One man wolf packs, what gets you going?

Russ86 said:
Do yourself a favor and get out of the house at least once per day... and keep active... meaning exercise... might sound crazy but simply exercising everyday can make a huge difference in how you feel and your motivation.
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Thats what I started to do - wake up - nothing to do... fix myself some shitty breakfast and exercise for half an hour or so... Push ups, etc... And of course, the friends that I have try to take me out and free my mind... But again, drinking, gambling, trying to make me temporary forget that I have the problem. Just need a permanent fix for my brains and heart I guess...
 


tatrasim said:
Thats what I started to do - wake up - nothing to do... fix myself some shitty breakfast and exercise for half an hour or so... Push ups, etc... And of course, the friends that I have try to take me out and free my mind... But again, drinking, gambling, trying to make me temporary forget that I have the problem. Just need a permanent fix for my brains and heart I guess...
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Try volunteering. It might help give you some perspective when you help out the less fortunate.
 
Hale.Pane said:
Try volunteering. It might help give you some perspective when you help out the less fortunate.
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Egh... I left everything to my less fortunate wife... Have enough work scheduled for the next year, just need to focus and get this work done. I'd rather volunteer with $ as I feel that it would be a better value for the time I get.
 
Nothing wrong with drinking a little to get your head in order.. just know that it has to balance out. Live well and be a good role model for your kids, let them respect what they see in their father. ballers plan in years, if not decades.. so get it out of your system in the moment, then come back, plan and obtain success. Good luck.
 
tatrasim said:
I used to do a lot of shit before I got married... But then decided to settle down, stopped all the crazy shit I've been doing and went all in on the family. Used to love snowboarding, fighting, doing a lot of crazy shit. But now all the crazy friends are gone, not even sure what to do. I'd go snowboarding but the skills and people to go with are not there anymore. I put her as my best friend and made my interests in common with hers. Changed a lot, I think it could have been for the better, as I dont envy any of my past friends right now. But fuck... Trying to focus and get shit done, and all I have is the past several years in my head.
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It can't be said enough... go do what YOU enjoy. If you don't know what you enjoy... rent a snowboard for a day and go buy a lift ticket. Get out there and bust your ass, and get your head on straight.

Go do something, you don't have to have people with you to do any of the stuff i mentioned.
 
tatrasim said:
Egh... I left everything to my less fortunate wife... Have enough work scheduled for the next year, just need to focus and get this work done. I'd rather volunteer with $ as I feel that it would be a better value for the time I get.
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So basically, you just want to wallow in self pity. It's natural but like Berto said "after a day or so you better start kicking ass again".
 
MadMaxNine said:
Nothing wrong with drinking a little to get your head in order.. just know that it has to balance out. Live well and be a good role model for your kids, let them respect what they see in their father. ballers plan in years, if not decades.. so get it out of your system in the moment, then come back, plan and obtain success. Good luck.
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Thinking if I should go to ASW or some other event and try to clear my head a bit. As for kids, thats what breaks me - they cry every time they are about to leave my shitty apartment to go back to the house I left to my wife, which is way nicer, has all their toys and stuff...
 
LegitAM said:
It can't be said enough... go do what YOU enjoy. If you don't know what you enjoy... rent a snowboard for a day and go buy a lift ticket. Get out there and bust your ass, and get your head on straight.

Go do something, you don't have to have people with you to do any of the stuff i mentioned.
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Idk, before it used to be different... Dont like to do anything on my own... Thinking just to get a crotch rocket and let adrenalin flow out this way, but not sure if its a good idea.
 
Hale.Pane said:
So basically, you just want to wallow in self pity. It's natural but like Berto said "after a day or so you better start kicking ass again".
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Self pity... I dont think I have it... I think I dont give much shit about myself... Just not knowing what to do kills me. It's been over a week as I am on my own... And every fucking day is different. Just confused and need to find something to get me back in line.
 
tatrasim said:
Just need a permanent fix for my brains and heart I guess...
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How about you stop being a fucking loser and man up?

You can't stop drinking and gambling when your kids' future is on the line?

You missed your wakeup call when your old lady bailed on you.
 
guerilla said:
How about you stop being a fucking loser and man up?

You can't stop drinking and gambling when your kids' future is on the line?

You missed your wakeup call when your old lady bailed on you.
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I guess so... Fuck, shoot it all this way... Loser, man up, kids... I know all this shit.

Loser - I dont thing I was, I may be going there though. I am fucking losing it.

Man up - what is man up in your definition? Reading en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misogyny as per dr. ngo, I think I may be somewhat misogynist... Must be all the religious shit that I got in my head throughout the years.

Kids - thats all I have right now. I left home to US 12 years ago, and have absolutely nobody next to me right now except the kids. And I think they are the only thing that keep me going now.

Wake up call - let me know if I am wrong... I feel that the whole US is pussy whipped. And I feel that I started to go in that direction.

Gambling - fuck. I agree... I may have some problem there, but not to the point that my family suffers because of it. I haven't gambled much when I was married even though there are 3 casinos next door to me.
 
Dude, from the interaction I've had with you, you seem like a nice enough guy who has some issues that need dealing with. These issues may be caused by the problems with your marriage, or they may have caused them, or a mixture of the two. I don't know.

What I DO know is that the Internet is NOT the place to get them resolved. The best thing you can do right now is unplug, and go and hang out with some real life friends. If you don't have real life friends, go find a therapist (but friends are better in this situation, and cheaper).
 
Did you get your nuts castrated or something dude? Your writing makes you come off like a blubbering fatass that just wants to cry woe is me.

1) Start lifting heavy weights -> StrongLifts.com: Gain Strength And Muscle While Losing Fat if you need a program

2) Get back into meeting women -> http://heartiste.wordpress.com if you need motivation

3) Quit drinking, quit eating shit foods, quit sitting on your ass, and learn to be a fucking man. It ain't too late at 30

Your woman left you because whatever "alpha" you had in you is gone. Get up, do your work, turn the fucking computer off and spend the rest of the day fixing yourself.

Oh, and QUIT DRINKING. Drowning your problems in drug/alcohol abuse is about the most pathetic shit there is.
 
Firstly, stop hustling and get a job.

I know everyone on here - and myself included - say fuck the 9-5, but you're in no position mentally to be trying to keep yourself, your family and a business afloat. You need some routine in your life.
Make sure your kids are happy and healthy, make sure you are happy and healthy, then try to get out of the rat race.
 
tatrasim said:
I guess so... Fuck, shoot it all this way... Loser, man up, kids... I know all this shit.

Loser - I dont thing I was, I may be going there though. I am fucking losing it.

Man up - what is man up in your definition? Reading en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Misogyny as per dr. ngo, I think I may be somewhat misogynist... Must be all the religious shit that I got in my head throughout the years.

Kids - thats all I have right now. I left home to US 12 years ago, and have absolutely nobody next to me right now except the kids. And I think they are the only thing that keep me going now.

Wake up call - let me know if I am wrong... I feel that the whole US is pussy whipped. And I feel that I started to go in that direction.

Gambling - fuck. I agree... I may have some problem there, but not to the point that my family suffers because of it. I haven't gambled much when I was married even though there are 3 casinos next door to me.
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  1. Get your ass out of your house and stop fapping off to porn and drinking to take your mind off your problems.
  2. Go run in the park or something for an hour and clear your head. I'm serious, do it.
  3. Pull up Monster.com and get a job so you can retain some semblance of custody with the judge.
  4. Move your ass within a mile of your kids.
  5. Go to church, join a prayer/small group so you can make some new friends and have a better appearance when social services comes to inspect you.
Seriously, you're being a dumbass moping around drinking and gambling your savings away. Shit happens, deal with it and adapt. This is only a permanent issue if you keep dwelling on it and don't move on.
 
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