Do you or will you spank your children?

Do you or will you spank your children?

  • Yes

    Votes: 70 53.0%

  • No

    Votes: 62 47.0%
  • Total voters
    132
You savages are still using your hands?

Ain't nothing like taking out some aggression on your kid after you've had a couple beers.


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I will never hurt 1 hair on my kids' heads. Fuck all that. They don't know how much I already love them.
 
turbolapp said:
Spanking is completely unnecessary when there are non violent methods that actually work better if your goal is happy, well-mannered, well adjusted children.

People that continue to to hit their children as a form of disciplined are either:

Ignorant -don't understand there are better methods out there.
Lazy- Instant gratification to hit a child and make them afraid. Yep that will stop the problem...in the short term.
Rotten- You get some sort of weird joy out of hitting your children.

I'm not sure which of the three is the worst, take your pick.
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Holy crap batman your super opinions are trying to destroy my ignorant lazy rotten ideals!

Plenty of good parents spank their children when / if their children deserve it and those people aren't any of the things you listed.

To take thousands of years of historical evidence (the fact that billions of people over several millennia were spanked by their parents and were better for it) and toss it out the window is a bit rash don't you think?

This idea that spanking should not be a tool used for correction is in my opinion just plain wrong. Some children (probably some adults too) need to be spanked as nothing else gets their attention.

Of all the crappy misbehaved children I have come across, not one of them was from parents who disciplined them consistently. They all had weak parents who were more worried about their kids liking them than they were about raising respectful, loyal, good children.

That said, I agree with the idea that there are sometimes (maybe often) better ways to handle a child than to get physical with them. And for your interest in more effective solutions I applaud you.
 
I voted that I will spank my children if I ever have one. It's a good way to show what is bad and what is wrong. Because otherwise they will grow with a feeling that they can do, behave and have what they want, spoiled children.
 
^- wow, nice bump.

Anyhow, figured I'd post this.. I'd say watch at least half of it, and see how an unschooler has dealt with raising children. It's very interesting to see these arguments actually laid out, and how much it makes sense when they're put into context.
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tRk_sfkBCJ8]Schooools Out For Evah! Unschooling with Dayna Martin - YouTube[/ame]
 
TravisPPN said:
Of all the crappy misbehaved children I have come across, not one of them was from parents who disciplined them consistently. They all had weak parents who were more worried about their kids liking them than they were about raising respectful, loyal, good children.
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I totally agree with most of what you've said other than the quote statement. I definitely agree that with some kids, a parent is given the unfortunate ultimatum of either hitting their kid, or taking the risk of allowing them to grow up spoiled and misbehaved brats...

I've met a few really rotten people who were beaten relentlessly by their parents, and not necessarily for disciplinary reasons. These are generally the types of people that you need a weapon should you choose to confront them about anything...

... This is where the middle-ground between the Pro and No crowd is: beat your children for no reason and they'll become impervious to pain and beat the holy hell out of anyone (including probably you their own children) who crosses them as they get older; never hit them and use "time outs" and other such emotional (non fear-based) punishments that only work on submissive-type children and they may turn out rotten in one way or another anyhow.

There's no easy answer here because even light to moderate spanking becomes a joke to most kids once it's been done once or twice. But, ask old-timers and they'll almost always say that the strap kept them in line. I mentioned earlier that my dad smacked me in the face real hard, once, when it really mattered, and that smartened me up -- whereas, a grounding or taking something away as a punishment wouldn't have made a lick of difference to me personally.

It's all on a case-by-case basis and most parents don't have the experience they'd like to think they do in order to effectively say yay or nay. You'd have to raise hundreds of kids to really make an honest judgement call on this issue, as most studies favour the desired outcome (hitting kids is bad), rather than the honest truth of the matter (do it when it counts, not as a stress-reliever or because you enjoy it.)
 
My wife & I spank our children (At least one of them, the other isn't nearly old enough to understand the reasons behind spanking).

We were both spanked as children. As long as it is done in a right way, there's nothing wrong with it.
 
I was spanked and I turned out well. My girlfriend was never spanked and she still acts like a spoiled brat.
 
Good video below about unschooling, which is an entire philosophy on raising children without aggression/mandates (largely) of any sort. Not only is there no spanking, but you give your children the freedom to go to sleep when they want, eat when and what they want, learn when and want they want, etc. (assuming you have the ability to do this without public school).

This woman has raised her children in this manner and it's very interesting to see what she has to say about her experiences. My wife and I have started to integrate these ideas with our own toddler, particularly the food thing and it's very interesting to see how well they self moderate. Definitely a worth while listen if you're a parent.

[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tRk_sfkBCJ8]Schooools Out For Evah! Unschooling with Dayna Martin - YouTube[/ame]
 
ShadowCaster said:
Of course not, there's no need because they are very obedient when I let them out of the cage once in a while.
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you just made my day :laughing-smiley-007

Yes, I would. I'd try to do it not in 'anger state' but in 'discipline state' though
 
No.

Never have, never will.

To add to that, it is even outlawed in Germany (but not where I live now)

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I'm on the fence. I think it would be good punishment and I remember not doing things because I didn't want to be spanked. At the same time though it breaks my heart being a new dad to hear my son cry(he's only 20 months) Maybe at 3 or 4 after I've pulled all my hair out will I decide to spank =P
 
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