I need you WF brethren. I'm a lost man.
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You dodged a bullet. That's how I would look at it. If you had to find out that this person wasn't the kind of person you want to spend your life with then it's better sooner than later. You got out before you became entangled (kids.)
The upside is that you aren't going to waste years on this woman, you have a chance to find someone that can make you insanely happy, she's walking around out there just waiting for you. Divorce sucks. But being in a bad marriage sucks worse. Both are lonely situations but the loneliness when you are single is offset by hope, you know that you could stop being lonely someday; in a bad marriage you just know that things are more likely to get worse than better. Take care of yourself.
The upside is that you aren't going to waste years on this woman, you have a chance to find someone that can make you insanely happy, she's walking around out there just waiting for you. Divorce sucks. But being in a bad marriage sucks worse. Both are lonely situations but the loneliness when you are single is offset by hope, you know that you could stop being lonely someday; in a bad marriage you just know that things are more likely to get worse than better. Take care of yourself.
FREEEEEEEDOM.
Just went through it myself bro- 15 year investment down the drain.
Thank JA you never complicated it with kids and move on. I know you say you have no one, but you need to talk to SOMEONE ELSE- Preferably someone with some training and talent for counseling- most people here don't qualify, lol.
Only advice I can give you. Good Luck, Bro.
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Read this book, It's all about being a man, finding your purpose and how to take charge of your life and what you should really look for in a woman. Sounds exactly like what you need right now.
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As weeks and months go by this elusive solace will turn into a river of clear relief.
There are plenty good American women and plenty of shitty foreigners. My friend married a girl from indonesia. She's a great girl, but I couldn't have someone that was so willing to be submissive.
This sucks and I wish you to get over it smoothly!
IMO the only really terrible thing about the divorce scenario is losing access to your kid.
You did not have kids, so pop a beer and be thankful this happened now and not 10 years later!
The faster you 'fail' the better your progress. You'll turn it all around!
IMO the only really terrible thing about the divorce scenario is losing access to your kid.
You did not have kids, so pop a beer and be thankful this happened now and not 10 years later!
The faster you 'fail' the better your progress. You'll turn it all around!
OP - I'm guessing this is very recent, and that I'm a year or so along the line from you, so I will offer this:
I'm not going to divulge any details in this vastly public thread as I am still in the divorce proceedings where we have joint investments of considerable nature (our respective solicitors will almost certainly enjoy quite a few very nice vacations and new cars from it), but I will say this - I have ploughed myself into my work & business and it is working for me. So much so, that it's pretty much all I think of at the moment.
Stay strong bro' - if you are as equally wronged as I you will be fine. If you're equally as resourceful - you'll be fine. If you're as equally determined to not let it beat you down - you'll be fine. This is by no means any easy thing to sustain, it really isn't, but just stay focused as much as you can, and when you mentally start straying from your new plan* read or watch something inspiring and project yourself forward with positive thought about your own future... think back to a time when you achieved something you previously thought untouchable and recall the sense of well-being.
The best immediate, practical advice I can offer is:
CEASE ALL CONTACT NOW. DO NOT - I REPEAT - DO NOT Speak to / email / SMS / Carrier pigeon / Smoke signal with her ever again from THIS MINUTE ONWARD.
More importantly - DO NOT GET DRUNK AND DO ANY OF THE ABOVE
If you get drunk and send her anything, any single thing, her lawyers may well rip you a new fudge tunnel so savagely that you wouldn't notice Mike Tyson double-fisting you.
Fortunately for me I've never been a fan being fisted or indeed Mike Tyson (apart from his cameo roles in The Hangover movies).
Try new things:
- Learn a new language (measurable) (either spoken language or programming!)
- Learn mnemonics (good start is Buzan)
- Go to the gymn with a solid goal in mind (measurable)
- Learn to fly (excellent amazing past-time and something you have to concentrate on while learning!)
- Visit places you always wanted to see, but didn't because "she" wasn't into it. (sense-of-freedom inducing) maybe catch up with old friends you haven't seen as a result of your lack of time.
- Take back your own life and don't let anyone stop bring you down or stop you moving forward.
- But don't turn into an arrogant twat... ever. That goes without saying though right?
I'm still absolutely devastated about my situation, and horrid shit negativity tries its damned fucking hardest to enter my head, but I just have to beat it back with even stronger-than-ever determination and positivity. Easier said than done, but it does work.
I got your back bro'
*You are now FREE. Free to culture your own plan and success without having to cater for her. You are now free to do anything you want with your life - everything you ever dreamed of.
Think of this as not just a bullet dodged, but a kick up the ass to up your game and step up a level in success.
I'm not going to divulge any details in this vastly public thread as I am still in the divorce proceedings where we have joint investments of considerable nature (our respective solicitors will almost certainly enjoy quite a few very nice vacations and new cars from it), but I will say this - I have ploughed myself into my work & business and it is working for me. So much so, that it's pretty much all I think of at the moment.
Stay strong bro' - if you are as equally wronged as I you will be fine. If you're equally as resourceful - you'll be fine. If you're as equally determined to not let it beat you down - you'll be fine. This is by no means any easy thing to sustain, it really isn't, but just stay focused as much as you can, and when you mentally start straying from your new plan* read or watch something inspiring and project yourself forward with positive thought about your own future... think back to a time when you achieved something you previously thought untouchable and recall the sense of well-being.
The best immediate, practical advice I can offer is:
CEASE ALL CONTACT NOW. DO NOT - I REPEAT - DO NOT Speak to / email / SMS / Carrier pigeon / Smoke signal with her ever again from THIS MINUTE ONWARD.
More importantly - DO NOT GET DRUNK AND DO ANY OF THE ABOVE
If you get drunk and send her anything, any single thing, her lawyers may well rip you a new fudge tunnel so savagely that you wouldn't notice Mike Tyson double-fisting you.
Fortunately for me I've never been a fan being fisted or indeed Mike Tyson (apart from his cameo roles in The Hangover movies).
Try new things:
- Learn a new language (measurable) (either spoken language or programming!)
- Learn mnemonics (good start is Buzan)
- Go to the gymn with a solid goal in mind (measurable)
- Learn to fly (excellent amazing past-time and something you have to concentrate on while learning!)
- Visit places you always wanted to see, but didn't because "she" wasn't into it. (sense-of-freedom inducing) maybe catch up with old friends you haven't seen as a result of your lack of time.
- Take back your own life and don't let anyone stop bring you down or stop you moving forward.
- But don't turn into an arrogant twat... ever. That goes without saying though right?
I'm still absolutely devastated about my situation, and horrid shit negativity tries its damned fucking hardest to enter my head, but I just have to beat it back with even stronger-than-ever determination and positivity. Easier said than done, but it does work.
I got your back bro'
*You are now FREE. Free to culture your own plan and success without having to cater for her. You are now free to do anything you want with your life - everything you ever dreamed of.
Think of this as not just a bullet dodged, but a kick up the ass to up your game and step up a level in success.