Before I answer this - how old are you? (because that will affect my answer)
Staying faithful..
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Before I answer this - how old are you? (because that will affect my answer)
31
To be clear, I'm not proud of the fact that I cheat.. I think you should respect people's emotions, but I do it anyway.
I can def relate to this. Girls don't exactly share that sentiment though... and yes, I've tried to pull it off.
Thing is... I feel guilty for cheating, but I don't feel guilty for having this over whelming desire to fuck every piece of ass that walks by... I'm an animal living under societal rules that are not in line with nature. Not saying we would should all act on our desires and act like a bunch of monkeys doing whatever we want... just that the urge is there. What the fuck can I do about it? In my twenties I thought it would fade with age, but now I'm starting to think the urge will be around longer than I anticipate.
It makes things really tempting and damn near impossible for me to resist if I think there is even a 20% chance that I can have the girl of the moment. And I don't suffer from shyness issues.. I will talk to any random female at the supermarket.. The urge controls me lol.
the fucking around is not the problem with cheating. Its the lying and deceit. Just be honest and tell them you will probably stray at some point, and that you will tell her when and if that happens.
It wont be a big deal because she's probably a whore and will have already done the same by the that time. The difference is she will defiantly lie about it. Women are way more deceitful then men so don't worry to much about it. Its your god given right as a man to do what you want, when you want, and with who you want. As you should already know you dont need to ask her you simply tell her
It wont be a big deal because she's probably a whore and will have already done the same by the that time. The difference is she will defiantly lie about it. Women are way more deceitful then men so don't worry to much about it. Its your god given right as a man to do what you want, when you want, and with who you want. As you should already know you dont need to ask her you simply tell her
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No body will say it, but what if a Scarlet Johannson or wheoever your celeb crush is gets naked in front of you.. You gonna say, I have a girl friend?
Damn it.... Any good loooking female for that matter....
Ok.. I will just walk away, but not everyone can..
No body will say it, but what if a Scarlet Johannson or wheoever your celeb crush is gets naked in front of you.. You gonna say, I have a girl friend?
Damn it.... Any good loooking female for that matter....
Ok.. I will just walk away, but not everyone can..
You have low T. PM me and I can send you a free bottle of pills and if you like them which I know you will, do nothing and I will send you another bottle every 30 days for the low price of $69.95.
Red flag.
Personally think you're just a damaged individual with no self-control... but... And honestly as much as I think all this is bullshit....
Sex addiction?
Semi-relevant: A letter from Ronald Reagan to his son concerning marriage:
Letters of Note: Love, Dad
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Humans are not biologically designed to be monogamous, despite what society has told you. Men are designed to spread their seed far and wide to increase chances of successful dispersion of genes. Women are designed to seek out most masculine and wealthy partners available which means they are always looking to upgrade. So in essence, men are designed to seek more mates, and women are designed to seek better mates, neither of which leads to monogamy.
To understand the societal theory of monogamy it is necessary to understand the original purpose of marriage. If you read the Torah you will see that a married man having sex with an unmarried woman is not considered adultery. For adultery to be committed the woman involved must be married, because the crime of adultery is actually a crime against the husband. We have perverted this original intention over time, but the basis for the law is to avoid a man giving his wealth to another mans child.
Marriage was originally a property transfer, but today it is more resembling a business partnership. You own things jointly, so should you marry don't go after the prettiest face because even the prettiest face grows old, go after the person you would most like to remain in business with for the rest of your life.
In the meantime, if you are not married, there is no such thing as cheating because you have entered into no contract. If you are married, and you need to realize your carnal desires, do so in a manner that doesn't impact your business relationship with your wife. In other words, don't get caught, don't get another woman pregnant, don't let another woman know about your assets, etc. Business is business.
To understand the societal theory of monogamy it is necessary to understand the original purpose of marriage. If you read the Torah you will see that a married man having sex with an unmarried woman is not considered adultery. For adultery to be committed the woman involved must be married, because the crime of adultery is actually a crime against the husband. We have perverted this original intention over time, but the basis for the law is to avoid a man giving his wealth to another mans child.
Marriage was originally a property transfer, but today it is more resembling a business partnership. You own things jointly, so should you marry don't go after the prettiest face because even the prettiest face grows old, go after the person you would most like to remain in business with for the rest of your life.
In the meantime, if you are not married, there is no such thing as cheating because you have entered into no contract. If you are married, and you need to realize your carnal desires, do so in a manner that doesn't impact your business relationship with your wife. In other words, don't get caught, don't get another woman pregnant, don't let another woman know about your assets, etc. Business is business.
Sounds like you're not ready for marriage... and that's fine. I didnt get married until I was 33, because I knew I wasnt ready. However, there will come a time when you value something more than a "piece of pussy".
Long term relationships are about hard work and sacrifice!
I leave you with this adage:
"The grass is NOT greener on the other side... The grass is greener where you water it the most!"
Long term relationships are about hard work and sacrifice!
I leave you with this adage:
"The grass is NOT greener on the other side... The grass is greener where you water it the most!"
Everyone has that urge, and everyone catches themselves glancing in the direction of other women (or guys..whatever you are into) and that is completely normal.
Cheating, however, is a choice.
You can make the choice to take the easy road and give into temptations, just like those that cant make it through a diet or quit smoking etc. Or you can make the conscious effort to fight those urges and kick the negative habit and become a better person.
Then again, in many instances the desire to cheat is there because the relationship does not have the right foundation. If you have no emotion and no regret on toying with your partner's emotions or potentially hurting them, then it is very likely the girl is just not the right one for you. I always thought cheating or having the urge to cheat would be an issue.....never thought I could trust myself let alone trust my partner.
And then I found the right girl and it's become the easiest thing in the world.
Cheating is not a choice or an option I give myself nor one that I even consider....and that is the choice I make.
While others give into their urges and instant satisfaction/cravings of cheating due to their "need for variety" and really choose the short term benefits, I far prefer the long term and that is something that I remind myself time and time again.
Most men will always choose to keep smoking, keep eating poorly, keep cheating...keep giving into whatever that craving/urge is as the short term gain is so enjoyable.
For me....I far prefer planning and looking ahead to my 75th wedding anniversary and being one of the few, strong relationships that stand the test of time.
Can I guarantee that will happen and that nothing will go wrong? Absolutely not.
But the end goal and the long term benefits far outweigh any short term gain that can come from a night out on the town or a one-night stand with some random girl with daddy issues. Being the lone man standing at the end, respecting my wife, and being strong enough to resist those temptations is far more meaningful to me than "having a good time and sleeping around".
To each his own of course....
Cheating, however, is a choice.
You can make the choice to take the easy road and give into temptations, just like those that cant make it through a diet or quit smoking etc. Or you can make the conscious effort to fight those urges and kick the negative habit and become a better person.
Then again, in many instances the desire to cheat is there because the relationship does not have the right foundation. If you have no emotion and no regret on toying with your partner's emotions or potentially hurting them, then it is very likely the girl is just not the right one for you. I always thought cheating or having the urge to cheat would be an issue.....never thought I could trust myself let alone trust my partner.
And then I found the right girl and it's become the easiest thing in the world.
Cheating is not a choice or an option I give myself nor one that I even consider....and that is the choice I make.
While others give into their urges and instant satisfaction/cravings of cheating due to their "need for variety" and really choose the short term benefits, I far prefer the long term and that is something that I remind myself time and time again.
Most men will always choose to keep smoking, keep eating poorly, keep cheating...keep giving into whatever that craving/urge is as the short term gain is so enjoyable.
For me....I far prefer planning and looking ahead to my 75th wedding anniversary and being one of the few, strong relationships that stand the test of time.
Can I guarantee that will happen and that nothing will go wrong? Absolutely not.
But the end goal and the long term benefits far outweigh any short term gain that can come from a night out on the town or a one-night stand with some random girl with daddy issues. Being the lone man standing at the end, respecting my wife, and being strong enough to resist those temptations is far more meaningful to me than "having a good time and sleeping around".
To each his own of course....
I think it's a lot easier to sit upon a Clydesdale and preach about the virtues of fidelity if you are someone who finds it rather difficult or near impossible to bed random beautiful women at will. Just saying.
The best reason I can see to get married and stay that way is the presence of children in the equation.
The best reason I can see to get married and stay that way is the presence of children in the equation.
Did it once with a girl I had been dating for about 6 months, this was probably 3-4 years ago. I honestly only it did just to do it because I had always been strictly monogamous growing up. The fact that the girl I was dating truly sucked at life aside, the whole experience wasn't full-filling at all. I remember thinking while fucking the girl "Wow, I'm just jerking off in this vagina right now and I could be doing this much better if she were not here." So needless to say, I have had my fill with being a cheater. Its retarded.
Pshhh.
When will you guys realize that pussy is easy. I'm not talking about hooking up with the woman you DESIRE for that night... but RANDOM strange is EASY.
Has the vast amounts of internet porn not blunted your desire to bed all manner of random women?
Sex is great, but it really isn't everything.
OP has a abandonment issues, or conquest issues, or an empty void he's trying to fill or something but ... sex is just sex.
If bedding the random hottie is more about the conquest and the mind games than the sex then it's time for some self reflection as to why you're going to all those great lengths for something that is ultimately meaningless.
Quit putting pussy on the pedestal.
All comes down to your value system. Some people are more shallow than others.
Not much more to say than that.
Not much more to say than that.
