Solve this disagreement between the wife and I, who's right?

[Bofu2U]

"I understand how important this is to your family being a reunion, now understand how important my family is to me - I didn't exactly have a say in them picking a date, now did I? My family is as important to me as yours is to you, and yours is a reunion - my brothers is a birthday. You can have a reunion any day of the year, and my brother gets his birthday once a year. Now shut the fuck up and realize you're a non-logical woman that needs to make me a sandwich."

 

[metalshark]

When I read all this shit I was thinking it was a trip or something. Then I realized, if 3 hours is enough to hang with your brother and drink a few beers...then this must be a few miles apart?

Are you fucking serious?

 

[drandom]

I thought about that....but if she got on here, she'd probably start browsing the site, and tell me I could never access it again (due to all the boobs).

Jesus. Seriously? My wife LOVES the boob threads!!!

Oh, and your wife is being completely unreasonable. I don't know how you can stand that shit. If I was you, I would spend the whole weekend with your brother, just because of her bullshit.

 

[b_sun]

So far she is completely denying my request

NIGGA IS YOU SEOUS? Stop asking, start doing.

"Honey, your family is important, but so is mine. I'll be gone for an evening and then back to spend the ENTIRE weekend with your family. Now get back to blowing me....."

 

[JMan1234]

When I read all this shit I was thinking it was a trip or something. Then I realized, if 3 hours is enough to hang with your brother and drink a few beers...then this must be a few miles apart?

Are you fucking serious?

Ya, it's a trip for her family. But the location just happens to be about a 25 minute drive from our house.

 

[JMan1234]

NIGGA IS YOU SEOUS? Stop asking, start doing.

"Honey, your family is important, but so is mine. I'll be gone for an evening and then back to spend the ENTIRE weekend with your family. Now get back to blowing me....."

This would be the ideal scenario, lol.

 

[BilltheButcher]

First off when you got married, your immediate family took a back seat to your wife's family. It's part of the gig. This doesn't mean you can't use this situation to your advantage.

Is your brother traveling in from somewhere or does he live local? If your brother lives local, the STFU and do what your wife says. Reason I say this, is you can parlay this into something bigger and better. Guys weekend in Vegas, NY, get away, etc. etc.

If your brother is traveling in and is there for a short time, then it is a slam dunk, you need to hang with him and have fun. If he lives in the same town you guys can hang out whenever you guys want - my wife would be pissed too.

Happy wife, happy life.

 

[dmnEPC]

Just get over it. She's never going to let you go and you dont have the balls to tell her your going. It doesnt even pay to talk about it anymore because she knows your a pussy and will cave in and do what she wants. She's going to wind up fucking some other guy because of this type of issue,

Women are like children you need to be firm but fair with them, and they certainly need to be told, not asked

 

[tainted]

 

[Andrew Scherer]

You actually asked her if you could, I kinda feel sorry for you.

So far she is completely denying my request, and thinks I'm being unreasonable.

There is no request.

It's "I'm going to see my brother on his birthday for 3 hours on xxx but I'll be back"

There is no trickery involved, persuasion, or overanalysis necessary.

Thankfully playing from a position of strength is a simple endeavor.

GLB

 

[JMan1234]

First off when you got married, your immediate family took a back seat to your wife's family. It's part of the gig. This doesn't mean you can't use this situation to your advantage.

Is your brother traveling in from somewhere or does he live local? If your brother lives local, the STFU and do what your wife says. Reason I say this, is you can parlay this into something bigger and better. Guys weekend in Vegas, NY, get away, etc. etc.

If your brother is traveling in and is there for a short time, then it is a slam dunk, you need to hang with him and have fun. If he lives in the same town you guys can hang out whenever you guys want - my wife would be pissed too.

Happy wife, happy life.

He lives about 200 miles away, and is traveling in for the weekend.
Before I knew that my wife's family thing was the same weekend, he was going to stay with me.
Now he can still come, and just stay at our mother's house...and then I'll come back for a few hours
to watch the fight. That was my plan, sounded okay to me, seemed fair....

 

[dmnEPC]

He lives about 200 miles away, and is traveling in for the weekend.
Before I knew that my wife's family thing was the same weekend, he was going to stay with me.
Now he can still come, and just stay at our mother's house...and then I'll come back for a few hours
to watch the fight. That was my plan, sounded okay to me, seemed fair....

I see you kinda glanced over the posts that explained to you to just tell her your going. I strongly urge you to go back over that information and reconsider the info that's been provided. I know you probably don't want to hear it but it could change your whole life, you dont need to be a doormat and your GF and people in general will have much much more respect for you.

 

[mike330]

I would advise not listening to anyone who is not married. Lots of single guys think they are the sh*t but when they have a girl or married to one, they become a pussy.

Women are unreasonable. They become more unreasonable when you are married to them. You can either man up and let her be pissed at your for a while or just go with the flow.

 

[trickykid]

Holy Fuck this is retarded. Correct me if I'm wrong but you and your brother will be watching the Klitschko fight right? Correct me if I'm wrong but that fight is the main event right? Correct me if I'm wrong but the main eventers don't usually even begin their walk to the ring until like 11:30pm right?

Her grandparents will be sleeping by 9pm, and most of the family reunion activities will have wrapped up for the day by then. If she wont let you bail out to spend some time with your brother at 9pm till like 1am then you have problems my friend.

 

[andyk]

You're approaching this all wrong. She's not a guy. Women don't respond to rational arguments in emotional situations.

I have a wife who is possible the most rational person you could meet at work, but when shit like this crops up, she's a fucking fruitloop.

Luckily, this fact makes them remarkably easy to outmaneuvre, if you just think a few steps ahead. Here's how I'd run it:


Call up her Grandparents, tell 'em how much you are looking forward to the reunion, and then explain the brother situation. Ask if it's OK, because you didn't want to offend them, but it would mean a lot to him.

They will (ofc) say yes. You can tell your wife then that you didn't want to upset her GPs, so you called them to check, and they insisted that see your brother.

Having done that, you've now placed your wife in an impossible situation.

She can either let you go see your brother.

Or she can carry on insisting, and have to explain to GPs why she wouldn't let you see your brother, and look like a shrew at the reunion.

Now, the important thing here is how you break this to your wife.

DO NOT FRAME IT IN AS I WAS RIGHT AND YOU WERE WRONG.

The key with women is to let them feel that they're right, whilst doing whatever the fuck you want with your life.

So you say "You know, you were right honey, I was being thoughtless about this."

(pause).

"So I called up you GPs to check that it was ok, because I really wouldn't want to upset them or your family. And they insisted that I go."

Try not to smirk when you do this as it will ruin the whole effort.

I like this, the key is to make the woman feels that she is right.

 

[JMan1234]

Holy Fuck this is retarded. Correct me if I'm wrong but you and your brother will be watching the Klitschko fight right? Correct me if I'm wrong but that fight is the main event right? Correct me if I'm wrong but the main eventers don't usually even begin their walk to the ring until like 11:30pm right?

Her grandparents will be sleeping by 9pm, and most of the family reunion activities will have wrapped up for the day by then. If she wont let you bail out to spend some time with your brother at 9pm till like 1am then you have problems my friend.

The fight is actually at about 4pm my time.
I have no idea what would be planned with her family for that time of the day (she doesn't either).

My point of view is, it shouldn't matter what they'll be doing, because I'll be with her family Friday, all of Saturday except those 3hrs, and also on Sunday.
So just give me my 3hrs. It doesn't seem like too much to ask, doesn't seem unreasonable to me. Especially when she knows this is what I enjoy.

 

[JMan1234]

I would advise not listening to anyone who is not married. Lots of single guys think they are the sh*t but when they have a girl or married to one, they become a pussy.

Women are unreasonable. They become more unreasonable when you are married to them. You can either man up and let her be pissed at your for a while or just go with the flow.

I agree with you. It's an entirely different ballgame when you are married. And not only am I married, but 3 kids.

I'm leaning towards "manning up", and just going for the 3hrs. In fact, that's what I'll probably do.

 

[pickledegg]

You need one of these:
The Presurfer: Bizarre Victorian Device To Calm Wife

 

[Scheme]

Dude where the fuck are you balls? You asked? Not only that you made a thread to complain about it?

I think we all know who has the biggest dick in the relationship. It's your brother man, go for three hours she will have to get the fuck over it. It's three hours, boo-fucking-hoo.

 

[potentialeight]

Just get over it. She's never going to let you go and you dont have the balls to tell her your going. It doesnt even pay to talk about it anymore because she knows your a pussy and will cave in and do what she wants. She's going to wind up fucking some other guy because of this type of issue,

Women are like children you need to be firm but fair with them, and they certainly need to be told, not asked

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