update: so yesterday before I get home from work I contemplated asking my female coworker what she thought about the situation. But then I decided not to because it would be a totally innapropriate conversation to have as a married man and would probably get me hard just talking about that stuff to another female, she is kinda hot and in her mid 20's btw.
so I kept reading this thread to get new feedback from you guys.
I get home and its late and my wife is exhausted from dealing with the kids all day, I was ready at any second to jump on her but I chose to take my time and not appear to be so desperate.
we end up talking for a while about anything and everything, we get on the subject of sex and she asks me if I was still looking at porn, i told her no and i been clean for about 9 months now (sorry guys i dont open the boob threads in here anymore). she kinda smirks and says, yeah right. She dont believe me but yet she has learned not to be so offended when I used to look at porn.
I go on to tell her that i made a decision long time ago to be monogomous, even while my friends and brothers were screwing every chick in the town I was focused on finding that one somebody, I did mess up and tag a chick before i met my wife but she knows about it and actually was flattered that some other chick wanted me. I think women think like that, they like that other women stare at their man cause it makes them feel like they got a prized possesion.
men on the other hand, atleast myself, i dont like when other men check out my wife.
so i continue to tell her that if I was gonna be promiscuous i would have started in my teenage days but since I held out till my 20's I might as well finish the race and stick with one woman. We have christian beliefs.
then she takes a stab and says, "cause you have no game, thats why you werent promiscuous", now I finally get the confirmation that she glorifies that type of stuff, I call it the bad boy type, she is a really sweet girl but I think bad boy behavior catches her attention every now and then.
the other day at the potluck was one time when she got giddy over some handsome dude that is also a tuff guy type.
and thats exactly what my friend is, he was a bad boy in high school always getting into fights and partying, hes a weight lifter and got tattos, go-tee etc...
oh well, Its a big blow to my ego knowing that she thinks of me as a nice, softie type of a guy and teases me about it too, Im 6'3" 220lbs but i look skinny cause im taller.
I did comeback at her with fat jokes and made her feel like crap, in fact she shut the hell up after I gave her a taste of her own medicine. I had to do it and it made me feel better too.
I cant wait to get her in the sack again, im gonna tear her a new one and remind her who the f I am!