Welcome to Your Quarter Life Crisis

I'm 21 and I feel like that sometimes.

Rather, the depression and sense of feeling lost comes from working all the time and going to school full time. It's kinda like I don't have time for myself anymore. Sometimes I feel like I'm not myself or question whether I should continue on the path I'm on or not.

I remember, I said "fuck it" to everything for a day a while ago, and just indulged in drawings and boston kreme donuts and it was fairly satisfying.
 


customs said:
I have a young wife (8 years younger than me)
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iamthewalrus said:
I remember, I said "fuck it" to everything for a day a while ago, and just indulged in drawings and boston kreme donuts and it was fairly satisfying.
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I've been saying "fuck it" to a lot of things since I was like 15. There were times when I doubted myself for deviating from the norm, but in hindsight I'm glad I did.
 
I'm 36 and have gotten almost every intention I have set out for myself. This is in part because I sat down and wrote out of a list everything I wanted to do with my life (108 things in 5 different categories), simple to extremely complicated. I then put that list down and went about doing those things or doing things directly related to things on that list.

Once I get one done, I check it off. If I grow wiser sometimes I replace something on the list with something more pertinent for my life today.

I spent years looking closely at myself, especially my weaknesses, strengths and patterns. Over years, it pays off.

I live in LA. There are millions of lonely people here, many of them because of specific things mentioned in that article. Many of them don't even realize they are lonely.

I'm surprised by the positive response on this board to the OP to be quite honest. I figured too many on here were too young, dumb and full of cum to care.

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I'm hitting my quarter life crisis... Always wanted to be a 25 year old millionaire entrepreneur ever since I could remember, unlike most kids who wanted to be rockstars, athletes, or astronauts.

Starting to realize that time is running out (9 months 'till I turn 26). Need to get my game up and start hitting 100k profit a month consistently.
 
How many of you really have good friends? Like actual friends and not people you see at work or shit. Bromance worthy dudes/dudettes?
 
Interesting read. I know a few people like that. On the outside, they "enjoy" their single life ok but I know deep down they crave or want more meaning, and more fulfillment. That being said, there are sometimes things I wish I would have done differently too if I was 25 and single again, but it's always easy to be wise after it's too late.

Nevertheless, I am extremely happy with my wife, kids, family and friend situation and I feel very fortunate to have them all in my life.

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How many of you really have good friends? Like actual friends and not people you see at work or shit. Bromance worthy dudes/dudettes?
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I do. Got a couple of bromances goin' on. :D
 
Alot of my friends are like that. I'm completely free though. Literally everything I own fits in a suitcase and I have no home. I stay in countries for as long as they let me stay, and then move on.

I think people watch too much hollywood bullshit and have false expectations of what life really is.
 
^ I think I'd like to do that.

Meh... I'm there with the quarter life crisis. I don't have interest or focus in working, I don't want to fit into what I'm being pressured to fit into, I'm not sure about committing fully to the girl... I don't want to make these decisions and do this bullshit.
 
My only reaction to people that can relate to that thing up top is, it is SO easy to control people like that.

Really, it's not surprising most western countries are being completely fucked by their own governments, since the countries are filled with people in all kinds of mental crisis.

It all just makes it easier for me though, to exploit everyone.

Think about it, as an entrepreneur, business owner, apathy is not that a bad thing. Easy to employ people and get them to stick around. More difficult is getting them to work, but there are methods for that.

People are just so afraid to make decisions and take leaps of faith, it is easy to stand out from the crowd.

That's exactly WHY I am well on the way to being a millionaire.
 
thuxen said:
Alot of my friends are like that. I'm completely free though. Literally everything I own fits in a suitcase and I have no home. I stay in countries for as long as they let me stay, and then move on.

I think people watch too much hollywood bullshit and have false expectations of what life really is.
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i wonder how you keep your productivity high - when im out travelling I don't get to do shit. Defnitly a life I'd love to have as well. Only problem is my GF, which I like but can't decide if I'll still like her in 2-3 years, family and friends. So yeah, i can relate to this shit at 21 already.
 
I see lots of mistakes in these posts. Apparently many of you 20 somethings think being a millionaire means a happy life.

It's funny but I dont see the simple things (and the most enjoyable) listed by many of the younger crowd... e.g. finding the one true love that really matters, watching the birth of your kids, watching them grow, etc.

You're in for a rude awakening if you think having a ton of money means happiness, but this is such a cliche. Ask yourself why the cliche was created sometime. Because cliches are usually true.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a millionaire, but to put pressure on yourself to be making 100K a month at age 26? Cmon now. Don't forget what really matters in this life.
 
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I see lots of mistakes in these posts. Apparently many of you 20 somethings think being a millionaire means a happy life.

It's funny but I dont see the simple things (and the most enjoyable) listed by many of the younger crowd... e.g. finding the one true love that really matters, watching the birth of your kids, watching them grow, etc.

You're in for a rude awakening if you think having a ton of money means happiness, but this is such a cliche. Ask yourself why the cliche was created sometime. Because cliches are usually true.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a millionaire, but to put pressure on yourself to be making 100K a month at age 26? Cmon now. Don't forget what really matters in this life.
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Before I even started out trying to start my own business, one of the main reasons I wanted to be rich is so that I could use money for helping others, as that I what I always admired in some rich people.

I was discussing this with a fellow entrepreneur and he thinks this is almost a liberal-left view, and you could almost argue people like Andrew Carnegie were far-left-liberal on the political compass.

Which is why I agree with you completely, people think that money is good because you can have lots of things and be free. Money is for selfish reasons. Unfortunately that simply does not make you happy.

Which is why probably all of these quarter-mid-life crisis people wouldn't be happy with lots of money.
 
ricdes said:
i wonder how you keep your productivity high - when im out travelling I don't get to do shit. Defnitly a life I'd love to have as well. Only problem is my GF, which I like but can't decide if I'll still like her in 2-3 years, family and friends. So yeah, i can relate to this shit at 21 already.
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The productivity thing is a bit difficult. I would definitely be banking more if I didn't have to move every month or three.

The main thing is to just break the habit of having to be a tourist in every country. When i get to a new country, the first thing I do is hunt down an apartment or similar and get back to work, and depending on my workload I go see shit when i have the time...

There are definite advantages of this too, i'd say my cost of living is about half most peoples, because I like to spend my time in latin america and SE asia. Also because im a not a resident in any country, I live tax free... (i dont think this works for Americans) :)
 
blueRAP said:
Maybe I'm too young to have a valued opinion on this (24), but I think this article subtly omits the fact that, even though people are more expressive of their individuality and independence than in the past, most of us still give in to the idea of "doing what other people expect of us and/or consider impressive."

Most people do NOT live by their own standards, morals, and expectations, they simply adopt what is given to them by social influence, by way of inheritance, TV/radio, and politics. This is the source of our uncertainty and lack of happiness.

My point is that the "crisis" only comes in when we are conflicted with the pressures of "fitting into society."

The solution is to live more in the present, do what you want as a human being to the best of your abilities.

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+1 well said.
 
Roundabout said:
I see lots of mistakes in these posts. Apparently many of you 20 somethings think being a millionaire means a happy life.

It's funny but I dont see the simple things (and the most enjoyable) listed by many of the younger crowd... e.g. finding the one true love that really matters, watching the birth of your kids, watching them grow, etc.

You're in for a rude awakening if you think having a ton of money means happiness, but this is such a cliche. Ask yourself why the cliche was created sometime. Because cliches are usually true.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a millionaire, but to put pressure on yourself to be making 100K a month at age 26? Cmon now. Don't forget what really matters in this life.
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What he said. Holding your newborn > $1million. Of course it's nice to have both.
 
2 chicks at the same time....

Wait, what we talking about? Oh right, quarter life crisis. I think I'm fine. Enjoying life at the moment, not balling but i'm okay with that. I'm all about finding that perfect balance between work/play/life, and sometimes its like a damn teeter totter and i feel like my ass is gona take a beating - but somehow i manage to adjust within the moment. And i'm fine...Always striving for that equilberium, but never quite reaching it...

Anyone wanna grab a beer?
 
article is so true. im 26 and feel like im in a constant mental battle of settle down, vs keep traveling/exploring. its easy for me to move and get a job, i dont mind working to pay bills. most of my CLOSE friends are settled and married, or serious relationships.
 
LOL. I am 29 and getting already drepressed for thinking that in a couple months i will be turning 30. *if i don't die before that*. The fact is when i was in my teens i thought by the age of 30 i should have way more money and assets that i currently have... in reality this is not that easy to accomplish, plus i have a very confortable life already and no debt, i guess we just need to be happy and appreciate what we already have and or the little we may own...
 
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