Solve this disagreement between the wife and I, who's right?

Who is being unreasonable?

  • Your wife is being unreasonable

    Votes: 138 89.6%
  • You are being unreasonable

    Votes: 16 10.4%

  • Total voters
    154
BTW, i think my post could have come off wrong.

My girl isn't a doormat. But we respect each other's freedom. I don't ask for permission. I might tell her, but not ask. However, likewise, she might tell me, but doesn't ask for permission.

We are both free, even if we are together. Because we trust each other and understand each other.

We like the way we are, as we don't want to smother our relationship.



If you are different, then... well keep on keeping. But if you like to be free, then you might need to have a serious chat with your wife and re-evaluate what you each want in life.
 


I say, yes I understand it's important, and I'll be there. But I've also been looking forward to seeing my brother on his birthday. I would like to leave for just 3 hours over the entire weekend to spend time with my brother and watch a boxing match, and then I'll be back.

That's it. That's the entire argument right there.

A man should not get moist over anybody's birthday, including his brother's.

And you married her. Honor that.

So you do the right thing and go the reunion and don't use it as leverage to do something else.

Your brother doesn't sound like he lives very far. Bitch-proof a weekend far in advance, where you and he can go golfing, boozing and UFC watching. Make it untouchable.

If she touches it your marriage might be in trouble.
 
A man should not get moist over anybody's birthday, including his brother's.

And you married her. Honor that.

So you do the right thing and go the reunion and don't use it as leverage to do something else.

Your brother doesn't sound like he lives very far. Bitch-proof a weekend far in advance, where you and he can go golfing, boozing and UFC watching. Make it untouchable.

If she touches it your marriage might be in trouble.

beta as fuck
 
A man should not get moist over anybody's birthday, including his brother's.

And you married her. Honor that.

So you do the right thing and go the reunion and don't use it as leverage to do something else.

Your brother doesn't sound like he lives very far. Bitch-proof a weekend far in advance, where you and he can go golfing, boozing and UFC watching. Make it untouchable.

If she touches it your marriage might be in trouble.

beta.
 
How is it a FAMILY reunion without your BROTHER in the first place?

Invite your brother over, get a case of beer and go to the reunion, where you, him and your father in law can all watch the boxing match and celebrate the birthday, give the women some time to discuss all the chick matters.

Its not the same with all the people together. Men and women should separate for a bit on the reunions, otherwise it gets too boring, especially if women are trying to run the show and talk about all the subjects that make men drink the rest of the champagne as fast as possible.
 
A man should not get moist over anybody's birthday, including his brother's.

And you married her. Honor that.

So you do the right thing and go the reunion and don't use it as leverage to do something else.

Your brother doesn't sound like he lives very far. Bitch-proof a weekend far in advance, where you and he can go golfing, boozing and UFC watching. Make it untouchable.

If she touches it your marriage might be in trouble.

I don't care for golf, drinking, or the UFC.
 
How is it a FAMILY reunion without your BROTHER in the first place?

Invite your brother over, get a case of beer and go to the reunion, where you, him and your father in law can all watch the boxing match and celebrate the birthday, give the women some time to discuss all the chick matters.

Its not the same with all the people together. Men and women should separate for a bit on the reunions, otherwise it gets too boring, especially if women are trying to run the show and talk about all the subjects that make men drink the rest of the champagne as fast as possible.

You beat me to it. I was surprised no one else had said it... there's got to be a TV at the venue where this reunion is taking place and I'm sure all the men present would love to watch the boxing match too. Invite your brother there.

What do you do for 72 hours at a reunion anyway?
 
Sounds like its time to grow some balls and start wearing the pants in the relationship. Thats all women want anyways. Your first mistake was "asking" to leave. Tell her your leaving to spend time with your brother. That's how it goes in my family.
 
Good point

See how she reacts when you tell her that you'll be spending 72 hours with your brother and will take out 3 hours for her family reunion.


You should have planned for 9 hours...and then re-negotiate down to 3 hours....now you have no wiggle room.
 
the calling the grandparents plan will win any day. However, I am afraid that you might be too scared to even pull that one off.
 
1) You really need to strenghten your position, right now, she's actually pushing you around as it seems.

2) WTF we're talking about 3 hours to spend on your brothers birthday ? If your wife ain't up to accept you to spend 3 hours during your brothers birthday, think twice about her being your wife.

3) In your case, as you're pretty much the weak part in your marriage, tell her it's a business meeting and simply meet your brother... Pussy solution but hey, you're in that corner already...