy. She said of course my oral skills are even better but that when she is by herself pretty much the only way is using that dildo and not to take it personally, that it's nothing about Tom and all about giving herself the best chance of cumming as possible. I didn't really want to start another fight so I just kind of kept my mouth shut about it.
Still, inside i'm still pretty pissed. Am I just acting overly jealous like she said though? I don't want to come off like those girlfriend's who won't even let their guy watch porn because i've been in one of those relationships and I totally get the control angle. But goddamn it makes me feel like shit knowing that sometimes when she's by herself she is using that dildo to get herself off. Like, is she thinking of me, or Tom? I know she said she thinks of me and what can I say, that she's lying? Ugh. So what should I do cause I don't want to start resenting her for it but I don't want to start another fight.
