Hey man, first off, just wanna say good job for at least having the balls to get this girl's number and pursue it. Don't be afraid to fail and make mistakes, a lot of guys pretend like they have game and I can confidently say that 9/10 guys can't walk into a bar full of strangers and get a girl's number via cold approach. The biggest takeaway/mistake is that you're focusing on 1 girl, I think the word "pick up artist" is deceiving, emphasis on the artist part, but it somewhat implies that you have super human powers and can get the girl under any circumstance which is NOT true, being a good PUA means working your #'s well. Make 20 approaches, get 10 #'s, get 4-5 dates to convert, and make 1 "sale" so to speak. So the first thing I would encourage you to do is to DO MORE APPROACHES and get more numbers so you can gain more experience. Some basic mistakes below:
PwnNoobs;1163339]So I met this chick, she was by far the prettiest girl I have met this month and in person things were swell. I mean I started fliting with her and she flirted back and she ended up telling me I was going to have to chase her for like 3 months because she wanted to see if I was really interested, I said okay and I pretty much left. So I sent her a message the first day and this is practically how it went. (I met her this past Friday)
(FRIDAY)
Me:So how long will I have to chase you before I can take you to dinner?
Try to avoid words like "dinner" or "date". It sets up all these unnecessary expectations and really puts her on the spot. Simply ask her to "hang out" or just something more casual. From the first point of contact your goal is to get her to meet up with you again so you can buy yourself more game time. Keep things casual to begin with and don't burn your lead too early on in the interacation
Me: well I hope that I dont have to wait three months before I take you out to dinner...but if I have to I will
Per 40 year old virgin, don't put the pussy on the pedastal. That's bullshit, don't treat her like a princess and act like she's better than you. When girls say they want a "challenge" what they really mean is that they want a guy that's higher value than they are (usually in a social sense, but hey, there's a little gold digger in every girl out there) and it's that inherent value discrepancy that creates a challenge. Never BEG a girl for a date, as arrogant as it sounds, she should be the one who's appreciative of YOUR time.
Girl: awwwww
Me:
Me: (6 hours later) what are you up to tonight?
Girl: no response
Saturday
Me: have a nice day at work
Girl: thank you
Me: how was your day sweetheart?
Girl:no response
Sunday: I did not text her nor did she text me
Careful w/ the questions, girls hate being "interviewed". I know it's tempting since you don't know the girl and the easiest to evoke a response is with a question.
Monday:
Me: Hope you have a great day
Girl: no response
Me ten hours later) so is this whole ignoring my messages part of the me chasing you part, not that I mind being ignored and all, I just dont want to bother you
Me: and I did not say that to be rude in any way, I just dont want to bother you
Girl:no reply
Ick, I really didn't like that last part, remember, you JUST met this girl, there's NO reason to be apologetic to her. "I just dont want to bother you", again putting her on a pedastal.
OP SAVE ME WHAT SHOULD I DO NOW HOW DO I PICK HER UP????
Having done sales for 3+ years, I've learned that you have your biggest leverage with your prospect when you're on the phone TALKING to them or even better, TALKING to them in person. 90% of what's conveyed is your subcommuncation (tonality, body language, microexpressions) and only 10% is the words themselves. You lose a LOT of punch by trying to communicate via text message and that's no way to "game" a girl. So, in a nutshell, what you should have done is gotten her out on a second date and worked it from there instead of trying to "game" her via text message.
Also.... as with IM, you will need to learn how to "macro manage" your dating life. The reason most men fail with women is because they don't take it seriously. Back in college, I went out MAYBE once a week and when I did go out, I was too pussy to approach. Fast forward to after the show, I was making 10-20 approaches a night, 7 days a week. I approached more girls in a night than I did in a year back in college. You combine that with top notch guidance and documenting my results, it's only inevitable that I got better. Just ask yourself, if you treated job like you treated your dating life, how well would it do?
In anycase, I really hope this helps, I wouldn't sweat the "small details" too much with this interaction. What I would focus on is how you can CONSISTENTLY generate leads, the biggest hump for most guys is just getting over approach anxiety =P