what to do?....wife swallows
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So, because you feel incredibly insecure and infinitesimal, you decided it would make you feel better to make her feel the same way - FAIL
Woulda, coulda, shoulda - FAIL
Sounds like you envy them and wish you had of - FAIL
At best you envy him (once again you!!), at worst you worship him (with heavy homo overtones). Seriously?? So he's everything you think a woman finds attractive and you have no qualities at all that make you attractive or so it would seem?. - FAIL
So full of fail it makes my head:
Screams I'm soooo insecure - seriously dude wtf?? - FAIL
This is only a stab if she didn't marry you!! Sweet Wallicus!!! She fucking married you dude, game or no game do you understand that?????? - FAIL
Oh man...you need to step back and take a good hard, long look at yourself - seriously. If not for your relationship's sake but for your own mental stability and health. It's not healthy to carry so much shit on one's liver.
The problem lies within you...end of story. Eveything you have posted leads that way. I hope you can do that soon (work it out in your head), because at the rate you are going you will have nothing left of that relationship soon. Good luck bro - I mean that but as of now:
My relationship with my wifes is fine,
compared to my parents who have been fighitng for 40 years and recently divorced lastmonth for the 3rd time, this time seems final.
compared to my father-in-law who divorced for the 2nd time three months ago
compared to my younger brother who kicked his gf out the house last weekend
even compared to my friend at the potluck who divorced once but got back together with his wife but still fight constantly.
Me and my wife dont fight, we argue, she gets pissed at me and vice versa but ultimately deep down we still have tender feelings for each other and we both know that we are made for each other, we are on the same level mentally and spiritually. But as far as physical sexuality, like everyother human being hormones have a mind of their own.
I was just disturbed the other day with this whole situation and needed some advice and comforting from a 3rd party. you guys have been so helpful and funny.
My friend at the potluck told me how him and his wife fight and argue so much that they feel like they are not even friends anymore, and a majority of the other guys that were there and who are also married laughed and agreed to that. That is messed up but thats what alot of marriages turn into, throw children in the mix and the stress levels go out the roof.
compared to my parents who have been fighitng for 40 years and recently divorced lastmonth for the 3rd time, this time seems final.
compared to my father-in-law who divorced for the 2nd time three months ago
compared to my younger brother who kicked his gf out the house last weekend
even compared to my friend at the potluck who divorced once but got back together with his wife but still fight constantly.
Me and my wife dont fight, we argue, she gets pissed at me and vice versa but ultimately deep down we still have tender feelings for each other and we both know that we are made for each other, we are on the same level mentally and spiritually. But as far as physical sexuality, like everyother human being hormones have a mind of their own.
I was just disturbed the other day with this whole situation and needed some advice and comforting from a 3rd party. you guys have been so helpful and funny.
My friend at the potluck told me how him and his wife fight and argue so much that they feel like they are not even friends anymore, and a majority of the other guys that were there and who are also married laughed and agreed to that. That is messed up but thats what alot of marriages turn into, throw children in the mix and the stress levels go out the roof.
soo true stefanie, i noticed sometimes when she has made comments like...
"you should grow your hair long like so-n-so..."
or when i forget to shave for a few days
"your facial hair is kind of sexy!"
also one time when I helped out a friend clean his yard and came home all dirty covered in mud, i walked in the house and she couldnt take her eyes off me, later that night we had sex and she said how sexy i looked when i walked in the house all dirty.
this is how i was able to read her like a book the other day at the potluck, while she was giddy all over my friend, cause that same behaviour she showed to me on occasions was on display that day and for my friend not me.
actually its more like..."whos ur F'n daddy! whats my name bitch!"
we actually started getting realy heavy with the obscinities lately, it works, she gets worked up real quick and It works me up too. I dont swear in public but in the sack is where I show her my naughty/kinky side.
You are an idiot.
If anyone fits the "beta male", it is you.
Stop being so fucking insecure.
Also, you have fucking hangups... NOT looking at porn to stay "monogamous"?
Fuck that.
I look at porn whenever I want to. Does not mean I am not monogamous.
Actually, I watch porn together with my wife.
Stop being so insecure. What's up with that? Small dick? Never gave your wife an orgasm? Can't find it in the dark?
Man up.
Bang her, be happy about it and screw who/what she is thinking of.
Because in the end, it is YOUR dick in her, not anyone else's.
But if you keep up this insecure beta male bullshit, keep insulting her and belittling yourself, it is gonna be someone else's dick pretty darn soon.
Dumbass.
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If anyone fits the "beta male", it is you.
Stop being so fucking insecure.
Also, you have fucking hangups... NOT looking at porn to stay "monogamous"?
Fuck that.
I look at porn whenever I want to. Does not mean I am not monogamous.
Actually, I watch porn together with my wife.
Stop being so insecure. What's up with that? Small dick? Never gave your wife an orgasm? Can't find it in the dark?
Man up.
Bang her, be happy about it and screw who/what she is thinking of.
Because in the end, it is YOUR dick in her, not anyone else's.
But if you keep up this insecure beta male bullshit, keep insulting her and belittling yourself, it is gonna be someone else's dick pretty darn soon.
Dumbass.
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1. Exercise and eat healthy. It will raise your testosterone and cause a tingling sensation in her private places. You will also feel better in general.
2. Read roissy.
3. Google stoicism. You should not be this emotional.
4. Verbally abusing your wife is not manly. Getting in women's pants and (sometimes) making them fall in love with you is.
5. Raising a family is important. (I want one too.) Don't get demoralized, get your shit together etc.
2. Read roissy.
3. Google stoicism. You should not be this emotional.
4. Verbally abusing your wife is not manly. Getting in women's pants and (sometimes) making them fall in love with you is.
5. Raising a family is important. (I want one too.) Don't get demoralized, get your shit together etc.
your comment makes no sense.
Im pretty confident in my physical appearance, like I said Im a former athlete and was popular in high school, I dont have self esteem issues nor manhood issues.
would you classify a beta male as someone that is low key and humble? then that is me
would you classify a alpha as someone who is cocky and arrogant? then that is not me
Dude idunno, maybe if I met you in real life you might actually turn out to be a cool guy that I'd like to get to know and stuff (reminder: this is the gay webmaster forum), but in this thread so far you're making yourself look more and more pathetic.
Seriously, all this bullshit would be solved by the introduction of polygamy into your life. In fact it's the only solution - the reality is that this suspicion that your friend made your wife uncontrollably wet, hot and bothered has already established itself in your mind and since there's no way to disprove it, it's here to stay. Something's gotta give - if you bottle it up it's inevitably going to affect the way you treat your wife.
What, moral and legal problems? That's where your smarts come in.
Seriously, all this bullshit would be solved by the introduction of polygamy into your life. In fact it's the only solution - the reality is that this suspicion that your friend made your wife uncontrollably wet, hot and bothered has already established itself in your mind and since there's no way to disprove it, it's here to stay. Something's gotta give - if you bottle it up it's inevitably going to affect the way you treat your wife.
What, moral and legal problems? That's where your smarts come in.
Legal disclaimer: don't do what is suggested in the above post if you're in a state where adultery is illegal.
Phew, now my ass is covered. Fucking land of litigation, made me one paranoid bitch.
Phew, now my ass is covered. Fucking land of litigation, made me one paranoid bitch.
I don't think they describe beta males; in fact aren't beta males more likely to have long, stable marriages (at least on the surface)?
btw all this talk about beta and alpha males has reminded me that I'm an..
OMEGA MALE 4 LYF YEAH
OMEGA MALE 4 LYF YEAH
REPRESENT YO
I wish it were true... but
Omega (usually rendered ω-male) is an antonym used to refer to the lowest caste of the hierarchical society. An omega is subordinated to all others in the community. The omega might be used as a scapegoat and is commonly the last allowed to eat.
Contrast the Beta cognitive model with the Omega. The Omega male actually stimulates feelings of repulsion in the woman. Here, not only is the primitive processing not stimulated but the primitive area sends inhibitory signals to the rational and social areas of the mind to try and break off contact. Unlike the beta male where there is no desire to break off the non-sexual relationship, the woman deliberately tries to avoid the Omega man.
An omega male likes to think he’s marching to the beat of his own drum, but the reality is he just can’t keep time with everybody else.
Each of the 3 paragraphs above are from separate sources... dont know where you're getting your information from!
Well if all that's true I guess I just have no clue where I fit then, I never really cared much for the whole Alpha/Beta shit and just figured I must be the 3rd option seeing as I don't really feel as if I fit into either category very well. On paper I should still be a virgin yet I've done pretty well with women, a decent amount of my girlfriends I've kinda stolen from your typical alphas, Highschool QB etc... I suppose it doesn't really matter unless I one day lose all my confidence and feel like I need to change my behavior, it's just one of those things I wonder about when I hear those terms getting thrown around.
Edit; fairly drunk btw, if the above is nothing but rambling that only seems to me like it makes sense then well, blegh.
I feel sorry for you dude, just read this whole thing with a lot of lulz but also some sympathy...
I'm somewhat like your friend, and can tell when a freind/associates partner is diggin' me, and the dude usually can too (your friend knows full well what he's capable of). Somewhat shitty but on the flip side it happens to me too - and I welcome it when my gf's get turned on who cares who/how.
Married or not you should see it as healthy - and there is always going to be someone hotter/bigger/badder/whatever than you. I'm usually very open with my women, don't hold back on this shit and don't pull no conspiracies or long term setups/plans, she'll see right through it and will bite you back harder.
Use this experience to your advantage. i.e. ask her what she thinks of introducing a 3rd person into the bedroom - gage response, if she freaks out say you were thinking about a guy and a girl, because you noticed how wet your friend made her and it turned you on a bit knowing she's wet.
Use positive reinforcements to dig around and figure out what you need to figure out openly bro you just might be surprised re how much more of a freak your wifey might be in bed vs the limit she's at now and chewing her out for it - for all you know it might have been a signal for something much bigger/deeper (pun). Make her feel good for getting wet vs. fat < you're not getting your cum swallowed for a while now and if you freak out on her telling her you think she was picturing him etc. she'll probably never do it again.
Can't help but agree that although you might have been an athlete and have confidence, you're admitting to having a fat wife run game on you making you beta as fuck right now.
Can't teach a guy to be alpha imo, but you CAN incrementally take an alpha, pussy whip him, throw some legal wedding papers and kids in the mix, and make him a beta pretty quick if you're not strong.
In turn you should ask her what her fantasy is since she finally did the deed you've been hoping for - go get greasy/dirty/rugged, she doesn't want you to show her who the fuck you are as a reminder lol, do something opposite and unpredictable.
End of the day I'd be all over this as a good thing vs an insecure thing - and would call up my buddy and thank him haha.
PS - I agree with women only wanting the bad boy to a degree, they want the nice guy with bad boy tendencies when appropriate, they want randomness and rollercoasters, they want - no - they HATE but LOVE - anticipation. Make her anticipate your next move vs dreading it.
I'm somewhat like your friend, and can tell when a freind/associates partner is diggin' me, and the dude usually can too (your friend knows full well what he's capable of). Somewhat shitty but on the flip side it happens to me too - and I welcome it when my gf's get turned on who cares who/how.
Married or not you should see it as healthy - and there is always going to be someone hotter/bigger/badder/whatever than you. I'm usually very open with my women, don't hold back on this shit and don't pull no conspiracies or long term setups/plans, she'll see right through it and will bite you back harder.
Use this experience to your advantage. i.e. ask her what she thinks of introducing a 3rd person into the bedroom - gage response, if she freaks out say you were thinking about a guy and a girl, because you noticed how wet your friend made her and it turned you on a bit knowing she's wet.
Use positive reinforcements to dig around and figure out what you need to figure out openly bro you just might be surprised re how much more of a freak your wifey might be in bed vs the limit she's at now and chewing her out for it - for all you know it might have been a signal for something much bigger/deeper (pun). Make her feel good for getting wet vs. fat < you're not getting your cum swallowed for a while now and if you freak out on her telling her you think she was picturing him etc. she'll probably never do it again.
Can't help but agree that although you might have been an athlete and have confidence, you're admitting to having a fat wife run game on you making you beta as fuck right now.
Can't teach a guy to be alpha imo, but you CAN incrementally take an alpha, pussy whip him, throw some legal wedding papers and kids in the mix, and make him a beta pretty quick if you're not strong.
In turn you should ask her what her fantasy is since she finally did the deed you've been hoping for - go get greasy/dirty/rugged, she doesn't want you to show her who the fuck you are as a reminder lol, do something opposite and unpredictable.
End of the day I'd be all over this as a good thing vs an insecure thing - and would call up my buddy and thank him haha.
PS - I agree with women only wanting the bad boy to a degree, they want the nice guy with bad boy tendencies when appropriate, they want randomness and rollercoasters, they want - no - they HATE but LOVE - anticipation. Make her anticipate your next move vs dreading it.
someone who talks about their buddy being the ultimate male and constant references to high school (i have been out for about 5 you will never here me talk about high school get the fuck over your self jackass)
someone who says he will show his wife who he is by giving it to her...
all the dumb shit you say is a beta male attitude
you suck at life bro
but good luck anyway
I'm gonna be very mean here cause this shit is very important.
What should this thread teach OTHER men about relationships/being a man...etc.?
It's that YOU SHOULD NOT GET INTO A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN UNTIL YOU'RE A TRUE MAN.
Every man has to build himself up, become a REAL MAN, before getting into anything serious... especially a marriage... and raising kids... DUDE!!! WTF ARE YOU DOING?
OP is clearly not a real man who actualized himself. Sorry to tell the truth. OP acts like a CHILD. A LITTLE BOY IN THE KINDERGARTEN.
Calling your wife fat as a revenge for her shitty behaviour...WTF? It's not how an adult man should act.
I know everybody makes mistakes sometimes, nobody is perfect.
I understand that people in your family, friends are fucking losers who divorce, complain, etc. Fuck them. Screw them. Break free from the losers man. Get better friends.
I think you need to make a lot of changes to your life. MAN UP! Read about these issues. I recommend the following books: Iron John by Robert Bly, Fire in the Belly by Sam Keen.
I feel sorry for the OP, I feel sorry for his family, his wife, his kids... I feel sorry for all the people on Earth who are not living how they should live.
My advice: MAN UP!
Good luck!
What should this thread teach OTHER men about relationships/being a man...etc.?
It's that YOU SHOULD NOT GET INTO A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH A WOMAN UNTIL YOU'RE A TRUE MAN.
Every man has to build himself up, become a REAL MAN, before getting into anything serious... especially a marriage... and raising kids... DUDE!!! WTF ARE YOU DOING?
OP is clearly not a real man who actualized himself. Sorry to tell the truth. OP acts like a CHILD. A LITTLE BOY IN THE KINDERGARTEN.
Calling your wife fat as a revenge for her shitty behaviour...WTF? It's not how an adult man should act.
I know everybody makes mistakes sometimes, nobody is perfect.
I understand that people in your family, friends are fucking losers who divorce, complain, etc. Fuck them. Screw them. Break free from the losers man. Get better friends.
I think you need to make a lot of changes to your life. MAN UP! Read about these issues. I recommend the following books: Iron John by Robert Bly, Fire in the Belly by Sam Keen.
I feel sorry for the OP, I feel sorry for his family, his wife, his kids... I feel sorry for all the people on Earth who are not living how they should live.
My advice: MAN UP!
Good luck!
