Love your wife. But be a fucking MAN. Grow some balls and take charge. From my experience women will respect you more and actually like when you man up.
Solve this disagreement between the wife and I, who's right?
- Thread starter JMan1234
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I used to think like this, but my wife got really pissed off with me always looking for "underlying issues". The truth is, she's just stubborn for no reason at all other than she's tired or something sometimes.
Now I just let her be right and work around her, without worrying too much about what the issues might be, and things are much better.
But then, I guess everyone's different.
Turn up for the Family reunion.
Get as drunk as you can, fast. Throw-up on someone. Start a fight with another. Piss in the fruit punch and slap sum bitches. Sex it up on anything that moves and wave a pistol around. Go Hunter Thompson on their asses.
I assure you... this will be resolved fast.
Get as drunk as you can, fast. Throw-up on someone. Start a fight with another. Piss in the fruit punch and slap sum bitches. Sex it up on anything that moves and wave a pistol around. Go Hunter Thompson on their asses.
I assure you... this will be resolved fast.
She's being more than unreasonable, so are you, 3 hours with 40 minutes of driving is clearly not enough time to bond. In fact she should offer to go with you to meet your brother and to be a designated driver.
Your brother made arrangements to come in from out of town so he could celebrate his birthday with his closest friend whom he has known all his life and who he only sees occasionally because of distance. Can she not put the shoe on the other foot?
She's going to me more upset with you if you do go because then you'll be pissed at her for forcing you to be there, you'll both have a shitty time. Then for the rest of your life she will remind you of this.
If all else fails, book a flight for you and your brother to Vegas for a week and tell her you felt so bad for letting your brother down you felt like you owe it to him to take him to a live fight. Explain that it's a guy thing and you expect her to not attend.
Your brother made arrangements to come in from out of town so he could celebrate his birthday with his closest friend whom he has known all his life and who he only sees occasionally because of distance. Can she not put the shoe on the other foot?
She's going to me more upset with you if you do go because then you'll be pissed at her for forcing you to be there, you'll both have a shitty time. Then for the rest of your life she will remind you of this.
If all else fails, book a flight for you and your brother to Vegas for a week and tell her you felt so bad for letting your brother down you felt like you owe it to him to take him to a live fight. Explain that it's a guy thing and you expect her to not attend.
Right - mine is just the opposite.
But I do not have to search for the issues any longer I already know them. But my wife is completely reasonable and not stubborn. In the above situation I would take her to the reunion, make certain everything was cool, kiss her on the cheek and say - I will be back later I am going to my brothers, and be gone. No issues.
But the problem is as you stated,
Everyone is different. ---- for all OP knows his wife is always hit on by an uncle or worse by some other relative. There are a lot of skeletons at family reunions.
I was concerned about that too ... divorce went through 2 weeks ago so I'm in the clear.
.. about your situation, your brother is family in the same sense here gparents are ... of course you take the 3 hours out and see him on his birthday. Her grandparents wouldn't have a problem with that, your wife is just insecure.
Whoever organized their respective thing first and let the other one know about it is "right". But when it comes to wives it pays very little to be right.
Discuss with your bro and if he is cool then reschedule, if not, and if your wife didn't let you know about the family thing in advance of making your plans with him then put your foot down, your bro is your bro.
Being right and being married are two incompatible things a lot of the time.
Oh and don't listen to the bunch of teenage virgins on this site telling you to man up. What they know about a relationship can be written on the back of an unused condom.
Discuss with your bro and if he is cool then reschedule, if not, and if your wife didn't let you know about the family thing in advance of making your plans with him then put your foot down, your bro is your bro.
Being right and being married are two incompatible things a lot of the time.
Oh and don't listen to the bunch of teenage virgins on this site telling you to man up. What they know about a relationship can be written on the back of an unused condom.
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P.S. Grow a pair. I didn't vote, as I didn't see an option of "OP is a pussy"
Seriously dude, I feel bad for you. (and I'm no teenager, been together happily with my girl for 6 years)
P.S. Grow a pair. I didn't vote, as I didn't see an option of "OP is a pussy"
Seriously dude, I feel bad for you. (and I'm no teenager, been together happily with my girl for 6 years)
This is pretty much the core of a peaceful long term relationship, I have found.
Yep, and anyone who says "just man the fuck up and go without asking her" or some shit like that clearly hasn't been with someone for very long. If you keep behaving like that you're pretty much telling the other person you don't really care what they think in any shape or form.
Unless they are a doormat, there is only so long they will put up with that.
Actually, it's was asked with the right grammar. It's not natural spoken English, but it is grammatically correct for a writing standpoint.
Anyway, I agree that the wife is being unreasonable.
Yeah - my wife is indian. Asian women have a well-deserved reputation for having moods as turbulent & changeable as the Autumn seas.
Like yesterday, she was in a foul mood, and I couldn't do anything right. Experience has taught me the best thing to do is just GTFO and leave her to it, which I did.
Turns out it's cos she was nervous about interviewing potential hires at work today. She's in a great mood this evening, and has no memory at all of being angry yesterday. :shrug: If I'd started digging for underlying "issues", I'm sure I'd have found plenty of them - because she'd blow up some minor shit just to give her anger a vent.
It has upsides though - she never stays angry / moody for more than about 30 minutes, which is cool.
Your wife is a self-centered brat. No amount of “manning up” is going to change that. You may be able to manage her selfishness, but is all that effort worth it knowing that in her eyes your needs come last?
Romantic love is conditional and temporary. After the honeymoon period married men live a life a quiet desperation. They think their single friends don’t understand, and yet they know enough to avoid marriage; the costs outweigh the benefits.
Romantic love is conditional and temporary. After the honeymoon period married men live a life a quiet desperation. They think their single friends don’t understand, and yet they know enough to avoid marriage; the costs outweigh the benefits.
This right here along with your initial post tells me that you're a gigantic pussy that bows down to whatever your wife says/wants.
I've been with my girl for 6 years and it'd be a frosty cold day in hell that something like this was even a discussion. Not because of an "I'm the fucking man in the relationship" (although that's part of it) but also because we have a healthy relationship. Seems like you checked your balls at the door when you put a ring on her finger.
